The only thing that separates being called creepy from being smooth is your level of attractiveness

[Benefited]

Its not about looking ugly,its about how dangerous you look or feel. Alot of that has to do with the vibe that you give off. If you come at a woman upbeat,positive you might get turned down for being unnatractive to her,but won't get the creepy tag. You get the creepy tag when your vibe is weird,and you are giving off a threatning energy that makes a woman scared to say no,or feel rape could be imminent if you two were alone.

Women write most dudes off as unnatractive but just harmlessly thirsty. If you've been called a creep you need to reexamine your approach or the things you said,your aggression level,your energy,failure to read signals. It may be valid or it may be a woman being extra or stereotypes.

corny non black men will be considered less creepy than black men overall,because they are seen as always being corny yet harmless as thats how they are portrayed by media. Black men being corny with women is automatically seen as weird because we are portrayed as always cool,and portrayed as threatning.

even black women will usually think a weird white boy flirting with them is hilarious and cute, more than it being creepy. Plus they've obviously had more threatning experiences with black men as thats who they've dealt with more.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So many of you feel like creepy has become a catchphrase for socially awkward chicks who don't know how to communicate...?

LMAO! That's hilarious b/c I actually know some females this would fit. But they don't just call dudes creepy. They also call them irritating, overbearing, arrogant...

But see those chicks ironically aren't even talking about real dudes. They are talking about imaginary scenarios in their heads. You think I'm lying but I know chicks who walk around ready to interpret ANY INTERACTION WITH THE MALE GENDER AS SEXUAL ASSAULT.

That's attention whoring IMO and that's different from a lack of attraction and even worse genuine creepiness.

So one level is a lack of attraction. When there is a lack of attraction physically to someone, nothing they do can do anything for you. You don't care how nice they are or kind they are. They just don't cut it. Men seem to get this for themselves b/c if a chick makes your dikk limp, I'm pretty sure you don't give a damn if she volunteers at the animal shelter or makes straight As, right?

But like @Mac Brown was saying, ya'll are kinda socialized to persist or woo in spite of a lack of attraction b/c some women take into account other attributes. I guess the tricky part is knowing which women do and which women don't so you don't play urself. And you can go into the creepy dimension if you persist in strange or weird actions in spite of common clues she isn't interested.

The other level of creepiness, however, is actions that are creepy no matter WHO does them. Some shyt is just so weird that not even the sexiest dude or chick could pull them off. They just take you to a different mental space. Like didn't some of ya'll do a meet up and say there was a dude touching chicks' faces? I wouldnt care if it was Idris Elba, Jason Mamoa, or that dude from American Gods. That shyt is creepy. The invasion of not just personal space but intimate person space (extremities), in a public setting, b/c u trying to what?! It's just fukking weird.

So there is a difference between overzealous persistence in spite of a person not returning affections vs. actions so weird that they negate even an attractive person's charm. Ya'll ain't never met a fine chick that did some shyt that made you go from to .
Different levels and you don't wanna be in any dimension of that type of creep factor.

 

[King Khufu]

If a girl calls you a creep or saying you’re being creepy it’s cause she think you ugly.



I know, I know, I know, this is already common knowledge on the coli

To a point yes, and no.

IT could be the swagger of the day. If you came out bad vibes looking rough wrinkled up shirt stuff like that a chick might go nah he iight but nah he aint right
but come out with a fresh line up crispy tee and all that shyt she might reconsider thinking she was tripping this whole time.
Perspective is a mf

 

[King Khufu]

@Booksnrain is absolutely correct. It is definitely a individual choice and their perspective. Some things that are creepy are just personal tweaks they don't like in people which kills potential attraction, sometimes it's looks, and sometimes as some cases it's from the person behavior actually being creepy.

The problem most dudes face including myself, is when a chick says it, she doesn't say which reason behind it most times just that "creep" word tossed in expecting the dude to back off. I realize it's just easy to fit any "unattractive mold" when she don't feel you like that and finds any reason to distance herself from you.

I know as a younger dude who was kind of soft for a second about it when I got curved. I thought I was tripping like daym I'm fukking up I must not be doing something right if she not into me like that. Then I realize it's just not personal when it's just preference. I prefer to not be anyone's type. It makes it more rewarding for my ego when I land the fish filet on my plate. ;)

 

[AtomicUse]

Facts.

One of my best friends swore a first date was creepy and too forward because he held her hand while walking after dinner.

She went on another date with a new guy who put his arm around her waist AND told her to delete her Match profile because he was going to make her his and she thought it was sexy.

First dude had a really short neck and decent job. Second dude is very attractive and VP of a bank.

Attractive bank VP on match.com.

Kill-count must be in the hundreds just off that one site alone, not even counting real life.

 

[Caligula]

I wish I had a time lapse video of this dude I grew up with. When he was 17-22, he got new girls weekly. He must have thrown up a 100 body count during that time.

He hit 23-26, pulling the same old lines and attitude, and the women slowed down.

He hit 27 and he became straight creeper status to women of ANY age. Girls I knew from 18-40 were like "your boy is creepy AF, keep him away from me."

30 and he was someone you just didn't hang around with any more. Found himself some single mom and wifed her up since he knew the ride was over.

The transformation wasn't that he suddenly got ugly, it was something else entirely and I wish I could study it.

This is what I want to talk about.

Whoever it was that said he got spoiled, was closest IMO.

I think he got used to not having to try so hard at first and it made him cocky, and women let a lot of things go because he was young and fun.

As he got older, the cockiness wore more like immaturity, and he could sense something was repelling women but he couldn't see what it was, so he overcompensates with more cockiness since that's now the only way he knows how to deal with women, and it just worsens as the years go by.

 

[ThaRealness]

I get away with more than I should

Both on and off coli



Being kinda decent looking help but I do think its more to it.


But like @BaggerofTea says, its all about awareness and energy. Lotta women can sense my aloof and humorous energy in stuff I say, compared to somebody on some legit kent shyt that just oozes bitterness and weirdness.

Yeah. Women love that aloofness. No cap

 

[010101]

thirst is repulsive

what you chase will run

learn some

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