The Normalization of Violence Against Black Women

[Red Shield]

Muslim Bushido was right. Black males have always dog the shyt out of black women throughout history (hence our attitudes towards them.) She predicted that violence against us perpepuated by black males would be normalized when access to other mens' women became available. We already can see they don't give a shyt about our lives nor our concerns. And will ride with other races(men and women) to hurt us. Lets be honest black males don't see value in us because we are not white. I see it daily irl. No wonder our elders always said never depend on black males. Black women better wake up right now seriously!!! Black males kill black women/girls AND their children every night in Memphis.

We don't have the complexion for protection nor support. shyt is concerning and black women are not taking it seriously enough.

 

[kayslay]

Read up on human development....trying to change millions of adults is futile.

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and begging rich white men for money is easier option?
you guys really fail to look at the bigger picture.

 

[Poitier]

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and begging rich white men for money is easier option?

beg?

 

[Will Ross]

Yes it can. This is a multi-layer problem.Both the Anti-Black/ anti Black women culture and poverty in our community needs to be addressed.
How can you claim its a simple poverty problem while acknowledging that black men with money continue the same culture?
Its been noted that men of means treat women just as bad if not worst in some cases.
Im not talking about anyone elses culture only my own.
how can you discuss building wealth if Black people don't trust each other?

How can we discuss the issue of black women won't admit to theirs?

 

[Red Shield]

We have to organize and force the cacs with the money to give it to us or else but we can't do that if we are fighting for less important things or playing victim olympics.

white guy: or else what

That shyt ain't happenin Poitier..

 

[Red Shield]

Read up on human development....trying to change millions of adults is futile.

Poitier is right tho.. past a certain age, you ain't changin someone with serious incentives. People once they hit a certain age will be set in their ways.

 

[Poitier]

white guy: or else what

Why would I divulge that on The Coli

 

[Sam Davison]

The violence against ANYONE Black has got to stop. Male or female, none is more important than the other. When we hear of such shyt we should be on it like white on rice. Period.

 

[Red Shield]

Why would I divulge that on The Coli

stop selling wolf tickets

 

[kayslay]

How can we discuss the issue of black women won't admit to theirs?

ADMIT TO WHAT?

 

[agnosticlady]

How can we discuss the issue of black women won't admit to theirs?

This....Personally I see nothing wrong with discussing domestic violence within black lives. My only problem is that it is a very one sided myopic view. Whenever I speak of the fact that there are black women that willingly enter relationships with certain men knowing fully well that he is not worthy of being in their life due to his actions it is shut down. Yes there are cases where a woman can date a man, enter a relationship with a man, or marry a man and he does a completely 360.Some women go on to willingly have kids with the man that is abusing them. Key word : willingly, so I don not want to see anything about rape or a man changing that is a different story. I have seen it before. At the same time there are a good number of women who willingly enter a mans life knowing that he is not a good man that will treat them with the utmost respect. In addition to that, a lot of people do not talk about what takes place on both ends. For instance, a woman can be the agitator and verbally/emotionally abusive in the relationship. So when are we going to touch on the fact that there is a good number of verbally abusive black women? One day her man snaps and knocks her upside the head. That counts as domestic violence. People will say he should have never hit her. Do I think that he should hit her? Nope....but why are we ignoring the fact that the woman was the instigator, and kept provoking the guy? I have seen numerous cases of black women talking down at the man that they are with without hesitation.
Here is an article written by a black woman who was in an abusive relationship

"When I met him, I was only 16 years old. He was 20 and spotted me like a hawk waiting for its prey. After I graduated from high school, he talked me out of going away to college, and by the time I was 19, we were married. When I was 21, I gave birth to his third child. The older two were little girls he had abandoned along with their mothers. He had abused his exes. Mentally and physically.


I knew this, but somehow I thought I would be different -- that I wouldn't piss him off the way they had. I thought I was so special to him that there was no way he would ever hurt me the way he had hurt other women. (So many damn red flags. Why would you stay with someone like that for 12 years?! This woman clearly made the decision to be with a man that has absolutely no respect for her. She is the reason behind why she was in a relationship with an abusive man. ) By the time I was 33, I had divorced him, had another child with another man, had at least three or four brushes with death -- including acute pancreatitis and breast cancer -- and had a trail of emotional baggage that was long enough to circle the entire globe. But I was alive and had escaped the abuse.

More important, I found a way to help myself and others. I began this journey as a victim but ended up a victor.

Domestic violence can be physical, psychological, sexual or financial. I have experienced all but the latter. According to the American Bar Association, African-American women ages 20-24 experience significantly more domestic violence than white women in the same age group, and approximately 40 percent of black women report coercive sexual contact by age 18. The No. 1 killer of African-American women ages 15-25 is homicide at the hands of a current or former intimate partner."

Here is the rest of the article to read
Domestic Violence and Black Women: One Writer Shares Her Story