Essential The Mental Health Thread

[Bomberman]

I'm reading these three books I credit with my paradigm shift/shifting. I feel like a different person. Some of the books stress the importance of having a purpose and how to find one. Hooked On Games stresses how addiction to video games and the internet exposes that there's a lack of purpose in your life. I know for certain I'll be on the internet especially sites like message boards less. I also have zero intentions of playing video games anymore.

Start with this one, I just finished it two days ago. Rarely do I finish any book in a day, but this one I did. It's a very quick read:

I'm currently reading these next two, almost done with Hooked On Games:
It's not just for video games, but sites like message boards, facebook, reddit etc. It explains how video games and places on the internet can be a place for repeated short term gratification (whether it's challenges, approval from others, likes, daps, etc. that stuff is what keeps you addicted) and almost always run the danger of there being nothing to show for after putting major hours/days/months/years into it. The guy that wrote it is a doctor who has quite a history of being a game addict.

This author also has another great book I'm reading at the minute, but I think this one is better written and easier to follow. It's about embracing your vulnerability to do things you want to do and stand up for the life you want. It's putting yourself out there. I'll eventually go back to the other book after this one:

Here's the book I'll go back to, it revolves around dealing with shame:

Good luck brehs.

 

[user1]

yea the Vita Optimum D3 with 5000iu's and 360 softgels. Amazon has em for cheap. Was using the NOW brand fore I ran out but only had 240 servings and not much cheaper. They're basically all the same though

By any chance can you recommend a good daily vitamin. I used to try centrum crap they sell in stores but they never did much. I tried liquid vitamins (Life Source) but they are kinda expensive. Do you know of any others? I currently take b12 and vit D from Premier Research Labs.

 

[user1]

I've really been feeling like killing myself today.
I lost my meds almost two weeks ago and they were the only thing keeping me intact.

All these fukking a$$holes on here will finally get their wish...Although I wish I could kill their bytch asses.

I'm 30 years old and just a fukking failure.
Never had a relationship that lasted more than three months.
Never had a job that lasted more than four.
Never made more than $5,000 on my own in a year.
Thought this last job would be awesome but low and behold I quit and it didn't even last a week.
Deep down inside I know all of these coli a$$holes use me as leverage to feel better about their lives and would laugh if they knew how I was really living.
I've tried committing suicide before and failed cause I knew my family would never get over it.

But honestly, being black, african, West Indian, male in this hellish country I'll feel like I'll never be happy.

I can't relate to many people here...I'm just alone all the time and frankly it's becoming a burden on itself.

I give up on life, people, and this nightmarish society.
Frankly if anybody can suggest the most painless method of killing myself I'll rep you.

Bro, I value you. You ARE important. And I mean that sincerely.

 

[user1]

a high fat, moderate protein and low-carb diet...its method of tricking your body into burning fat instead of carbs.

Quick lesson: your body's preferred source of energy is its stored carbohydrates...once it burns up the carbs it goes to your fat stores (you also lose a lot of water weight due to water retention caused by carbs)...this keto diet kinda skips the first step and goes straight for the fat.

Thank you. Imma do further research. I box and need good calories but I absolutely hate eating oatmeal every morning even though it's "good" for me. And I do want to cut carbs. This is helpful

 

[Hybrinetics]

By any chance can you recommend a good daily vitamin. I used to try centrum crap they sell in stores but they never did much. I tried liquid vitamins (Life Source) but they are kinda expensive. Do you know of any others? I currently take b12 and vit D from Premier Research Labs.

I take Source Naturals Life Force Multiple. I got the one from amazon thats 20 bucks but the serving size is 4 capsules, whereas if you got it from vitaminshoppe its 52 bucks but the serving size is 2 capsules for the same vitamin ratio, both have 180 capsules. I wasnt finna pay 52 bucks for vitamins though. I never really took a multi before this one but I like it a lot

 

[user1]

i have a smorgasbord of mental health issues and haven't had insurance for the past three years so i can't see anybody about it...music is pretty much the only thing saving me right now...

I was here a year ago. Medical insurance is so freaking valuable. I wish there really was a free way to make it available to people because it is sorely needed in this sick society.

 

[HoloGraphic]

I can't deal with this shyt anymore. People disgust me.
I'm really just thinking about offing myself today cause I don't want to be anymore of a failure then I already am. And this is no bullshyt either. This existence is a fukking nightmare.

We all in this together breh. People on this board got it just as bad as you. The fact that you can verbalize your pain means you can help others. Which is probably exactly what you need to do.

You let it to Us not to off yourself. The fact that you have survived this long means somethung. There are people who need You.

 

[user1]

How does meditation work exactly

It depends. You can do the quiet meditation to "quiet" your mind and just let thoughts pass and not react to them but this can be hard if you have never done it.

The best way that I started was with just focused breathing. Counting in breaths to 5 seconds, hold for 3 secs, and release for 5 seconds. You can increase the number as you get better. That helps to get your focus/balance/patience up and you can move on from there. I don't put time limits on my meditations and just do it until I feel like I need to get up, especially when first starting. I also tend to free write my thoughts after cause it helps to clear my mind.

For me sometimes guided meditation is useful (i guess searching youtube to start for yourself) or using sounds like the ocean or heartbeat recordings worked for me. I also have a good grasp of my imagery/imagination and have created safe places or scenes that I can go to to help me relax. Honestly this shyt is work and has taken me years of practice to get where I am and I still get depressed/anxious .

The most advanced I've done is visualizing traumatic experiences to help clear emotional blocks. Those have had serious fall outs from weeks to months sometimes. So I wouldn't recommend just jumping into that unless you feel stable enough/comfortable to handle it. I generally use crystals with these cause they help ease the pain and move energy. If you are into that kind of stuff anyways .

 

[user1]

Yeah change is the only constant...the only thing I have control over is how I respond to situations I'm put in, everything else is beyond my control and therefore is nothing I stress out about. Well, that's easier said than done lol. Once I can truly accept that mindset, I think everything else in life will fall in place.

As far as the bold, yeah I personally kinda hate when people tell me that because it makes me feel as though I'm not supposed to be stressed over anything..or my feelings are invalid because I'm alive and healthy...95% of the time its not a matter of feeling ungrateful on some 1st world problem shyt but rather just trying to make sense out of the constant bullshyt that I have to deal with in life. To add I don't have anyone to talk about my shyt to so coping, internalizing and rationalizing why I'm deling with shyt is the hardest part of life for me. The only catharsis I have is working out and even then its like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound...only temporary.


Something so basic sounds so complex

I so relate to this statement. It's why I sometimes don't like telling people what's wrong because some people come with that "well think of people in blah blah blah." I'm like . That doesn't make my problems any less real or valuable. I'm still hurting at the end of the day.

 

[iBrowse]

Thank you. Imma do further research. I box and need good calories but I absolutely hate eating oatmeal every morning even though it's "good" for me. And I do want to cut carbs. This is helpful

You need to post in the gym forum with the rest of us

And you use crystals


Edit: that bit about using tramautic experiences to clear emotional blocks has me intrigued

I think that I've heard of it before.

 

[Truth200]

I I generally use crystals with these cause they help ease the pain and move energy. If you are into that kind of stuff anyways .

What type of crystals?

 

[user1]

You need to post in the gym forum with the rest of us

And you use crystals


Edit: that bit about using tramautic experiences to clear emotional blocks has me intrigued

I think that I've heard of it before.

Never ventured to that forum. Will give it a try.

And I'm willing to share on the traumatic experiences part. If you are interested. No shame in my game. Anymore that is

 

[Truth200]

I can't deal with this shyt anymore. People disgust me.
I'm really just thinking about offing myself today cause I don't want to be anymore of a failure then I already am. And this is no bullshyt either. This existence is a fukking nightmare.

Breh if your in the Northeast this is the worst most depressing winter we ever had please hold on until spring 5-6 more weeks.

 

[Truth200]

I'm sick and tired of reading about how this coli nikka is making this much money and how they have mad dimes and how how they travel while I'm still broke at 30 and trying to get my life off the ground after graduating with this worthless degree while they are years younger than me...

Please don't buy into that bullshyt people who really live that life don't have time to talk about it on hip hop forums.

Everybody dies one day and none of that materialist shyt means anything then.

 

[user1]

What type of crystals?

It really depends. On days when I'm doing something that makes me nervous (like a job interview for example) I will wear a blue calcite necklace or rub a stone in my hand while talking. It helps to wear them for a longer period before or after, depending on what you want to use them for, because it kind of "builds" up a balancing effect on your subtle energies. I know this shyt can sound fru fru but it works for me . Calcite can have a calming effect for me when I use it for longer periods of time. And some crystals I can only wear for a few hours or days or I feel out of wack and too much "stuff" is brought to the surface to deal with at once.

I wear a pink quartz for compassion/love of others and self when I am having really down days or just need to find a positive mental approach. I wear this one often cause it helps me deal with life on life's terms with a much more compassionate outlook.

I use green to attract love/abundance and to clear heart ache and pain (heart chakra-self love or of others). I have used the mixture of peridot, unakite and rhodonite on my chest/heart to clear some major hate/pain I felt for my dad and how his alcoholism/mental abuse affected my childhood. I laid on the floor in mediation one afternoon and broke down crying for an hour and released a lot of rage. It started me on a really serious healing journey and now I actually have a decent relationship and understanding with my father. It helped transform my outlook on a lot of things.

I used obsidian (black) and hematite (silver/black) to ground myself when I'm really anxious. I use them sparingly though because I'm really sensitive to both and obsidian acts really fast and can bring up some really deep stuff really quickly. I have to be ready to deal with whatever, whenever it happens when using both of those.

Basically to start off, different colors relate and represent to different uses of the stones and what their vibrations will give off. To go deeper they also relate to chakras (energy centers) in your body. I have red, green, pink, clear, black, purple, brown, gold, blue and some stones with mixtures of colors.

I can refer you to some books I used to help me get started and that I still reference. I'm really big on trying to heal thy self at all costs but I understand western/eastern medicine is helpful at times too.

I would also advise using one crystal for a while to "see" or "feel" what affect it has on you and what works best. Kinda like taking one pill to see its affects first before adding more.

I wrote a lot but over the years these things have really helped me. I hope that helps.

edit: @Fonsworth I think this related to your post and you might be interested.