true. i wouldnt want to up and dip because of that.Because you tell someone to take a backseat to someone else's needs while it affects their ego, their goals and what not. They're not gonna want to do that and if they do commit it's after a long thought process. That should explain the magnitude of the type of decision making we are talking about.
Like the whole leaving a woman over her not having kids. A lot of people's goals are to have children. If your partner can't have kids and you leave them because of that because you rightfully want that in your life, can you really say you genuinely love them through sickness and health? The moment you make that decision you are putting your wants and needs over your partners.
But remember you aren't wrong for putting yourself first. It's considered smart. Because you are taking care of yourself. Hence why genuine love is "stupid".
yet if someone left me i couldnt do nothing but