well for 1 we live in a society that tells men lies and BS about what love is...what marriage is...and what being a man is. When speaking realisticly on being a father sadly we have to first address the BS and myths. Being a dad is not like how it appears on tv......in reality u have guys dealing with child support.....Child support is a issue a lot of men have to deal with....Its the ultimate reality check because u cant just pray child support payments away.
Here's something all fathers need to focus on.....Your kid is watching everything u do.....even your bad habits and they will hold onto those images for years. You have to watch how u act around ya kid.....its like being around a new girl only u have to have ya game face on 24 /7 because your kid will remember your contradictions and flaws. The other day my son brought up how I let him watch Scarface at 10 and how I allow him to play Saints Row and Grand Theft Auto and that it wasnt good. I then explained to him that I watched R rated movies and played violent games when i was his age and didnt see anything wrong with it as long as I acknowledge the situation and moniter his activities......But the fact that he said it like that kinda made me check myself.....am I wrong for allowing him to play violent video games and watching supervised R Rated movies? My moms threw away my NWA tapes but didnt say anything when that girl pulled out 3 tittys in the movie Total Recall. I remember being in the 7th Grade and the teachers allowing us to watch Boyz N The Hood and Lethal Weapon so whats the difference? ......These are questions i'm currently asking myself. One thing I am strict on is profanity in music....yet sometimes im a hypocrite because 1) i play it when i'm in my zone and he's around and 2) when trying to put my son onto classic hip hop albums from the 90's I allow him to listen to the curses.....This is the biggest conflict i'm dealing with right now as a parent.
This post reeks of insufficent daddying smh.