The desperation in women to get married from 25-30 is :wow:

[mamba]

I'm pretty sure that's not what he's saying and I'll add to what he meant.

My ex of 6 yrs was getting her master's degree and working a salary job as a general manager of a restaurant. Never in the previous 5yrs did she ever say she wanted to be a stay at home mother and just be a house wife. Once I graduated and started looking into jobs in the oil and gas industry her entire tune switched up. She went from "I can take care of myself" to "I don't want to do this anymore I see no problem being a stay at home wife and watching the kids."

I'm sitting here thinking "oh Hell no!!! Whose supposed to pay for your student loan debt of 85k you racked up?" I for damn sure am not gonna be paying for anybody's education. I didn't make you go get your master's degree.

But guess what? It's pretty much expected that me as her boy friend/future husband should have no problem paying her student loan debt

Exactly, breh. These women try to be slick with it.

They talk about their "money" and "degrees" as if it's something that's going to be of benefit to you in the long run. As if it's something they are bringing to the table to be shared.

No. YOUR money is to be shared and leveraged in supporting their desired lifestyle and servicing their debt.

 

[Yup]

Exactly, breh. These women try to be slick with it.

They talk about their "money" and "degrees" as if it's something that's going to be of benefit to you in the long run. As if it's something they are bringing to the table to be shared.

No. YOUR money is to be shared and leveraged in supporting their desired lifestyle and servicing their debt.

Those women are selfish...don't entertain them, simple .

 

[mamba]

Most people that I know both have debts that they consolidate and both parties work together to pay that off. Plus, finance should be discussed before and during marriage.

I plan on paying my debt off myself....I have seen my share of selfish people so I can understand that. I just don't know too many women who stay home and expect their spouses to pay off their loans.

Yes. Finances should definitely be discussed. It's a dealbreaker for me when I come across a non-doctor Black woman with more than $50K in debt.

A lot of these women out here--in addition to being obese, with b*stard children, etc.--are also carrying around serious baggage in the form of debt.

Yet, they also want me to look over that fact.

"Look at my degrees."

I see them. But, I also see that $XX,XXX debt you're carrying, fam. That sociology degree isn't going to pay that off anytime soon. And I damn sure ain't paying it.

 

[Yup]

Yes. Finances should definitely be discussed. It's a dealbreaker for me when I come across a non-doctor Black woman with more than $50K in debt.

A lot of these women out here--in addition to being obese, with b*stard children, etc.--are also carrying around serious baggage in the form of debt.

Yet, they also want me to look over that fact.

"Look at my degrees."

I see them. But, I also see that $XX,XXX debt you're carrying, fam.

Do you only talk about these bad women you interact with?

 

[mamba]

Do you only talk about these bad women you interact with?

No. I deal with a lot of solid women. But, as I've mentioned before, the number of good Black women is roughly equal to the number of good Black men.

A lot of the women in our community with an extreme sense of entitlement aren't really wife material, which is what leads to a lot of frustration on their part.

They need to be honest with themselves.

 

[Yup]

No. I deal with a lot of solid women. But, as I've mentioned before, the number of good Black women is roughly equal to the number of good Black men.

A lot of the women in our community with an extreme sense of entitlement aren't really wife material, which is what leads to a lot of frustration on their part.

They need to be honest with themselves.

Why don't you teach the guys on here how they can attract these good bw. In fact why not create a love connection?

It's a bit selfish on your part to meet all these wonderful BW but the only thread you make are of the Negative ones which you claim you don't deal with.

 

[Bless't]

I'll be honest...

I could sell the dream to ladies in the 27-33+ demographic in a heart beat by whispering a few sweet nothings and showing a couple signs of long term interest. They'd eat that shyt up in a heart beat. But I'm not that type. They're hard core looking though, be certain of that. I'm not saying all women of course but the ones I've come across are trying to be chose.



The 22-26 age range just out here having fun.

 

[iBrowse]

I'll be honest...

I could sell the dream to ladies in the 27-33+ demographic in a heart beat by whispering a few sweet nothings and showing a couple signs of long term interest. They'd eat that shyt up in a heart beat. But I'm not that type. They're hard core looking though, be certain of that. I'm not saying all women of course but the ones I've come across are trying to be chose.



The 22-26 age range just out here having fun.

I recently cut ties with a girl that wanted to start a family...she's my age 26...I even mentioned it to @CinnaSlim a while back. I decided to stop wasting her time and didn't want to string her along. Cinna was right

 

[mamba]

Why don't you teach the guys on here how they can attract these good bw. In fact why not create a love connection?

It's a bit selfish on your part to meet all these wonderful BW but the only thread you make are of the Negative ones which you claim you don't deal with.

I come across a number of sub-par women, too. But, they don't get to stick around too long.

 

[Yup]

I come across a number of sub-par women, too. But, they don't get to stick around too long.

But you only make threada about the subpar women, that's my point.

 

[mamba]

But you only make threada about the subpar women, that's my point.

The legit ones aren't the loudest voices in the community, talking about "Black male shortages" and other dumb shyt.

The sub-par chicks need to be addressed, which is why I address them.

Black women certainly aren't going to do it.

 

[Yup]

The legit ones aren't the loudest voices in the community, talking about "Black male shortages" and other dumb shyt.

You are not answering my question. Perhaps you are exchanging pm with posters...I don't know. But you like the same pepole blame myself or other female posters choose to focus on the bad ones because you know that it will get a reaction moreso than discussing the good ones, on here.

If dudes were honestly interested in meeting good quality women why not exchangin info on where they can meet them. Why can't you discuss how you have met them and what made them good quality.

I honestly believe, a lot of dudes are here are meeting their female doppelganger and aren't deserving of good women if they can only talk about crappy ones.

 

[mamba]

You are not answering my question. Perhaps you are exchanging pm with posters...I don't know. But you like the same pepole blame myself or other female posters choose to focus on the bad ones because you know that it will get a reaction moreso than discussing the good ones, on here.

If dudes were honestly interested in meeting good quality women why not exchangin info on where they can meet them. Why can't you discuss how you have met them and what made them good quality.

I honestly believe, a lot of dudes are here are meeting their female doppelganger and aren't deserving of good women if they can only talk about crappy ones.

Most good women gravitate to me by default. Some bad ones, too.

Most Coli nikkas don't have what I have going for myself, so I can't really give them a how-to on how to make it happen.

 

[Yup]

Most good women gravitate to me by default. Some bad ones, too.

Most Coli nikkas don't have what I have going for myself, so I can't really give them a how-to on how to make it happen.[/QUOTE]
But you can join them on women ain't ish brigade. If dudes like you claim to have so much going for yourself and successful with women were helping these brehs out, maybe that would be a catalyst for change .


I am starting to think men are as stingy or selfish as women when it comes to the relationship game. But perhaps you helping privately but it would be nice if you created these threadsites too though.

 

[PartyHeart]

I'm pretty sure that's not what he's saying and I'll add to what he meant.

My ex of 6 yrs was getting her master's degree and working a salary job as a general manager of a restaurant. Never in the previous 5yrs did she ever say she wanted to be a stay at home mother and just be a house wife. Once I graduated and started looking into jobs in the oil and gas industry her entire tune switched up. She went from "I can take care of myself" to "I don't want to do this anymore I see no problem being a stay at home wife and watching the kids."

I'm sitting here thinking "oh Hell no!!! Whose supposed to pay for your student loan debt of 85k you racked up?" I for damn sure am not gonna be paying for anybody's education. I didn't make you go get your master's degree.

But guess what? It's pretty much expected that me as her boy friend/future husband should have no problem paying her student loan debt

Was there every any expectation of you wanting her to submit to you, or follow your lead, or let you be the man?

If so, I dunno what you guys expect. Its almost as if you don't see women as human just like you. Why would someone who has worked just as much and as hard as you turn over all their power to you while continuing to work just as hard? It doesn't make any sense. Would YOU do that? If men are so hellbent on not helping women financially, which it seems most of you on this site are, you should be strong supporters of Black women's equality. But you're not. Therein lies the disconnect. You want women to consider themselves inferior or at very best secondary to you, while doing everything that you do plus more.

Not saying this applies to your situation, although it might, just speaking in general.