Unfortunately this is facts. Was raised under single motherhood and spent a good deal of my life listening to her self-centered feminist rants. My mom, like many women in their 20s, made an immature decision of what a man is based off of chidlish ideals and a wanting to reclaim herself from her own messed up childhood and parents. She wanted some rough neck "pro-black" hotep man and not a straight laced "boring" man with a college degree. Even my aunt is the same way. Any beach bum that can talk sweet about black empowerment, African pride, and especially his politically charged love of the black woman got her under her thumb. She will run away from a decent man like its the plague but run to any clown with a kufi on.
But I realized over time her feminism was more about escaping any accountability for her own poor decision of a man. Spent a great deal of my life wasting my fukking time listening to her crap. Trying everything not to be my (abusive, adultering) father, satisfy my mother by being a "nice guy," and actually believing all women are perfect, wonderful creatures who just want love and honesty and world peace, but men are getting in the way of their grace and intelligence. Had to learn the hard way in life women are very capable of being lieing cheating scumbags just as much as their male counterpart and there's a huge difference between being a nice person who lives respectably and being a total simp who has no boundaries, needs validation, accepts disrespect, always apologizes first, always trying harder, always prioritizes "being there" for others while neglecting what he wants, and let's people, including women, walk all over him.
Years of therapy taught me how to love MYSELF not seek to satisfy girls. And life, including sex and dating, has been good ever since. Real talk. Love you brehs.