The things that I have heard over the years from really attractive women about their inner lives and inter group dynamics are always somewhat shocking, insightful and maybe not horrifying, but something like that.
The pettiness and group conflict regarding attractiveness and how that it is weaponized in friend groups, like what guy liked what woman. I would hear these stories and just be shocked that they would spend any of their time thinking about things like that. Like those kinds of things take up zero space in my mind.
and in some cases, these are highly educated professional class women. I am far from the "average guy" like I read women's lit on gender issues, I can quote female scholars and writers, from a range of perspectives from Kaite Rophie to Amia Sirvinasian, to Roxanne Gay, to shyt like Susanna Moore, Annie Ernaux, Christine Emba (who you may want to check out) Redefining Sex is what I read
Doesn't mean I take every position they do, or even understand it, but it gives me perspective sometimes too far into the minds of academics, because day to day woman I know don't think the same.
BINGO!
Because, like I said, society doesn’t really value women based on our education. When you are older and need to show that you’ve done something with your life or need to provide for yourself, sure.
But, those professional women are being catty about each other’s looks because in the grand scheme of things society is catty about our looks. Despite their achievements, they know that if a woman with half their experience and twice the looks walks in the door, people will pay attention to her. That’s the experience of womanhood.
It’s a man’s world, and men like em young and pretty. If we didn’t interact with men at all it wouldn’t matter what other women look like.
Men are judged by status, women looks.
We get the raw deal ultimately when it comes to these dynamics.
Who is the female Donald Trump? The female Harvey Weinstein? Etc.
Cher is paying for a boy toy half her age, and Madonna does that too, but really…other than that, does society accept women throwing our money/status around to get what we want? Oprah doesn’t get to be as obnoxious as rich male celebs.
Women should strive to achieve great things simply because we deserve the right to pursue intellectual pursuits and control our lives, but society as a whole puts a priority on our age and looks because woman= baby factory.
I mean, look at the way ppl talked about Hilary Clinton during her presidential campaign VS Kamala. Even how they talked about Kamala vs Michelle Obama.
NOOOOO ONE attacked Kamala’s looks.
Trump even stated how beautiful one of her magazine covers was
Attacking a woman’s looks is always #1 but they didn’t dare try it because anyone with eyes can see she is beautiful AND intelligent.
This shyt is a mindfukk if you don’t know what the deal is, and most women don’t because people don’t break this shyt down.