Stop being the boring guy

[re'up]

I don't think much of anything of n these people or those kinds of dating guru advice, which tend to regard women as monolithic, which is not true at all

I'm down to spend three days in Miami, eat at the Gucci bistro in Beverly Hills, or fly to NY just to eat at a place I have reservations for. I probably do more of that than most people I know, regardless of gender, and adjusted for socioeconomics standards. And, yes that can be a selling point, but if it's genuine, as in I am going to to do this stuff anyway, I'm just extending an invite, it makes a lot more authentic than some kind of charade to attract women.

The other counter is I put in effort to do those things. You have to get the reservations, show up on time, dress for the occasion, I really did fly to NYC for a week to go to 11 Madison. Was like 5k at least! And I ended up going with someone who was already in NY, because no one I asked, could really step up.

A lot of people aren't willing/or able to make that effort, especially, and this is great insight I had to learn, for someone they aren't in a "real relationship" with. Because to them, THAT'S what matters. I would think, well, what are you dong tonight that's better than what I am inviting you to? And that is sometimes the wrong equation.

 

[Shadow King]

That's because that's what your mind is set on.

No, it is not.

 

[Shadow]

I love being "boring."

The thing is the people who really know me know how I actually am when they get close. This has changed as I've aged, but still.

Back in the day, when I wasn't there? "WHERE WERE YOU? EVERYBODY WAS ASKING ABOUT YOU! "

Which is funny, because 9 times out of 10 I'm just in the house reading, online or watching a movie. For me, being "boring" is only showing near 100 percent to those I'm really close to. I don't think any of us are actually 100 percent ourselves around everyone. You really can't be, you have to pull back a little. Some people think I'm serious. Many think I'm goofy. Some might say I'm depressing or always annoyed.

When you enjoy your own company you don't have to keep going on trips for pleasure or constantly going out to spend money. I like being myself and doing my own thing. It's worked for me.

 

[ColdSlither]

No, it is not.

So you're being contrarian for the sake of being contrarian then? You don't have to do something every single week. You're going to be home sometime watching Netflix, or you might have a job where you are working weekends. The video is also visually insinuating that you need to do some big baller stuff to keep your chick entertained. So I listed some simple shyt to do in between the times you're just enjoying each other's company.

 

[UpNext]

That's not what he's saying (even though the video looks that way). He's saying you should have something going on in life other than sitting on a couch. I'm surprised such a common sense statement gets so much push back.

It's because most people are TV watching, routine having adults with maybe a niche hobby people outside of that niche would find boring lol.

 

[Shadow]

When you're a naturally fun person you don't need to be around excitement.

When you're a boring person, you chase excitement.

 

[Kenny West]

Every drug dealer I know posts all day about ESPN topics, PlayStation and betting on Fanduel

We might know some of the same nikkas bruh Dudes raging to me about their parlays every week im just like give me my pack so I can go home...

 

[Roid Jones]

That's not what he's saying (even though the video looks that way). He's saying you should have something going on in life other than sitting on a couch. I'm surprised such a common sense statement gets so much push back.

You know how Coli dudes love to be contrarian and let's face it a lot of men don't want to make any effort when it comes to women, shyt even saying hello is cause for consternation

 

[Roid Jones]

What's wrong with just taking a woman out and just having a good time? Why does everything revolve around getting p*ssy?

Because most dudes' whole existence is driving by getting pvssy, they see women as sex objects only so that just having a good time you mention, to them must include sex

 

[SoSoSlick]

If you have to constantly entertain a chick for fear of her getting bored then you are basically on the clock to share that girl.
Bein in each others presence should always be enough. Of course do shyt together and make plans, but 100% of anything eventually gets old.

 

[Shadow King]

So you're being contrarian for the sake of being contrarian then? You don't have to do something every single week. You're going to be home sometime watching Netflix, or you might have a job where you are working weekends. The video is also visually insinuating that you need to do some big baller stuff to keep your chick entertained. So I listed some simple shyt to do in between the times you're just enjoying each other's company.

Nobody is being contrarian for the sake of being contrarian.

He's not wrong. You can't do stuff every week. You need down time. You can also still do simple shyt. Go to a comedy club. Find a cool bar you can be a regular at on Fridays or Saturdays. Take short weekend road trip. Go to a museum. Find some cool pop up shops. Say to her that over the next year the two of you are going to eat at all the establishments, along the stretch of highway the two of you always ride down. Make a game out of it. Even if you're a homebody, and your girl is a homebody, if you do this basic shyt she will fukking love you for taking her on at least some sort of adventure.

This is, once again, not a list of a man giving himself down time. The only caveat is you're likely speaking on a man already within the confines of a relationship lasting for the foreseeable future ramping up his social/date night activity. I'm speaking on single men who don't have anyone or who are trying to win a woman over being advised to be this socially active.

 

[Shadow King]

Because most dudes' whole existence is driving by getting pvssy, they see women as sex objects only so that just having a good time you mention, to them must include sex

 

[Wild self]

I don't clown those dudes. That's largely coming from the pandering to women side of the game. That side makes zero sense, same dudes that shame dudes for not getting p*ssy, will also shame dudes for passport bro-ing any other marginal dating strategy.

And men weren't chasing women because of a being single stigma, men want p*ssy. They were chasing p*ssy. So those men have tried every formula there is searching for a guaranteed method and there isn't one. Eventually they land on a redpill/mgtow channel that finally explains this shyt to them. Those guys have tried all this goofy "be exciting and be woman-friendly and pander" methodology and they still don't get results, because there is no guarantee. A woman will gladly let some simp fly her out to Fiji to ride jet-skis and not let him smash, then soon as they get back home she's smashing some dude that looks like Pete Davidson in a McDonalds parking lot. Aint no logic, it's all based on some woman's feelings.

The shadiest part is people like to keep dudes in the dark about that information. As you can see in this thread, nikkas get shamed for "giving up" aka they stop simping and go live their own lives and stop chasing some woman's validation.

I said this before, and I'll say it again: there are a lot of Crabs in a Barrel posters in TLR, that would love for you to fall behind and get nothing worthwhile in life. That includes keeping you in the dark about worthy info to improve your lives in all aspects.

 

[Blessings]

100% correct, although women shouldn't be the main motivation to do it. Enjoy life it's a lot of stuff to do other than work.

/this

 

[alpo]

Look

Just like many sisters many brothers live in this fantasy world as well

Turn to YouTube and watch and u see brothers crying about “ sisters don’t like me because I’m quiet , low key, not into clubs, partying, etc like Tyrone or Willy and I work 9 to 5”

Those the same dudes who want the IG looking chick with a bbl and redbone, when the same dude probably turned away the regular nerdy sister who’s just average looking but is just as quiet as them

Motherfukkers just need to stay in their lane