Spin Thread: Do “European Beauty Standards” effect Black Men?

[King]

Wale has mentioned multiple times that if he was light skin he would be more successful

Most black men that are considered heart throbs are light-skin, biracial or racially ambiguous


T.I.,Trey Songz, Chris Brown, Dave East, Drake, J. Cole, even miscellaneous nikkas like that dude T.I. Daughter dating Bandhunta izzy, to the new up and coming like NLE Choppa

Even from a historical perspective you have common, LL Cool J, Allen Iverson, Shemar Moore, Al B. Sure, Christopher Williams etc..



Lightskin nikkas are always labeled as “Pretty” or “Soft” and I’ve been told numerous times from multiple girls that they don’t date lightskin nikkas because of the perceived notion that they will cheat more than dark skin nikkas who will “treat them better” AKA worship them for being lightskin


Im dark skin myself and I’ve been told I’m a “pretty boy” but I’ve had a women say you are “handsome” not “pretty”and upon further inquiry she revealed “pretty” is reserved for lightskin nikkas with light eyes


Does this “European Beauty Standard” effect us brother’s the same way as it effects our women?

Yes.

Exactly, it’s a fetish and weak as hell.

I know a family of mixed women like this.

They only date the darkest men they can find then move like they’re ashamed when the kids come out with African features.

One of the kids is my sister’s goddaughter and my sister told me her friend wouldn’t hold her own daughter for 2 hours after she gave birth.

She pushed her out, looked at her, passed her to my sister then said, “I’m taking a nap.”

Similar thing happens here too in the US, but sometimes even on a deeper level. There are a few creole/boule families that legit breed lightskin women to catch athletes and entertainers of a certain complexion. They frequent certain circles and catch em while they’re in college. Heard it’s popular down in Louisiana. But you didn’t hear that from me tho I’m just some random dude making up shyt on thecoli

 

[Biscayne]

Exactly, it’s a fetish and weak as hell.

I know a family of mixed women like this.

They only date the darkest men they can find then move like they’re ashamed when the kids come out with African features.

One of the kids is my sister’s goddaughter and my sister told me her friend wouldn’t hold her own daughter for 2 hours after she gave birth.

She pushed her out, looked at her, passed her to my sister then said, “I’m taking a nap.”

Light skinned women really fetishize dark skinned brehs like that in the UK? Damn.

In the US it’s kinda different but similar. You have certain families that used keep it “within the skintone”. Like lights only dating other lights. But you also have light brights that fetishize dark skinned men, and you also have dark skinned women who are obsessed with light skinned men. You don’t see dark skinned women fetishizing light skinned men out there?

 

[King Poetic]

Wale is trash , that’s why he complaining

Ross eating hood off of music when he dropped

Wesley ate good in the 90s as well as others

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Light skinned women really fetishize dark skinned brehs like that in the UK? Damn.

In the US it’s kinda different but similar. You have certain families that used keep it “within the skintone”. Like lights only dating other lights. But you also have light brights that fetishize dark skinned men, and you also have dark skinned women who are obsessed with light skinned men. You don’t see dark skinned women fetishizing light skinned men out there?

No!

I have two brown-skinned girl cousins who only deal with light men (usually mixed raced) and that rarely lasts long because the men tend to leave them for someone lighter.

LS definitely stick to light or white girls.

Every other black woman is with a cac or fighting over a darker breh.

Brown and ds men run shyt over here when it comes to chicks and damn near every race of woman competes to get their attention.

It’s hilarious to witness because the men are OPENLY loyal to themselves

 

[Sensitive Christian Grey]

No!

I have two brown-skinned girl cousins who only deal with light men (usually mixed raced) and that rarely lasts long because the men tend to leave them for someone lighter.

LS definitely stick to light or white girls.

Every other black woman is with a car or fighting over a darker breh.

Brown and ds men run shyt over here when it comes to chicks and damn near every race of woman competes to get their attention.

It’s hilarious to witness because the men are OPENLY loyal to themselves

Is with a car?

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Is with a car?

Edited: *cac

 

[UserNameless]

Trey Songz and Allen Iverson are not "light skinn-ed" breh

These “new black” negroes wanna be in that light skin category so bad they’re trying to rewrite history

 

[Balla]

@Speaking Womanese

would you say any of the black women you know who are darker actually like brown skin and darker black men? or do they go after them because the light skin men go after light skin women?

 

[Speaking Womanese]

@Speaking Womanese

would you say any of the black women you know who are darker actually like brown skin and darker black men? or do they go after them because the light skin men go after light skin women?

Excellent question...

How do I answer this without sounding like I’m throwing them under the bus?

I feel it’s organic for the most part and other times it’s a lack of confidence thing.

“I didn’t think Jaden would like me so I went for Tyrone,” kinda thing.

Admittedly, I’ve noticed that the more those women deal with brehs with options the more jaded they get over time.

I think it’s frustration from seeing your counterparts having all this fun with all these different cultures and you’re stuck competing for their affections.

Europe worships low visceral fat so a slim/skinny brown woman will eat better than a thicker one as far as being taken out on dates etc.

Oh that’s another frustration, brehs only go on dates with women they know their friends will dap them for being with.

Every other chick is their secret shame.

 

[Balla]

Excellent question...

How do I answer this without sounding like I’m throwing them under the bus?

I feel it’s organic for the most part and other times it’s a lack of confidence thing.

“I didn’t think Jaden would like me so I went for Tyrone,” kinda thing.

Admittedly, I’ve noticed that the more those women deal with brehs with options the more jaded they get over time.

I think it’s frustration from seeing your counterparts having all this fun with all these different cultures and you’re stuck competing for their affections.

Europe worships low visceral fat so a slim/skinny brown woman will eat better than a thicker one as far as being taken out on dates etc.

Oh that’s another frustration, brehs only go on dates with women they know their friends will dap them for being with.

Every other chick is their secret shame.

Thanks for answering my question.

I don’t think I’ll ask a person this offline so I
had a couple more questions to ask you lol:


What you said about the light skin chicks getting upset their babies are dark took me by surprise as well.

Do you know anyone that’s light skin that isn’t like that and genuinely likes darker black men and wouldn’t mind having darker kids?

Also do you think there’s genuine love for darker skin bm as a whole and they aren’t just some fetish or second place prize that are settled for?

I feel there is nothing worse than getting with a woman that will secretly hate you or their child because of their hair or skin color. I hear about it and it’s sad.

It makes you wonder how many black women are out there that truly love themselves and that can look past the colorist shyt that gets pushed constantly.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

I can use myself as an example.

I’m light, my partner’s brown and our son is Tupac’s complexion.

I receive nothing but compliments for that child

My family are particular about weight and presentation, not complexion.

He’s the living image of my niece so it was nice when he was born because he’s her mini-me. The rest of my intermediate family are light.

I think most of the love dark-skinned men get is genuine because damn near everyone BUT dark-skinned men sees their potential.

It’s so frustrating

They’re the ONLY men who could have a pot to piss in, no window to throw it out of and STILL have haters

Black women are generationally tired lmao.