This reminds of angela yee
Spin: can you be attracted to a guy but the sex is wack?
- Thread starter Ms.CuriousCat
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Maybe your friend built the poor unsuspecting fellow up in her mind so much that when it came time to do the deed he wasn't able to match her wet dream. This is probably why she was underwhelmed. Men and Women in our generation tend to do that because we are "oversexed" imoOkay let me rephrase. Can you be attracted to someone, have chemistry, their pheromones are calling you out but when it comes down to it, can it still be a flop?
And if it is a flop can it be irrecoverably so? Like you married this person and you are stuck with bad sex for the rest of your life?
Sex and the City has taught me to expect more
InfinateOpulance
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You don't
You have to be patient and willing to teach, know what you want and articulate that, and a person has to be willing to learn
That said, I think sex is emphasized too much in American relationships considering American/Western women are spoiled when it comes to the bedroom.
I'm not understanding why you think woman are spoiled in the bedroom. Break it down for me like I'm slow.
In other non-Western parts of the world aka the majority of society, sex is way more dry, conservative and even more centered around the man getting his.
Yes, American men have a long ways to go as a whole in learning how to please our women so I'm not stating otherwise but just some context.
Ms.CuriousCat
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What makes it bad.please get to the pointWe are not mind readers
Neither am I
My friend is speaking in the general sense (she's a virgin). She's obviously attracted to the guy she's thinking of marrying but the thought has crossed her mind. She thinks it would be very bad luck to have waited so long and then...
What should I tell her?
She can do her due diligence to a certain level i.e. does she find him attractive, is he open minded generally? Presumably this minimises the chances but is it just blind luck?
Ms.CuriousCat
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So she should generally just have low expectations. Don't get disappointed by not expecting much in the first place.
Nah I'm not saying that. I'm just giving a possible reason why your girl might feel underwhelmed
Titties seemed like they were going to pop out at any moment lol
You don't
You have to be patient and willing to teach, know what you want and articulate that, and a person has to be willing to learn
That said, I think sex is emphasized too much in American relationships considering American/Western women are spoiled when it comes to the bedroom.
Meanwhile men want some virgin pornstar and if they aren't satisfied can cheat and it's justified.Okay.
Okay.
What does this have to do with the actual act of sex?
Ummm...everything.
What are you confused about?
A man who wants a woman who is freaky in the bedroom only proves my point about Western men being more liberal, no?
The virgin stuff is just insecurity but best believe in most of the world dudes are way more strict with female sexuality.
A man who wants a woman to be a freak is expecting too much too imo. Im sure most men want someone who will indulge in their fantasies, and most men's fantasy isn't missionary for 2 minutes (educated guess). I didn't quote you in saying that western men are more liberal which I agree with. Most western societies are liberal in general.
Porn has skewed everyone's vision of normal sex. Most people don't have realistic expectations.
seabreeze80
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Tell your "friend" to keep looking because it will never work out 