So there may be a custody battle brewing....

[TruStyle]

Just skimming thruough this thread. Splitting up the boys? That means she had kids from another person and you married her? Is that correct?

Shes gonna take you for your loot, just kiss your cash goodbye and hope you can survive.

No bigger L than marrying a woman with kids in my eyes. No matter what, those kids are always more important than you. She will always take their side and you gotta sit there and take it. Than your expected to get that other kid shyt, clothes, birthday gifts, xmas gifts. All that extra shyt for a kid thats not yours.

Good luck, but your gonna get got.

 

[HoLLaBaCK]

i'm seeing that more and more now. it's like she's mad at me because i have all my shyt together and ready to go for the January move and she has nothing accomplished yet. it's sad....

Sorry to say but that how it works breh. I mean just look at all these rich dudes that's going thru it right now. All that money...all that security and yet all those problems. If u giving money...they want more, u seeing your kids...u not seeing them enough, and if they can't find something they will create one!

It's a rarity that things run smoothly. That's normally if they feel they have the upper hand, but the minute they feel u got it here comes the problem. Anything could set it off, u get more money or u get a new bytch or u get a new place (which I guess is your scenario) and watch the fireworks start. I guarantee u if she was able to get a nice fly place in the area she wanted...u wouldn't have had that conversation.

 

[Steve Piffler]

Just skimming thruough this thread. Splitting up the boys? That means she had kids from another person and you married her? Is that correct?

Shes gonna take you for your loot, just kiss your cash goodbye and hope you can survive.

No bigger L than marrying a woman with kids in my eyes. No matter what, those kids are always more important than you. She will always take their side and you gotta sit there and take it. Than your expected to get that other kid shyt, clothes, birthday gifts, xmas gifts. All that extra shyt for a kid thats not yours.

Good luck, but your gonna get got.

she had a 1 year old when i met her. he will be 15 in 2 weeks.....

and i'm NOT gonna get got. ya'll really need to stop with the "terrified of child support" posts. but you are right about the kid tho. not a good idea to entertain a chick with children. no matter how good you treat the lil nikka, it's never enough. hell, that holds true with your own child too....

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

thank god i have no kids

 

[Malta]

Damn, she sounds angry as hell, never a good situation. She's about to run into the court room like -

 

[Roaden Polynice]

I'd honestly just walk away. From everything

Move (not out of state obviously cos you have a job), change phone numbers, cut off all communication. Go incommunicado for 5 years, stack bread.

Hey, you can't help all nikkas

If your son tries to get buck 15 years down the road on some Antwone Fisher shyt just be like, "Blame your mum dawg. I tried to help y'all nikkas but she wasn't having it "

 

[Lavish]

you need to step your argument game up

first and only question i would of asked is "why did you call me if you dont want my help?"

thats all you had to ask breh

that will atleast let her evaluate wtf she just said

then you just wait for her to respond.

your wife sounds like an idiot tho...goodluck to you

 

[Steve Piffler]

I'd honestly just walk away. From everything

Move (not out of state obviously cos you have a job), change phone numbers, cut off all communication. Go incommunicado for 5 years, stack bread.

Hey, you can't help all nikkas

If your son tries to get buck 15 years down the road on some Antwone Fisher shyt just be like, "Blame your mum dawg. I tried to help y'all nikkas but she wasn't having it "

can't do that to my boy. i'll fight to the death for him......

 

[Sharp]

I've been thru it.

You're not going to be able to reason with her. Get a lawyer. You're going to have to get the courts involved.

Do not agitate her. Most women going thru divorce/separation are emotional and reckless in the beginning and will do whatever it takes to make you miserable, even if she gets destroyed in the process.

But talk to your children and keep them in the loop. They need to know exactly what's going on. Woman have ways of turning your children against you, especially if they are the custodial guardian.

Don't have these conversations with her. Make sure you establish your custody rights via the court, and then you and her can discuss any changes once she calms down.

 

[Steve Piffler]

you need to step your argument game up

first and only question i would of asked is "why did you call me if you dont want my help?"

thats all you had to ask breh

that will atleast let her evaluate wtf she just said

then you just wait for her to respond.

your wife sounds like an idiot tho...goodluck to you

i'm surprised that she is stooping to the typical "baby mama" type arguments. she's not like that....or at least i thought she wasnt....

 

[LeVraiPapi]

she doesn't. but I do....so i don't see the problem. i only want what's best for my son. if she can handle it, then i'm not opposed to him staying with her and paying child support. not at all. i just don't want my son to have to suffer just because we couldn't stay married. it's not fair to him. all i'm saying is that he can stay with me until she gets everything together. then he can go with her. am i missing something? what did i say that was unreasonable?

didn't you say she making 125k+. How can she not be able to support the kids ? DIdn't you say you make about the same ?

 

[Rominati]

Steve Piff went thru that so hopefully we don't have to go thru that

 

[Roaden Polynice]

can't do that to my boy. i'll fight to the death for him......

Yes.

But this is a perfect opportunity to show your son you're the good guy in this position and seize the moral high ground.

By blaming the mother for barring you from taking care of him, it in turn makes him resent the mother, if all goes well, for your benefit.

It's a psychological smear campaign against the mother.

Indeed the victory may be pyrrhic in nature, but in the battle of family and custody, every battle must be fought tooth and nail. You must fight for those inches.

Divorces are wars of attrition undertaken using machiavellian techniques, passive aggressiveness and sheer brute force (which you've already displayed, to quite some effect.)

Or you could just pay checks every month. The choice is yours.

 

[verbalkint]

She want you to kick in on that rent. That much seems pretty clear to me.

 

[Steve Piffler]

didn't you say she making 125k+. How can she not be able to support the kids ? DIdn't you say you make about the same ?

hell naw!!!! i never said that!!! i make 72k a year and she makes around 40k. she can support the kids, but she wants to stay in the area that we live in now, but she can't on her salary. even with child support.