So I Might Become A Stepdad Soon

[Luke Cage]

My uncle was a stepfather for three different women's kids. Currently married to a woman with no kids but still has a relationship with the stepkids.

never asked him how he feels about it though.

Sorry i literally contributed nothing with this comment

 

[concise]

How old is this kid?

 

[raul04]

Step sons are cool, that way you don't have to beat your own children.

that response

 

[Collateral]

Don’t fukking do it. Especially at only 30 years wtf are you doing breh

 

[MMA]

You just met the son and already thinking about marriage again?

Why do man and woman consistently plan one side of a relationship so fast before, it even blossom to that.
Have you even given the time with the kid before you are ready to take the responsibilities of another man on a day to day basis?

 

[Mindfield333]

I bet if OP mentioned the fact that lil breh is already a gifted hooper and very tall for his age a lot ofof y'a would change your tune

 

[Solano707]

I'm legit nervous, brehs.

I'm 30 with no kids. Been dating this girl from Chicago for a while. Just hung out with her & her son for the first time. His father's not around and is an alcoholic Hotep-type. :mjlolhairfade:

Lil breh is cool, but he's mad sarcastic to his mom, almost to the point being disrespectful.

I know if I talked to my momma like he does, I wouldn't have a face

I've been married before, but idk if I'm ready to get married again, let alone step into a father's role.

Thoughts?

I'm in the same exact spot bro. Been divorced for almsot three years now and dating single mother.... Right now, no shyt, I'm getting ready to cancel her ass. Too much drama and insecurities. To top it off, I need to learn and be happy by myself, do things by myself and just relax. I'm 37. I need to experience life without being tied down again. She's a good woman, but the time is not right for me. I'm making too much money to have to share it again.

I'm good breh, enjoy.

 

[The5thLetter]

I believe ppl w kids should date ppl w kids, but do u
How old is the woman and how old is her son? If he's a rude little shyt just kno u won't b able to discipline him cuz ur not his daddy. Sounds like a headache waiting to happen

 

[staticshock]

I'm legit nervous, brehs.

I'm 30 with no kids. Been dating this girl from Chicago for a while. Just hung out with her & her son for the first time. His father's not around and is an alcoholic Hotep-type. :mjlolhairfade:

Lil breh is cool, but he's mad sarcastic to his mom, almost to the point being disrespectful.

I know if I talked to my momma like he does, I wouldn't have a face

I've been married before, but idk if I'm ready to get married again, let alone step into a father's role.

Thoughts?

im in the same boat.
been talking to this chick and I think she may be the one..she has a 3 year old and a 4 year old tho. i wouldnt mind being a step dad

you know you cant ask this question on the coli tho breh

 

[Black Panther]

How old is this kid?

Ten.

You just met the son and already thinking about marriage again?

Why do man and woman consistently plan one side of a relationship so fast before, it even blossom to that.
Have you even given the time with the kid before you are ready to take the responsibilities of another man on a day to day basis?

That wasn't the deciding factor :mjlolhairfade:

We been dating for about 6 months. I might be rushing, but I waited 3 years to to marry my ex-wife...so :kanyebp:

 

[AceMan]

Don’t fukking do it. Especially at only 30 years wtf are you doing breh

 

[Black Panther]

I believe ppl w kids should date ppl w kids, but do u
How old is the woman and how old is her son? If he's a rude little shyt just kno u won't b able to discipline him cuz ur not his daddy. Sounds like a headache waiting to happen

She's 29, he's 10, and I'm turning 31 this November.

im in the same boat.
been talking to this chick and I think she may be the one..she has a 3 year old and a 4 year old tho. i wouldnt mind being a step dad

you know you cant ask this question on the coli tho breh

Thought it would be entertaining

 

[King of Creampies]

I'm legit nervous, brehs.

I'm 30 with no kids. Been dating this girl from Chicago for a while. Just hung out with her & her son for the first time. His father's not around and is an alcoholic Hotep-type. :mjlolhairfade:

Lil breh is cool, but he's mad sarcastic to his mom, almost to the point being disrespectful.

I know if I talked to my momma like he does, I wouldn't have a face

I've been married before, but idk if I'm ready to get married again, let alone step into a father's role.

Thoughts?

From what I seen in your posts you carry yourself well I can assume and a black man of means.

If that is true of you then I say go for it.

They need us more than ever man.

I am sending a young black man off to the Army after a year of mentoring him.

Dude ships off Oct 2nd and I am so proud of him.

Dude has had an absolute shyt life living with his mother and grandmother.

No father in the home.

His brother is in a gang his sister is a big heavyset stud who is pregnant and getting into fistfights.

The young man started talking to me about his problems when I would head to lunch after restocking my vape store. Felt bad for him and started teaching him how to program and survive in that situation and also living in America as a young heterosexual black man.

With my advice, he got into the military and I do not have kids nor cannot but if you can find a young black man or woman who will actually LISTEN to you as quite a few younger blacks automatically discount anything anyone older and black says to them in 2018.

But if you get a hold of that young man and you can teach him then you never ever let him go. Fill him with the same knowledge that got you where you are today.

I mean it. I know I say a gang of shyt about not having kids but this shyt in our community is a fukking emergency.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

She's 29, he's 10, and I'm turning 31 this November.



Thought it would be entertaining

after 30 it's almost inevitable that you're going to be dating a single mother so... here's my real advice.


Don't try to be his "dad". Try to be more like a good role model or mentor if anything. I wouldn't even want the kid calling me dad. I never called any of my step parents mom/dad. I was well aware who my parents were...

Just think of it like you're a coach, mentor, etc. If that, because you don't have to be and he doesn't have to accept it. When I took my nephew in, I was well aware that I was not his father or trying to be. But I did help him or get on his ass if he fukked up.




So just think of it like you're an uncle that happens to be slamming ass with his momma.

 

[MMA]

Ten.



That wasn't the deciding factor :mjlolhairfade:

We been dating for about 6 months. I might be rushing, but I waited 3 years to to marry my ex-wife...so :kanyebp:

Yeah how about you give it that same time frame and stop mentally picture being married again. This ain't just about you and some woman now, she has a whole kid - you need to rationally understand you are this kid new leader (who he'll look at has an example) if you place yourself in that position. We don't need a little boy out here who sees his father not around and now another man not around, it's not fair to him.

So slow your roll, Moving like a old cac on his 2nd wife, paying alimony/child support for a kid that's not yours

I believe ppl w kids should date ppl w kids, but do u
How old is the woman and how old is her son? If he's a rude little shyt just kno u won't b able to discipline him cuz ur not his daddy. Sounds like a headache waiting to happen

These women must be @ultraflexed wife fine