So I asked my girl how serious she wanted to take this relationship and she took offense...

[DuncanWebayama]

We workin this long distance chit, I'm happy up here, and she is aiight down there. I love her, she feels the same way. We are crazy without each other...anyway, I told her I'm happy if she just wanted to be friends because I don't want to be in something that's just short term. She said she was offended because she thought it was "serious" already. I told her, I didn't feel like she was taking it serious because every question I asked her she would give IDK, and wanted to know how she felt about certain things. And would give me signs...I told her I felt these signs and would be cool if we were just friends. She said she wanted to stay with me...

I didn't know what to say after so we sat in silence for a bit. Then started talking again, about random ish. Now I don't feel a certain type of way, and I don't feel the slightest bit phased, because at this point, she needs to show me how important this relationship is. But when she closed the phone and didn't text me or call back after the second silence we had...I ain't trippin or textin back like I usually do.

Just glad I told her how I felt. So ladies and niccas do you think ya boy asked a valid question? Oh, and the reason why I didn't trip was because we been on and off for about 2 years now. So I'm tired of games and I got good ish goin for me right now

 

[LA Fisher]

Long distance broad giving you trouble? Not worth it

 

[DuncanWebayama]

Long distance broad giving you trouble? Not worth it

it actually is breh, lots of fish in the ocean, but when you got that one you wanna keep, it's hard to let go. She not givin me any trouble, I just want to settle down breh, and I'm tired of on and off ish, I just asked her if she would be down for the long run especially considering what I do.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

I told her I'm happy if she just wanted to be friends because I don't want to be in something that's just short term.

Seems a little passive aggressive... maybe saying 'I want something serious. If you don't want that, let's just be friends.'

She said she was offended because she thought it was "serious" already. I told her, I didn't feel like she was taking it serious because every question I asked her she would give IDK, and wanted to know how she felt about certain things. And would give me signs...I told her I felt these signs and would be cool if we were just friends. She said she wanted to stay with me...

no clue what this means. Maybe she's as confused as I am.

I'm tired of games and I got good ish goin for me right now

You just answered your own question

 

[DuncanWebayama]

Seems a little passive aggressive... maybe saying 'I want something serious. If you don't want that, let's just be friends.'



no clue what this means. Maybe she's as confused as I am.



You just answered your own question

Yea, i prolly did confuse her, but ish gets hard, and she plays games, not as in

Seems a little passive aggressive... maybe saying 'I want something serious. If you don't want that, let's just be friends.'



no clue what this means. Maybe she's as confused as I am.



You just answered your own question

it's just we are in a long distance relationship and sometimes she doesn't tell me things and I don't like it. Nothing wrong with asking the long term question, because she constantly questions if she can go on through with it and it sometimes deters me from the whole situation because I have to find out through a series of questions instead of her being straight forward. I asked her to be more straight forward with me because it pushes me away, which is why I came up with this question. Only reason I posted it on here, is for advice if I did the wrong thing in asking that. I love her, but if she stressin this much, I don't mind if we are friends because if she isn't ready, then she isn't ready...

 

[DuncanWebayama]

Seems a little passive aggressive... maybe saying 'I want something serious. If you don't want that, let's just be friends.'



no clue what this means. Maybe she's as confused as I am.



You just answered your own question

Oh, and the reason I said it would be cool if we were just friends, was because before I would be so destroyed over the fact that we were separated and not call/txt be friendly with her, but now I'm at a peace of mind with myself and happy enough to not be distraught over separation honestly...and I said it the way you said it lol, I said 'I want something serious. If you don't want that, let's just be friends.'

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

Yea, i prolly did confuse her, but ish gets hard, and she plays games, not as in

it's just we are in a long distance relationship and sometimes she doesn't tell me things and I don't like it. Nothing wrong with asking the long term question, because she constantly questions if she can go on through with it and it sometimes deters me from the whole situation because I have to find out through a series of questions instead of her being straight forward. I asked her to be more straight forward with me because it pushes me away, which is why I came up with this question. Only reason I posted it on here, is for advice if I did the wrong thing in asking that. I love her, but if she stressin this much, I don't mind if we are friends because if she isn't ready, then she isn't ready...

It sounds like you guys have trouble communicating, which is deal breaker #1. That, mixed with the distance...

I don't think it was the wrong question. I think it was the way it was approached. But by the sounds of it, may be the only way to approach her....

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

peace of mind with myself and happy enough to not be distraught over separation

Perfect. She's not communicating ready, so staying in constant contact with no commitment sounds like a L for you.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Maybe reincar is right



fukk these bytches breh

 

[DuncanWebayama]

Perfect. She's not communicating ready, so staying in constant contact with no commitment sounds like a L for you.

yea, but she's so scared to completely lose me again

 

[HoloGraphic]

Maybe because its long distance, you don't know how to take it to the next level?
To her she is content. She sounds like one of those girls who enjoys her space. Or she would feel threatened by you trying to move closer so suddenly. Now that the question is on the table, that should be enough I think. She does want to be with you, but I think shes unfamiliar with the territory. Going from on/off to "steady".

I think as a long term relationship, you two would be okay as long as you don't try to force something to happen. I think with women, they kinda wake up one day and realize how good they have it. When the guy is steady schemin on making it happen. So my advice would be prepare for the best. Keep doing you.

 

[HoloGraphic]

yea, but she's so scared to completely lose me again

You have her in check.

 

[DuncanWebayama]

Maybe because its long distance, you don't know how to take it to the next level?
To her she is content. She sounds like one of those girls who enjoys her space. Or she would feel threatened by you trying to move closer so suddenly. Now that the question is on the table, that should be enough I think. She does want to be with you, but I think shes unfamiliar with the territory. Going from on/off to "steady".

I think as a long term relationship, you two would be okay as long as you don't try to force something to happen. I think with women, they kinda wake up one day and realize how good they have it. When the guy is steady schemin on making it happen. So my advice would be prepare for the best. Keep doing you.

real ass chit

I know she feelin some typa way, hopefully not, but I don't know what to text/call her with, so ya boy finna fall back, I love her

 

[HoloGraphic]

real ass chit

I know she feelin some typa way, hopefully not, but I don't know what to text/call her with, so ya boy finna fall back, I love her

I know the feelz breh. Same boat. But as Hitch said, you came 90 so now you have to let her come 10.

She should be feeling some typa way, if its important to her. If you don't give her the chance to say "no" it won't really be her choice.

And know that the most etherous, burning vision a woman can have ingrained into her memory is the silhouette of a good man's figure heading out the door.


But seriously, all the best breh

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

Good luck with that. The long distance relationship stuff gets old quick