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Daily Star: Simply The Best 7 Days A Week :: Just Jane :: Ive turned into a crazed stalker
MY girlfriend has got another lover.
She thinks its a secret but Ive been spying on her. I know everything where they meet, where he lives and which cheap hotel they use for their dirty trysts.
Once I even slipped the hotel cleaner £50 so that I could go up to the room they favour and spit on the bed.
She and I have been together for six years and I just cant believe that shes cheating on me.
Ive done so much for that girl. I rescued her from an abusive marriage, I paid off her debts and even gave her dad a job with my company.
Just last Christmas I paid for her to have a nose job and gastric band operation.
Now I see her out with him and she looks amazing, sexy and confident. She makes far more of an effort for him than shes ever done for me.
Just imagining them having sex together breaks my heart. I often sit outside the bars and restaurants they use and drive myself insane.
I admit that Im becoming obsessed.
Im also stalking her filthy lover separately, and his stupid wife.
Ive compiled a huge file about the whole lot of them, including snatched photographs.
In my strongest moments, I tell myself that Im going to go round to the lovers house and present his wife with everything deliberately blasting their world apart.
But then I lose my nerve. What if I blow my cover and my girlfriend decides to jump ship for him?
What if the wife doesnt care and reports me to the police for following her?
Im the wronged man, but I dont know what to do next.
JANE SAYS: Youre right. You are the wronged man. But why are you continuing to put your credibility and your liberty on the line by stalking around like a fugitive?
This must stop now. You have your information, you know that your girlfriend is cheating on you, so thats enough.
The reality is that your partner can have sex with anyone she likes thats not illegal. But making a nuisance of yourself is.
At the moment youre only putting off the inevitable.
You have to find the courage to confront your girlfriend and tell her that you know everything.
Sit her down and make it clear that her secret affair is a secret no longer. Youve seen her with this bloke. The cat is out of the bag.
She then has to tell you what it all means.
Is she serious about this other guy? Is he planning to leave his wife for her?
But the biggest question of all is what is so wrong with your relationship that she felt moved to cheat in the first place?
Can you both come back from this and start again?
Pull your head out of the sand and find out where you actually stand.
I have to blame dude mostly because he stupidly did her all these overly extravagant favours and it seems she never did shyt for him in return but was just in it for the money.
When are these dudes are gonna learn its not their responsibility to put on the cape and "rescue" these bytches and let them sort out their own problems? OK getting her dad a job isn't bad, but fukk paying off anybody's debts
and paying for them to have needless surgery. 
To this opportunist hoe he was obviously just a meal ticket out of a bad situation and she doesn't even make an effort to be sexy for him. Notice how he didn't even get any sympathy in the reply. The only thing he's got to show for all his kind deeds is a troubled mind and a possible jail sentence....not to mention a loss of dignity and a good career. You just know that if he went to jail tomorrow for stalking/harassment she would just skip along and not give a shyt.
Be careful who you hook up with and for god sake if the person isn't making an equal effort then walk the fukk away with your self respect intact. The sea is a big place, fam.
MY girlfriend has got another lover.
She thinks its a secret but Ive been spying on her. I know everything where they meet, where he lives and which cheap hotel they use for their dirty trysts.
Once I even slipped the hotel cleaner £50 so that I could go up to the room they favour and spit on the bed.
She and I have been together for six years and I just cant believe that shes cheating on me.
Ive done so much for that girl. I rescued her from an abusive marriage, I paid off her debts and even gave her dad a job with my company.
Just last Christmas I paid for her to have a nose job and gastric band operation.
Now I see her out with him and she looks amazing, sexy and confident. She makes far more of an effort for him than shes ever done for me.
Just imagining them having sex together breaks my heart. I often sit outside the bars and restaurants they use and drive myself insane.
I admit that Im becoming obsessed.
Im also stalking her filthy lover separately, and his stupid wife.
Ive compiled a huge file about the whole lot of them, including snatched photographs.
In my strongest moments, I tell myself that Im going to go round to the lovers house and present his wife with everything deliberately blasting their world apart.
But then I lose my nerve. What if I blow my cover and my girlfriend decides to jump ship for him?
What if the wife doesnt care and reports me to the police for following her?
Im the wronged man, but I dont know what to do next.
JANE SAYS: Youre right. You are the wronged man. But why are you continuing to put your credibility and your liberty on the line by stalking around like a fugitive?
This must stop now. You have your information, you know that your girlfriend is cheating on you, so thats enough.
The reality is that your partner can have sex with anyone she likes thats not illegal. But making a nuisance of yourself is.
At the moment youre only putting off the inevitable.
You have to find the courage to confront your girlfriend and tell her that you know everything.
Sit her down and make it clear that her secret affair is a secret no longer. Youve seen her with this bloke. The cat is out of the bag.
She then has to tell you what it all means.
Is she serious about this other guy? Is he planning to leave his wife for her?
But the biggest question of all is what is so wrong with your relationship that she felt moved to cheat in the first place?
Can you both come back from this and start again?
Pull your head out of the sand and find out where you actually stand.
I have to blame dude mostly because he stupidly did her all these overly extravagant favours and it seems she never did shyt for him in return but was just in it for the money.
When are these dudes are gonna learn its not their responsibility to put on the cape and "rescue" these bytches and let them sort out their own problems? OK getting her dad a job isn't bad, but fukk paying off anybody's debts
and paying for them to have needless surgery. To this opportunist hoe he was obviously just a meal ticket out of a bad situation and she doesn't even make an effort to be sexy for him. Notice how he didn't even get any sympathy in the reply. The only thing he's got to show for all his kind deeds is a troubled mind and a possible jail sentence....not to mention a loss of dignity and a good career. You just know that if he went to jail tomorrow for stalking/harassment she would just skip along and not give a shyt.
Be careful who you hook up with and for god sake if the person isn't making an equal effort then walk the fukk away with your self respect intact. The sea is a big place, fam.
It blew up in his face tho 
