Should men check their homeboys for cheating on their girls

[Squirrel from Meteor Man]

Don’t enable it, but know what your place is. Everyone is grown and willing to make their own decisions, but if he’s wilding to a point where it’s going to potentially ruin him, his career or household then you owe it to your friendship to lend him good advice.

 

[jay83]

If he’s moving very reckless. I’d pull him aside and ask if he’s good. But if I saw him leaving another woman’s house at night or on a date with another woman somehow that’s none of my business. I got enough problems on my own.

 

[Woodrow]

if that's my man for real and i know he got a keeper, i'm a tell him he fukking up. he might decide not to listen. that part is on him. but i'm a try to help him get it right if i can. same as if i saw him drinking too much or getting into some other bullshyt.

i know the people i rock with the hardest are the ones i trust to tell me the shyt i dont wanna hear. that's how i look at it.

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

If you’re doing all that you should be playing it as close to the vest as possible to me. Why the fukk would you think it’s ok to disclose shyt like that to me? Type of shyt you take to your grave. You basically making me complicit in your shyt like it’s something honorable to broadcast ain’t it

Ultimately we all make the choices that lead us where we want to go

 

[Trav]

Checc em? Nahhh, that's a grown man.

But if you solicit my opinion or feel the need to be sharing details & shyt, I'm def finna let em know I'm not rockin' wit chu like that, especially if it's on the marriage tip and not just some 1-2 year fling.

 

[King Poetic]

Im not checking him or telling his girl

I have no idea whats really going on behind their doors

 

[Buckeye Fever]

Me and the guys were out at the club one night. One of the homies just got married 6 months prior. He was on the dance floor grinding and kissing some chick on her neck. I ran out to the floor grabbed him by his hand and ran off the dance floor with him. I told him he was being disrespectful to his wife.

 

[UnQuantized]

They would have to bring up the conversation. This has happened to me. My friend felt guilty about what he was doing behind his girls back and wanted to talk about it. I told him to tell her everything he has done behind her back and give her the opportunity to make a decision on whether she wants to turn over a new page and forgive you or to break up with you but most importantly don't contine the relationship with a foundation of lies. He told her everything and they broke uup amicably.

 

[Bigwhite2498]

A romantic relationship and what someone is willing to do in the context of that is not comparable to a platonic friendship, especially a same sex platonic friendship. Your logic only works if you view platonic relationships the same way as romantic relationships.

Not true. Cheaters are disloyal and dishonest. Only a fool would believe that someone who can be disloyal and dishonest to someone they love wouldn’t do it to them.

 

[2 one 3]

Nah I had to cut a homie off of over 20 years for trying to involve me in his bullshyt…

Went to visit him one time and he straight up tells his bytch I came out there to visit a chick…

Had to make up a bullshyt lie on the spot.

Another time he went to go cheat on his wife because my homegirl came over to my place and didn’t have a friend for him. His wife was calling me at like 3 AM asking where he was. After that night, I told him I can’t fukk with him like that anymore.

 

[Bigwhite2498]

Black men have been fooled into being bytch ass nikkas due to the sins of the men from the crack era. Hell no! It’s none of my business and I’m covering for him if I need to. I would only “check” him if he was moving raggedy and about to get himself caught or he tells me he has been busting the bytch raw. A man with an in pocket side bytch makes for a better husband and father.

Your woman’s friends would NEVER called themselves checking her for cheating on you.

Explain how a man taking time away from his wife and kids makes him a better father and husband wtf is this logic

 

[Luke Cage]

I give my boys the most sincere disappointed head shake, and pretty much leave it at that.

just a look of pure judgement borderline disgust

More than that isn't my business or my place to get involved. I'm his homeboy, not his homefather

 

[MoveForward]

Explain how a man taking time away from his wife and kids makes him a better father and husband wtf is this logic

Gtfoh with that soft ass shyt. Spending a couple of hours here and there with your side chick isn’t taking time away from your family. Do you not have hobbies that don’t include your wife and kids?

 

[Luke Cage]

Gtfoh with that soft ass shyt. Spending a couple of hours here and there with your side chick isn’t taking time away from your family. Do you not have hobbies that don’t include your wife and kids?

 

[Bigwhite2498]

Gtfoh with that soft ass shyt. Spending a couple of hours here and there with your side chick isn’t taking time away from your family. Do you not have hobbies that don’t include your wife and kids?

You just an immoral nikka. You still haven’t explained how it makes you a better husband or father dumbass that was the question. Answer the question instead of being emotional like a female