to me there is no trap. Biblically speaking the man should love God foremost and be the priest of his householdThat is all there is to it.
Or at the very least, see the trap before stepping in it.
then he should provide for his wife and her need, and she will provide for his seeds and nourish the home. When done right the man will build flocks and the good of the land will open to him
its when a man puts other things before God that the correct order of things gets out of whack. Any sane woman loves a God-loving man because its a man who is not going to entangle her, her children or her home with wickedness