I learned the same thing. A girl can love you, but of she isn't *in* love with you, she don't wanna he's you distressed over anything. She wants sole discretion to do that. Even with a woman who is in love with you, be damn sure that before you break down once, you have to put up with a hundred of hers minimum. Rare to have a lady who deviates from that. As a man, don't ever expect a support system that you wont have to pay cash for. Your boys may listen, but they probably cant offer you comfort,so much as a "dawg, get some p*ssy." Complain to a woman? She either thinking about what bugs her, which is probably you complaining about something, or thinking about how to end that conversation.