This is the crux of the issue. American/Western society in general is FUKKED. All this gender bashing keeps people from attacking the REAL issue: it’s the systems in place that are programming people to fall into these horrible patterns. It’s like people don’t see that many women are victims of this. I’m not excusing bad behavior, but the issue is American CULTURE.
Black culture has been attacked at all sides continuously, and the best way to completely break us down is by attacking the family and creating rifts between men and women.
The real work is in repairing the RIFT.
There are little black girls who grow into women who have never experienced being provided for by a father/father-figure. What do you think happens when millions of black girls’ lived reality is that there is NO MAN coming to love and protect them?
It’s the same as the guy who never grew up with a nurturing mother/maternal figure. He just grows up thinking the ultimate worth of a woman is what’s between her legs because he never EXPERIENCED true love and care from a woman, so he doesn’t think it can be found in a romantic partner.
What is the best way to REPAIR THE RIFT??
It's hard to believe, men too can be victims of a system where its designed to reward outsized gains to those in the upper elite. Not that I'm complaining - I'll just get into the upper tier. Our society has been designed largely by a handful of White men of a certain status. Others just follow them.
Conflating the two again - a man can adjust well without a maternal figure, women not so much without a father. Historically, boys hit an certain age where the father guided them through life to become a man. Something, something traditions and rituals of manhood.
Fathers are crucial in the development of both men and women. Boys learn how to be men and women learn how to accept the covering of one.
We have seen what mother's led household resulted in the states. The women have superb outcomes (when highly controlled) while the men are left to rot.