relocating your family for a job

[beanz]

im a tell u right now. moving is not cheap. my car alone cost 700 to ship. how much u think its gonna cost to move all your stuff? Talk to your wife first. she may be down to move. how is this move benefiting you? you said you would be making 15 k more. but would you be able to hold down the bills and stuff until she found a job?? if it was me, i would wait til. the summer when school is out and she isnt working. then she has the whole summer to look for a new gig.

yea the fukked up part is that i really have no say in when i start. i have to wait for a call with an academy start date and if i dont accept i would have to wait another year for another random call. the waiting list has 11,661 people on it and im number 894 and they are already down to the 500s so i should be getting it soon. my best bet would be to live in whatever state housing they can give me and come home for my days off until she can start a new job up there.

Will your wife have a job there as well?

Does she really love the job she has now?

Are you even sure you will love the job? Money isnr everything.

Remember your married two becomes one.

she's a teacher and has her state license so she can work anywhere in state. just a matter of her finding a position. she loves her job but she's only been there a year so it wont be so hard. im sure i will love it, i always wanted to be in some kind of law enforcement and this is the only department that doesnt require college credits to start.

i may be worried about nothing. if i get stationed 1 hour and a half i will just drive home and back everyday and nothing will change. but that possibility of being stationed up to 8 hours away and NOT knowing until AFTER the academy has me shook. imagine going thru 8 weeks of grueling physical training and legal classes only to find out they want u working by canada . ive heard of alot of dudes that quit once they find out where they have to work.

 

[beanz]

in case ya curious, here is a map of all the state run facilities. im praying for the sullivan or green haven hub

http://www.doccs.ny.gov/facilitymapcolor.pdf

5 boroughs and westchester make an extra 3500 a year downstate adjustment, but its at least a 10 year wait to get into the city and maybe 2 years for sing sing

 

[DaRealness]

yea that sucks. i know 8 hours or even 3 arent relatively bad, but i wouldnt be able to commute daily and i would have to leave my wife alone for 4 - 5 days at a time or move her up with me which is the alternative. the problem with that is she just became a teacher and loves her school so i would have to ask her to quit her job and start somewhere fresh where she doesnt know anybody. thats what i think is my biggest concern. she is very close to her mom and family and uprooting her would not be easy on her.

also, im not getting a relocation package. the most they will do for me is get me state housing for really cheap until i can find a permanent place to stay.


yea she is already not feeling the fact i have to go to albany for 8 weeks for paramilitary training, even tho i get to come home on weekends. if i tell her im stationed 3 - 6 hours or even 8 hours away and we have to move, its gonna be tough on her.

This alone says it's probably not a good idea. You just got married to a gem the other day, it's not a good idea to cause any kind of upheaval like this, especially since it's early days and you're planning to have a family. Moving home alone is tough let alone uprooting and moving somewhere you don't know anybody and having to look for another job. It doesn't sound like it's worth it - even if it's another 15 thou.

That's just my opinion though.

 

[beanz]

This alone says it's probably not a good idea. You just got married to a gem the other day, it's not a good idea to cause any kind of upheaval like this, especially since it's early days and you're planning to have a family. Moving home alone is tough let alone uprooting and moving somewhere you don't know anybody and having to look for another job. It doesn't sound like it's worth it - even if it's another 15 thou.

That's just my opinion though.

u might be right breh but i cant let the opportunity just pass me by. as somebody who didnt go to college i dont have many opportunities to make 50k without going to school and acquiring a huge debt. it would be a huge sacrifice but if me and her want to have kids, my current salary aint shyt. dont get me wrong im not making minimum wage either but im not near 50k.

the shyt is i just took the test in april and i thought i would have at least 2 years to think about this but they seem to be pushing classes thru FAST since they are short alot of staff. some ppl i took the test with already had their 1 on 1s and background checks and physical examinations.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

My lady and I are visiting LA in April and that is the Entertainment Capital of the World but if I get an opportunity over then we are gone. She says she is down for whatever but all our family is in South Florida but we'll see.

Unrelated but anyone going to ASCAP "I Create Music" Expo?

 

[Sulcage]

i just did it recently. the company was bought out and we had the option of collection unemployment/severance package or moving from philly to minnesota. they gave me 10 k in relocation money .which was the main reason i did it. was able to ship my car, get a condo, etc. now im ready to move back. only because i have a 2 year old daughter and want her to be closer to the family. its terrible missing birthdays and not having a babysiter. only coming home once a year cause flying is expensive. dude 8 hours is not that bad. im 19 hours hours away. just make sure you have them negotiate your relocation package

Cosign. Did the exact same thing from Houston to Minneapolis. 19 hours away sucks, if I lived 8 away if go home every weekend lol

 

[beanz]

Cosign. Did the exact same thing from Houston to Minneapolis. 19 hours away sucks, if I lived 8 away if go home every weekend lol

yea like i said i know there are people who have relocated a lot farther but 8 hours is still too much. even 3 if i have to come home on the weekends only. that might put a strain on a brand new marriage considering my wife never lived away from her parents and now she is living with me. for me to leave her all alone 5 nights a week might be a little too much for her especially since we plan on having our first child soon.