Not in reference to OP or anything but this is something I've seen and even pushed by a lot of people and part of the reason why I tend to stress that personality matters. All too often I see people mentioning issues of money or how much each person makes or how educated they are all the while ignoring compatibility of each others' personalities and overall being.I didn’t say perfectly…….further it’s not even about interest. More than enough stories here where it seems like people get into relationships and don’t really know the person past surface level.
In this case she clearly has a set of needs and expectations that it doesn’t seem the addressed before moving in together.