Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Digital Omen]

this just made me think of an amazing red flag i came across like 2 years ago

was messing with a woman who went to therapy consistenly nothing wrong with that inherently

then she told me she hadn't told the therapist anything about me (we been coolin for months)........ okay. not my business

then told me she had to replace her old therapist because she felt like she was judging her.....

she let me in on some details about her past and it's pretty clear what happened, therapist hit the prolly didn't agree with some stuff she was doing, prolly was leading her towards being accountable for some stuff, and she couldn't cope with the idea that the therapist was secrectly judging her, ran away from the situation.

so she got a new therapist and only tells her half the truth man i ended that situation so quick, she manipulated the situation so the therapist is only telling her stuff she wants to hear



ion even know what to call that, but avoid it brehs. I wouldn't be surprised if the VAST majority of people in general who go to therapist do this.


but you're just doing yourself and the therapist a disservice and wasting both yalls time

Beyond avoiding obvious bird babble and running not walking away, this is actually some dangerous shyt
Men and women that only tell half truths, compartmentalize shyt, and lie to themselves are liable to fukk your shyt up big time
I'm talking financially, emotionally, spiritually, all of it
I speak from bitter experience. Back in the day I dealt with a manipulative broad who was all about "therapy therapy therapy"
bytch had entire scenarios laid out, stories and stories for days. Every night was a night at the opera. Endless drama.
Of course the box was fire (it's gotta be scientifically proven that batshyt insane broads have the best sex game)
That's how I got caught up in her web of lies and deceit
I did that so hopefully you won't have to go through that

 

[Digital Omen]

I always underestimate how fake and disloyal women are.

One day they're all thirsty for me and I'm blowing their back out and the next day they're with some random disheveled ugly dude and they act like they don't even know me

Then another day they're hitting me up again

they move off emotions and feelings which come and go. Enjoy your turn and when she's gone with the wind, charge it to the game.

 

[T-K-G]

Beyond avoiding obvious bird babble and running not walking away, this is actually some dangerous shyt
Men and women that only tell half truths, compartmentalize shyt, and lie to themselves are liable to fukk your shyt up big time
I'm talking financially, emotionally, spiritually, all of it
I speak from bitter experience. Back in the day I dealt with a manipulative broad who was all about "therapy therapy therapy"
bytch had entire scenarios laid out, stories and stories for days. Every night was a night at the opera. Endless drama.
Of course the box was fire (it's gotta be scientifically proven that batshyt insane broads have the best sex game)
That's how I got caught up in her web of lies and deceit
I did that so hopefully you won't have to go through that

yea the issue with these types is you're not gonna know they're on this type of time until they slip up

my biggest gift/curse is i notice shyt extremely early in meeting people, just knowing the type of shyt people will typically lie about and noticing how they go about doing it, they give themselves away early every time


it'll be the shyt that they do to OTHER people at first, cuz they feel like you're in the circle of trust, like how shorty told me she was keeping shyt from her therapist (they never seem to notice that they're showing you how they lie ) it's usually gonna fall into 2 categories:

A) people who gonna outright fabricate a lie and test your intelligence (grade school shyt, super easy to break down if you have a good memory)

if they don't cut the bullshyt out after being caught, then they've moved on to group B


B) people who are gonna leave out pockets of information so they have reasonable doubt. Usually claim these events were "forgotten" or they "didn't think it was important to bring up". This is usually the final form of a liar. You've prolly already seen them be delusional during disagreements.


Group B is the most dangerous imo because they're using your own trust in them to fill in those gaps, so if you notice anything sketchy the first thing they gonna do is try to guilt you about trusting them, completely avoiding the fact that they're keeping a secret that they wish they could lie about. It's usually a lost cause at this point they're logic is just gonna tell them to be even more secretive next time. Men and women both do this.


and IMO once you catch an adult in a bold face lie they're usually so embarassed they don't wanna be around you anymore anyway that mix of guilt/frustration/embarassment just makes their enegy around you toxic. They need to feel like they COULD get a lie off in order to feel comfortable, trust your gut early and save yourself some time

 

[Mandarin Duck]

So me and the girl I been talking to supposed to go out tonight. I stopped overthinking shyt and just said "fukk it".

Concerning myself with how to talk, what to say. All that comes from me overthinking.

I have no expectations except to have a good time out.



Edit: Yoo can yall spoiler pictures of females in this thread.
I'm casually scrolling down pages at work then I see Keke Palmer's ass.

 

[Brandsdale]

So me and the girl I been talking to supposed to go out tonight. I stopped overthinking shyt and just said "fukk it".

Concerning myself with out to talk, what to say. All that comes from me overthinking.

I have no expectations except to have a good time out.



Edit: Yoo can yall spoiler pictures of females in this thread.
I'm casually scrolling down pages at work then I see Keke Palmer's ass.

great to hear man. Overthinking is a muthafukka

Also, try not to make any expectations when going out with a woman as well. Last date i had, I literally thanked shorty for asking to hangout cause it was such a nice day outside and the weather out here just got tolerable

 

[re'up]

No expectations is always the best way to go in, even tell your date that, with some context, takes of the pressure in some ways, just two people connecting over food/drinks, whatever

Recently read a book called Addicted To Drama, not really for myself, but to better understand people, and it was really insightful. It's a pretty academic breakdown of "drama", a word that a lot of people use and know, but can't always explain the patterns/causes whatever, and this book does.

Some quick takeaways that illuminated behavior in men and women that was easily recognizable:

-Drama is not about creating solutions, it's about creating sensations

-The blaze of drama offers a false sense of release and completion while simultaneously providing distraction and even satisfaction

-habitual drama can be a protective mechanism to defend against experiencing our feelings. A form of suppression and self medicating

-instead of focusing on their feelings and unmet needs a person dealing with an "addiction to drama" will instead focus on outside stimulus

Book details an actual cycle that occurs, as in alcohol/drug addiction, where people "rev" up drama (as in revving a car engine) then go through the cycle, then are bored/hungover/anxious, and eventually start the cycle again

 

[Mandarin Duck]

great to hear man. Overthinking is a muthafukka

Also, try not to make any expectations when going out with a woman as well. Last date i had, I literally thanked shorty for asking to hangout cause it was such a nice day outside and the weather out here just got tolerable

Thanks man. I been concerning myself with bullshyt. She's coo, I'm cool. Let's just have a good time period.

 

[Brandsdale]

Thanks man. I been concerning myself with bullshyt. She's coo, I'm cool. Let's just have a good time period.

Everyone is deserving of love, regardless of their life situation.

Whatever you feel you need to work on (physical, financial, mental etc.), do it.

but DONT build the idea in your mind that youre not ever allowed to pursue love. There's always gonna be something that needs course correction in your life. Might as well let it rock

 

[Mandarin Duck]

great to hear man. Overthinking is a muthafukka

Also, try not to make any expectations when going out with a woman as well. Last date i had, I literally thanked shorty for asking to hangout cause it was such a nice day outside and the weather out here just got tolerable

So we didn't end up going out. I'm not really tripping though.

We ended up being on the phone for damn near 3 hours.

She's mad coo.

During our Convo I say "just wait until I get sexy"
She says

"You don't need to change anything about you. I like you for who you are."

That may seem so simple to y'all experience dudes but that was reassuring.

To know she was feeling me purely because of who I am as a person has been a real confidence booster.

I feel like if this works out great, but if not it's given me the spark I needed to know I'm a good catch.

 

[Silkk]

Dawg.....I ain't NEVER no seen no shyt like the stupidity of these Gen Z bytches.



You getting evicted in 2 days and instead of going get the money to pay it, you go slurp up some local bum ass rapper

 

[DJSmooth]

No expectations is always the best way to go in, even tell your date that, with some context, takes of the pressure in some ways, just two people connecting over food/drinks, whatever

Recently read a book called Addicted To Drama, not really for myself, but to better understand people, and it was really insightful. It's a pretty academic breakdown of "drama", a word that a lot of people use and know, but can't always explain the patterns/causes whatever, and this book does.

Some quick takeaways that illuminated behavior in men and women that was easily recognizable:

-Drama is not about creating solutions, it's about creating sensations

-The blaze of drama offers a false sense of release and completion while simultaneously providing distraction and even satisfaction

-habitual drama can be a protective mechanism to defend against experiencing our feelings. A form of suppression and self medicating

-instead of focusing on their feelings and unmet needs a person dealing with an "addiction to drama" will instead focus on outside stimulus

Book details an actual cycle that occurs, as in alcohol/drug addiction, where people "rev" up drama (as in revving a car engine) then go through the cycle, then are bored/hungover/anxious, and eventually start the cycle again

This sounds good. I'm going to order this book today.

 

[Bless't]

For a semi serious example, just because I love the movie, watch the scene in Heat, he leads the conversation, but lets her answer, picking up info from each response, and then building on it, (yes he asks basic questions, but this is in 1995, and also they are total strangers) (he also reveals near nothing about himself, but that's another topic)



when talking to my boys about this, it's always shocking how LITTLE they know about some of the women

It's wild to think about having a conversation with a woman without letting her tell you all about herself by just placing a few well timed questions.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Dawg.....I ain't NEVER no seen no shyt like the stupidity of these Gen Z bytches.



You getting evicted in 2 days and instead of going get the money to pay it, you go slurp up some local bum ass rapper

Can we get a backstory for this

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

they move off emotions and feelings which come and go. Enjoy your turn and when she's gone with the wind, charge it to the game.

yep...

everything about women is how they FEEL in the moment.....

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

It's wild to think about having a conversation with a woman without letting her tell you all about herself by just placing a few well timed questions.

women LOVE talking about themselves....just ask a few leading questions and off she goes