Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I’m trying. I really am.

Idk if it show my parents raised me from the tennis, horseback riding, skiing, travel, being sonically aware & culturally aware, etc.

But it’s like I can talk to every other group except some black ppl.

Even the 5th Ave black chicks always find some excuse or some reason to break something off.

:yeshrug:
 

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I’m trying. I really am.

Idk if it show my parents raised me from the tennis, horseback riding, skiing, travel, being sonically aware & culturally aware, etc.

But it’s like I can talk to every other group except some black ppl.

Even the 5th Ave black chicks always find some excuse or some reason to break something off.

:yeshrug:
Interesting

I’ve never had that issue but i find that too many black women come from broken homes and don’t know how to be in relationships because of it

They be too independent and disagreeable
 
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I don’t think bw are in my future lol

:mjlol:

They gotta be the biggest headache from hinge to real-life.

I’m on a 6 day pawg streak, joints want to make me breakfast and everything.
Funny enough on apps the only non blacks i get swipping me are the ones who obviously mainly deal with black men
:mjlol:
I guess im too”urban”
 

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I’m trying. I really am.

Idk if it show my parents raised me from the tennis, horseback riding, skiing, travel, being sonically aware & culturally aware, etc.

But it’s like I can talk to every other group except some black ppl.

Even the 5th Ave black chicks always find some excuse or some reason to break something off.

:yeshrug:
damn breh. Hate to hear that
 

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Women can ALWAYS sense when a man is unsure of himself and it’s their number 1 turnoff. Your confidence levels are low and they know it. improving your self esteem should be your number one priority. Basically just focus on yourself and women will come.
To me this sounds like give up. I can’t separate the two. Like what are you even saying to just stop going out?

On some “get money, get power” and the women will come type stuff??
Very limited what someone can tell you without important details, I can hear some of these brothers speak and they soo proper and square, that shyt is like anti game.. You DOA in certain circles.. Now I am not saying thats you just trying to offer food for thought and a different perspective
I speak incredibly proper and square. Probably a bit of an autistic cadence. Idgaf that’s just me she can either like me or not. Def not putting on an accent to impress women.
Are bars and clubs the only places you approach? If so then you are approaching them in a situation where they assume sex is absolute top reason you are engaging. If they aren’t attracted you are going to hit those dry spells.

Try approaching outside those situation where you can build some type of rapport in a non-nightlife situation.
Such as? Malls don’t have women like that only families and underaged girls. Don’t live near any good downtown areas where people are out walking. I’m in Cali people drive and live in suburbs 40 mins away.

Nightlife is the easiest for me to go out, see, and possibly interact with a lot of women. Only other place I see women and that’s maybe 1-3 at time if I’m lucky is my gym and I don’t shyt where I eat. Esp not with my luck rn. Stores near me only have old people and families, not attractive women. Even the ones by colleges near me.
Talk to the females that are staring you down.
I don’t really notice eye contact bc I don’t look for it. I just go for what I like. I did that tonight and I still got rejected. Got the whole “sorry not interested or we’re leaving rn sorry” I had a line “you couldn’t just stare at me like that and not introduce yourself”.
Maybe it's your "nerves"...

Take a deep breath and walk SLOWLY around the whole club just vibin....
I tried that the past two nights. Didn’t change much at all, if anything noticed a lot more people pushing past me. I really tried to tap into that “state” but women weren’t throwing signals or anything,
You're not emotionally engaging - because you are stuck in particular mindset, which results in boring behaviors and habits.
Yeah but how do I do that. You gave the what, but no how. You say it’s a skillset, how do I build the skills. Kinda sounds like the whole “just be confident” thing dudes say.

How do I become emotionally engaging? How do I change my mindset?

Hell, especially at night it’s hard as fukk to keep their attention. Let alone talk to em at night with all the shyt going on.

I will say this, you’re right on the fact that I expect too much. If there’s a lull, I just dip straight up as she’s not trying to keep the convo going. And I’m trying to carry a sinking ship. I learned the hard way that if women don’t try they don’t like you. Too many times I tried to be superman to a brick wall only for her to open up and be all over some other man.
 
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Same with women when you constantly looking and searching trying everything just constant failure. When you don't care and you're just yourself stuff happens.

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I never understood this. Like this has never worked for me. There’s been periods where I’ve been so burnt out of the BS and rejection that I just tune out and do me. Hell that’s what I do when I’m not intentionally trying to approach anyways. Hell there’s been times where I didn’t go out for months and just did shyt I wanted to do.

Women didn’t fall in my lap.

Like what do you mean? To me I look at going out with intention as taking control of my own destiny and not hoping that stuff simply falls in my lap.

And tbh I don’t like going out. I don’t drink nor need to, I’ve heard the same songs thousands of times, seen the same bullshyt hundreds, if not thousands of times. Same attitudes, same responses, same fakeness. All of it. Would be different if I actually liked the music but even trying to vibe and enjoy that shyt they play feels corny as hell. Like dumb, I’m only there for women.
what are you into? what do you do? any hobbies?

ive always been of the mind that you find women doing what you normally do
Don’t mean to come off as crass but it’s 2023 breh. People don’t have hobbies like that, mosf hobbies don’t have attractive women there. A lot hobbies are online anyways, not in person. Most meetup groups are temporary and only have a handful of regulars, most people with hobbies tend to be older as well. Hell, I’d go so far as to say the majority of people with hobbies are doing them because they aren’t satisfied with their social life and are in some transitional self development period. This ain’t college anymore.

And a lot of hobbies most men like, such as gaming are so male dominated that women are paid to be at conventions and shyt.
 
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Anyways, went out this weekend in AZ for a mini vacation. Got rejected like 80+ times. Didn’t do anything or meet up with any women. They weren’t feeling me in the venues or outside. Really pushed myself to talk to any women I found attractive.

Tried to apply some of the advice I got earlier. Got 2 numbers and an IG that went nowhere. They didn’t respond.

Stayed to the brutal end too. Out at 3-4am every night still trying to approach. That shyt wore on me. I try not to let shyt affect me but at this point. I’m just over here like:unimpressed:

Even worse was being out and seeing dudes you know you look better than having all these good ass interactions with fine women. Meanwhile I’m intentionally putting myself out there getting nothing.

Feel like I wasted my time, overall the only thing I can commend myself on is that I didn’t give up. And in retrospect I’ve had many nights like this and years later I’m still subjecting myself to this bullshyt because I continue to push myself to go after what I want.

Idk man. I kept thinking to myself that I have to reinvent the wheel and do something different but idk. Nothing worked.
 
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Anyways, went out this weekend in AZ for a mini vacation. Got rejected like 80+ times. Didn’t do anything or meet up with any women. They weren’t feeling me in the venues or outside. Really pushed myself to talk to any women I found attractive.

Tried to apply some of the advice I got earlier. Got 2 numbers and an IG that went nowhere. They didn’t respond.

Stayed to the brutal end too. Out at 3-4am every night still trying to approach. That shyt wore on me. I try not to let shyt affect me but at this point. I’m just over here like:unimpressed:

Even worse was being out and seeing dudes you know you look better than having all these good ass interactions with fine women. Meanwhile I’m intentionally putting myself out there getting nothing.

Feel like I wasted my time, overall the only thing I can commend myself on is that I didn’t give up. And in retrospect I’ve had many nights like this and years later I’m still subjecting myself to this bullshyt because I continue to push myself to go after what I want.

Idk man. I kept thinking to myself that I have to reinvent the wheel and do something different but idk. Nothing worked.
How do you know you look better than them to the women they are engaging with?

So attractive women in your area only go out at night and stay inside all day otherwise?

When you go out at night, do you go by yourself?

You were asked about hobbies but didn’t really answer. So you don’t have any that are not based on being online?
 

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clubs are shytholes so if sparring you mean learning how to get hookups then cool but if "outside world" = actual genuine connections then no imo that is horrible advice.

I feel some places you flip your fukkery switch and others you treat diff/with more seriousness.

In general, sparring is practicing/emphasizing whatever one feel needs work without worries of consequences

he has access to multitude of women he will probaly never see again...

He can practice as much as he wants within respect of course
 

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A woman told me she thought divorce was normal and never viewed marriage as a lifetime thing because she witnessed her mother get divorced so many times. :snoop:
Yup

It’s probably the single biggest issue affecting black relationships. And a lot of the impact is subconscious. It’s important to see a your parents work as a couple, deal with conflict, compromise, plan things together, support each other etc etc
 
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