Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

Here's something to consider. It all comes down to your mindset and your ROOT cause for doing things. Stop rearranging yourself because 'that's what women like'. Stop concerning yourself with what women like. Do things because you want to improve yourmanhood and to jsut become a man you can look in the mirror and actually like what you see. Do what you do because you aren't going to be taken advantage of and will actually receive a fair shake when dealing with women. When you actually eliminate your weaknesses and start to feel real solid about yourself, women will pick up on it and start to like you because you are a solid individual. If you base your agenda around what women like, you will never really be confident because what they 'like' always changes and different women like different things...

You have to really develop yourself and STAND for something. You can't really ever communicate anything if you never stand for anything. That's the problem for these negroes that are always morphing and shapeshifting for a woman. Women can eventually sense that these cats are only out for the vagina and don't really stand for nothing, so they bust bad on them.

Let's elaborate on the whole 'checking a woman' point. Some cats 'check' a woman because they feel women like it and women respond to it, but if you are checking a woman because of that, then what happens when a particular woman you are dealing with DOESN'T like it? Are you going to back up and stop doing what you're doing? If you 'check' a woman because 'that's what women like', then what are you going to really be checking her about? When are you going to be checking her? Will you be consistent with it? The purpose of checking a woman is to ensure that proper respect is maintained and that the woman is operating within the boundaries of whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. You have to know what you want, who you are, etc., in order to be able to 'check' a woman. You have to know your boundaries as well. What is and isn't acceptable to you. Checking a woman isn't about screaming and yelling at her, although that is ONE way some men may check a woman. Checking a woman is about ensuring she is bringing the right behavior to be in your presence as well as the proper behavior to accomplish what it is you have set out to accomplish. You have to know those things FIRST before you can ever 'check' a woman. You aren't supposed to be 'checking a woman' just to check her or because she likes it. It's kind of like working for a company. Your manager 'checks' you if you are doing things out of line with the company's objectives and policies. The company's objectives and policies exist in order for the company to remain profitable. If the company is profitable, then YOU get paid. Checking a woman is like that. You are ensuring she brings respectable behavior to the table and knows how to get down for you in the right way in order that the two of you will have a bright and lovely future together. All of this requires that you firmly establish who you are and what you are about and which behavior from a woman is acceptable and necessary in order for her to be a committed partner for the two of you to be successful over the long-term. And let's be real. You are the leader. Your woman doesn't check you. You check her... just like you don't check your boss. You may bring things up to your bosses attention, but you aren't 'checking' your boss. Maintaining authority is huge. If you come across as a soft dude that allows your woman to constantly 'check' you, then you will lose your authority and she will jet... just like if you're at work and your boss lets you run him, you will think you should be at the head of the company instead of your boss. You won't respect a boss that you feel you know more than, that you can run over or who you feel has no ability to run things.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I know I violated half a dozen unofficial rules of the thread, however, a month or so ago I bought this girl who is 5 years older then me a birthday gift, a few hundred dollar Nordstrom card, I've known her for like 2 years, and I fell for her a few months after I met her, she's in one of my friends immediate family. I've been talking to her casually for that time period, but usually when I see her at work, when I'm with her family, she's said a lot of remarks like 'we should go to the movies', or 'why don't you take ME to these places' little hints like that, called her brother a few times, asking to talk to me late at night to tell me something random, relating to a conversation we had.

I don't know if she is just bored or lonely though, as as her behavior towards me, she doesn't really go out or date, much apparently. And she is older. She might just like the attention? I wrote a short note to her with the gift card, nothing explicit but pretty suggestive as far as my feelings. The last time I saw her, she was kinda stumbling over her words, 'Thank you so much...why did you do that'? I almost came by your house to thank you' (no one had my new number at the time), she shows me these Gucci heels she got with the card, partially anyway, and was (again) saying she never goes out, has nowhere to wear them...I should just ask her out, and say fukk it? She has to have somewhat of an idea how I feel.

As far as the 'simp' side goes, I don't see it like that, I wanted to do something nice for her, I like her that much, if she doesn't feel the same, I still would have wanted to, it was important to me to do that while I have the chance.

 

[re'up]

i still dont know why u got her something that was a "few hundred" dollars.

but why are u not fukking her right now what are you scared of?

Appreciate the advice, even the sarcastic shyt, you know you can't type out every intricacy and detail, those two paragraphs aren't going to include everything.

On paper it sounds one way, but if she did go out with me, she would be dating one of her younger brother friends, it's not a problem for me, or him (as of now) but it may be for her...since she's older, maybe she's just flattered by the attention of someone younger, but isn't really interested, I don't know. Always a lot of eye contact both of us, compliments from her, asked if I'm single, a dozen reasons that might mean she's interested. I'll ask her out.

I got her the gift, because I like her and appreciated the time I've known her, not trying to buy her or impress her with money or some shyt, felt like an appropriate gift, she got something she liked with it, so I'm cool with it, regardless of the future outcome.

 

[kevm3]

Appreciate the advice, even the sarcastic shyt, you know you can't type out every intricacy and detail, those two paragraphs aren't going to include everything.

On paper it sounds one way, but if she did go out with me, she would be dating one of her younger brother friends, it's not a problem for me, or him (as of now) but it may be for her...since she's older, maybe she's just flattered by the attention of someone younger, but isn't really interested, I don't know. Always a lot of eye contact both of us, compliments from her, asked if I'm single, a dozen reasons that might mean she's interested. I'll ask her out.

I got her the gift, because I like her and appreciated the time I've known her, not trying to buy her or impress her with money or some shyt, felt like an appropriate gift, she got something she liked with it, so I'm cool with it, regardless of the future outcome.

Real talk mane, stop talking yourself out of dealing with a woman and disqualifying yourself or giving yourself outs in your mind. Just get at babygirl and tell her to come on out and see what it's all about. If it works, then it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't...but don't play yourself out of her.

 

[Kartel13]

Appreciate the advice, even the sarcastic shyt, you know you can't type out every intricacy and detail, those two paragraphs aren't going to include everything.

On paper it sounds one way, but if she did go out with me, she would be dating one of her younger brother friends, it's not a problem for me, or him (as of now) but it may be for her...since she's older, maybe she's just flattered by the attention of someone younger, but isn't really interested, I don't know. Always a lot of eye contact both of us, compliments from her, asked if I'm single, a dozen reasons that might mean she's interested. I'll ask her out.

I got her the gift, because I like her and appreciated the time I've known her, not trying to buy her or impress her with money or some shyt, felt like an appropriate gift, she got something she liked with it, so I'm cool with it, regardless of the future outcome.

Stop making excuses breh. The heart wants what the hearts wants. She has given you multiple oppurtunties to ask her out. Just do it already.

 

[kevm3]

Now let's talk about something real. Your ATTENTION is your currency when it comes to dealing with women. Women LOVE attention. Now as a man of value, you have to be a savvy shopper. If your currency is your attention, don't you think it would make sense to not give your attention to a low quality woman? Would you spend your hard-earned money on a low quality product? The reason a lot of women continually have bad behavior is because no matter what they do, the guy is STILL paying attention to them and putting up with their nonsense. It's like a restaurant where the food is decent, but upon looking into the kitchen, it's found to be extremely unhygienic. If all the patrons kept on eating there, do you think the restaurant has any incentive to improve? On the other hand, if they took a serious hit in business, they will figure they better step it up or be put out of business. Now I'm saying this to say, if you keep on dealing with women with bad behavior and continually giving her attention, no matter what you 'say' to her to 'check her', then she will keep on with her behavior. It's like a woman telling some guy to 'respect her' and 'not talk to her like that.' Do you think he will change his behavior if she is still dealing with him?

Stop spending your money on bad businesses... Stop giving your attention to low quality women with bad behavior. You are only empowering them to keep on doing what they are doing. You are also sending out a message about yourself that you are of low worth and aren't deserving of quality because you are willing to spend your attention anywhere, no matter the quality of women.

Now this is a very, very important concept to understand. You cannot directly control a woman's behavior. It is always her choice on how she will act. What you can do is you can control whether she gets to be in your presence or not. A lot of cats are looking for secret tips and tactics to try and make a woman act better, but they will find out that they cannot control that woman's behavior, because they attempt to do any and everything but withdraw his attention. Don't you think that if someone was at a job where the boss never fired anyone under any circumstances, that they would be hard-pressed to respect the boss? If there are no negative repercussions for undesirable behavior, people will continue to engage in it.

Now, although you cannot directly control what a woman does unless you are some ol violent gorilla type of dude, you can control how she acts when she is around YOU. You do this by using your attention as your currency. If she isn't acting respectable, she doesn't get any more of your time... and demand that if she wants your attention, she will have to RESPECT you... and if she doesn't, you have to stop giving her attention and STAND ON IT. That's how you get better behavior from women. If you are not willing to withdraw your attention, then you will not be able to get proper behavior froma woman. If she doesn't care that you withdraw your attention, she doesn't really value your time, and it's best to get her away from you as soon as possible. Is this to say to use this knowledge to manipulate women into doing what you want? Absolutely not. It IS to say that you are sending the message that if a woman is to be around you, she has to stay respectable at all times and there is behavior that will NOT be tolerated and you are not someone to test nor play around with.

 

[Savior]

Kevm u got a novel coming out on interactions with women? Nah but u posting some real shyt tho

 

[young3000]

On that note, my cousin is 20, his girlfriend 19. He works and she's in the reserves, and they live together. Yesterday he springs up the "I wanna have a baby" comment. I'm just like inside but trying to lecture him and explain to him why he should not have a baby at that age. He already has his girls name tattood on him. Keep in mind they're only 19 and 20, and you really never know what could happen smh.

Do everything you can to not let him make this mistake so young....he has yet to experience life.

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[Mr210]

i still dont know why u got her something that was a "few hundred" dollars.

but why are u not fukking her right now what are you scared of?

why are you spending that amount of money on a chick who is not your woman or a relative

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[CrossBones]

Let's elaborate on the whole 'checking a woman' point. Some cats 'check' a woman because they feel women like it and women respond to it, but if you are checking a woman because of that, then what happens when a particular woman you are dealing with DOESN'T like it? Are you going to back up and stop doing what you're doing? If you 'check' a woman because 'that's what women like', then what are you going to really be checking her about? When are you going to be checking her? Will you be consistent with it? The purpose of checking a woman is to ensure that proper respect is maintained and that the woman is operating within the boundaries of whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. You have to know what you want, who you are, etc., in order to be able to 'check' a woman. You have to know your boundaries as well. What is and isn't acceptable to you. Checking a woman isn't about screaming and yelling at her, although that is ONE way some men may check a woman. Checking a woman is about ensuring she is bringing the right behavior to be in your presence as well as the proper behavior to accomplish what it is you have set out to accomplish. You have to know those things FIRST before you can ever 'check' a woman. You aren't supposed to be 'checking a woman' just to check her or because she likes it. It's kind of like working for a company. Your manager 'checks' you if you are doing things out of line with the company's objectives and policies. The company's objectives and policies exist in order for the company to remain profitable. If the company is profitable, then YOU get paid. Checking a woman is like that. You are ensuring she brings respectable behavior to the table and knows how to get down for you in the right way in order that the two of you will have a bright and lovely future together. All of this requires that you firmly establish who you are and what you are about and which behavior from a woman is acceptable and necessary in order for her to be a committed partner for the two of you to be successful over the long-term. And let's be real. You are the leader. Your woman doesn't check you. You check her... just like you don't check your boss. You may bring things up to your bosses attention, but you aren't 'checking' your boss. Maintaining authority is huge. If you come across as a soft dude that allows your woman to constantly 'check' you, then you will lose your authority and she will jet... just like if you're at work and your boss lets you run him, you will think you should be at the head of the company instead of your boss. You won't respect a boss that you feel you know more than, that you can run over or who you feel has no ability to run things.

this is right. Im all for checking a woman, but it has to be to correct her. its not done so later she can be checked again over the same thing. shes not really getting the message then. theres no point in staying with a woman who constantly has to be put in her place, or in being with a woman who likes to be checked by her man so much that she acts up over and over again. this is obviously a continuing problem and it shows that she doesnt want to act right. thats a woman for the bushes.

 

[young3000]

Met 3 women at a bbq this past weekend. I'm not going to call them ratchet but they had them tendencies. What makes things worse is all 3 of them were mid 30's or older. One of em just got divorced and it hasn't been a year yet and I could tell she's been getting ran through. She was just too eager...even invited me back to her place afterwards

After talking with all 3 of them for hours they just left me with the mindset of women today. Now I know what Akeem and Semmi felt like in Coming To America when they asked the barber "Where can one go to find to find a nice woman"

I did exchange numbers with one of them on the low though, so whenever I'm in town I'll have somewhere to stay

 

[kevm3]

Kevm u got a novel coming out on interactions with women? Nah but u posting some real shyt tho

I am in the process of working on a book right now, but it doesn't deal with women.

 

[MikelArteta]

i have a story to tell its a true story,

my moms childhood friend is her age which would be like 54ish, anyways this dude has 4 kids two differet moms, he was going to marry this other woman my moms cousin she lives in the states and this dude played her with another broad and knocked that broad up the otehr day.

All 4 of these women hate each other and are fighting over this one old 54 year old nugga.