Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Alright brehs, I see that this thread is damn near 800 pages long.

Did yall find the women of yall dreams yet?

Nope, I'm progressing though.
-Ended things with my ex
-Built my confidence up
-learned a lot
and today I've just now kind of gotten the idea of not even focusing on women but instead trying to better myself (looking at internships to help children during summer camps in foreign countries; I'd like to go to Italy).

Funny thing happened today, I was walking to my car, seen a girl and she smiles and says "hi" to me but silently so that I could barely hear what she said but instead mouthed the words and then she looked down and bit her lip as she walked past me. Had my face on but on the inside I was like just smiled and kept on walking. The thirst was so under control I swear.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm 25 and married to an amazing man(married for 6 months, he is 30). He goes above and beyond for me. Pleasures me in every way possible. Cleans around the house. Open to communication. Brings me breakfast in bed. Massages me. Makes me laugh. Warms up the car for me in the mornings before work. Cooks me dinners. Sex is off charts. I love him. I can go and on. I go to school part time and work part time. I'm at home about 4 days a week. He works full time hours.
Everything sounds perfect, right?
Anyway, I'm the problem here. It is clearly me, not him, or by any means what he does or doesn't do for me. He satisfies me, however, it's the 'thrill of excitement' that I'm craving. He is fun and exciting, yes. However, it's my OWN issue that's at hand. It's my own little excitement on the side that I desire. To state it simple, just strictly SEX, nothing romantic.
I know this is wrong. I have always protested against infidelity. What the hell am I thinking?
I have not cheated, however, I've gone as far as introducing the idea to men. They're ALL over it, not only for the sex, but I can tell how much these men enjoy chatting me up. I am almost certain they will become attached, that totally makes my ego grow even bigger. As long as I can remember, I have always loved the idea of luring men in and have their weak feelings under my control. As early, as I found out I had this gift, testing it and using it bring me so much excitement.
I understand how horrible this sounds. I really do. I'm usually the one to rip on people who cheat and lie behind their partners' backs.
Please avoid being judgemental. I understand how much cheating hurts a relationship. If I were cheated on, I would never take the person back because of the hurt it would cause to me and the relationship.
I don't know what to do. I will definitely think long and hard before I do anything, I can't allow myself to go through anyway. I'm the type to feel remorse and guilt in a very extreme way, which prevents me from making bad decisions.
I get enough sex at home. However, I want my own little fun on the side to make things more exciting. I want someone to bang me and leave, no involvement that is all.
Any input would help me. Thanks guys.

I don't know where to begin...

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I don't know where to begin...

Haha that's amazing.

 

[CrossBones]

so now i'm wondering if i just let it be and continue being me, and the fact that i'm back to playing it right should keep her in check (or maybe i'm too arrogant at this point?). or should i check her?


EDIT: the fact that i stepped back and took some time to myself (as well as talking to other chicks) definitely helped me gain some perspective and also gave me some time and focus to take care of some other business that needed to be taken care of. Balance your life folks!!!

youll be surprised by how well some women react when you check them. especially if you do it on the spot. some women will respond really well, and it also shows who has the upper hand.

at the least its better than her raising up a stink about her shyt just because you brought it to attention. at that point she needs to be dropped. a lot of them NEED a man to point out what she does wrong and to tell her whats real. they will ultimately respect you for it, and thats what makes the difference in a lot of relationships.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Now I see why rappers say bytches ain't shyt.

In fact I used to feel bad about doing girls wrong, but I'm glad I did those bytches wrong. In fact that's all I'm going to do is shyt on broads from now.

 

[Jason B]

Now I see why rappers say bytches ain't shyt.

In fact I used to feel bad about doing girls wrong, but I'm glad I did those bytches wrong. In fact that's all I'm going to do is shyt on broads from now.

At this moment in my life, I am somewhat in the same boat as you. It seems like the worst you treat women, the more they respect you. Inversely, if you treat them in a half-way decent manner like you would anyone else, they will not have any respect for you. All of this makes the adage "treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen" very true. It is disheartening that one would even to consider taking on this approach, but it seems to be the only way to protect yourself from bullshyt and to get respect from women.

 

[DeuceZ]

basically i met this chick, she was choosing me pretty hard. everything was going cool and smooth. I was in the right zone but then i received some bad advice and the funny thing is, eventhough i told him why i disagreed with him, that shyt still contaminated my mindset with doubt (don't get me wrong, i can't even blame dude, it's my fault for not having the mental toughness at that point). I even made a post about this some time later about not even entertaining simp's advice in convos. but anyway i started to switch up on her a little bit and her behavior changed as well. one day i sent her a text telling her i wanted to meet and she didn't reply in a timely fashion so i had already charged it to the game, didn't chase when days later she sent me a text apologizing because she'd be busy for stuff (she said which stuff, note she didn't acknowledge my request and while i know what she said was true, she was still using that to give me the run around). so i just replied aight. she started flirting a little but i didn't bite and pretty much ended the convo. days later after i didn't contact her, she calls me (i assume her other options didn't workout) and again i didn't check her verbally but my tone might have showed her a little what it was (or maybe not). Anyway, we hung up and the next day i sent her a text out of politeness for something and again, no reply so i said fukk it.

days later she texts me again out of the blue (again, i assume her other options didn't work out). Still didn't check her. I don't know if it's because i'm scared to show emotion cause i'm not even scared of a confrontation with her or anything but i just act like whatever (again, bad move). It's almost like i don't check her because in my mind i already put her in the bushes and talking to other chicks. Almost like even checking her on it would be an extra investment of emotion.

She basically made that bad move twice but i wasn't myself to be honest. The thing is now, i feel cool again (was going through a slump but i feel like i'm starting to get back on my mode). She's starting to show signs that she's choosing again. on one hand i feel like checking her because i feel like if i don't she'll feel comfortable pulling the same move all over again. but on the other hand like i said, i don't appreciate the way she reacted but at the same time i did switch up on her and i understand why she wasn't feeling me like before (only problem i have with her is the way she dealt with the fact she wasn't feeling me as much). I feel like i'm back to my mode and from her recent behavior she started acting right again as well. When i got my mind right she got hers as well.

so now i'm wondering if i just let it be and continue being me, and the fact that i'm back to playing it right should keep her in check (or maybe i'm too arrogant at this point?). or should i check her?


EDIT: the fact that i stepped back and took some time to myself (as well as talking to other chicks) definitely helped me gain some perspective and also gave me some time and focus to take care of some other business that needed to be taken care of. Balance your life folks!!!

Sounds to me she still fronting...If I were you I would just charge that to the game and keep it moving else she gonna be dangling that carrot for a minute while other cats prolly hitting it behind your back

 

[Fatboi1]

basically i met this chick, she was choosing me pretty hard. everything was going cool and smooth. I was in the right zone but then i received some bad advice and the funny thing is, eventhough i told him why i disagreed with him, that shyt still contaminated my mindset with doubt (don't get me wrong, i can't even blame dude, it's my fault for not having the mental toughness at that point). I even made a post about this some time later about not even entertaining simp's advice in convos. but anyway i started to switch up on her a little bit and her behavior changed as well. one day i sent her a text telling her i wanted to meet and she didn't reply in a timely fashion so i had already charged it to the game, didn't chase when days later she sent me a text apologizing because she'd be busy for stuff (she said which stuff, note she didn't acknowledge my request and while i know what she said was true, she was still using that to give me the run around). so i just replied aight. she started flirting a little but i didn't bite and pretty much ended the convo. days later after i didn't contact her, she calls me (i assume her other options didn't workout) and again i didn't check her verbally but my tone might have showed her a little what it was (or maybe not). Anyway, we hung up and the next day i sent her a text out of politeness for something and again, no reply so i said fukk it.

days later she texts me again out of the blue (again, i assume her other options didn't work out). Still didn't check her. I don't know if it's because i'm scared to show emotion cause i'm not even scared of a confrontation with her or anything but i just act like whatever (again, bad move). It's almost like i don't check her because in my mind i already put her in the bushes and talking to other chicks. Almost like even checking her on it would be an extra investment of emotion.

She basically made that bad move twice but i wasn't myself to be honest. The thing is now, i feel cool again (was going through a slump but i feel like i'm starting to get back on my mode). She's starting to show signs that she's choosing again. on one hand i feel like checking her because i feel like if i don't she'll feel comfortable pulling the same move all over again. but on the other hand like i said, i don't appreciate the way she reacted but at the same time i did switch up on her and i understand why she wasn't feeling me like before (only problem i have with her is the way she dealt with the fact she wasn't feeling me as much). I feel like i'm back to my mode and from her recent behavior she started acting right again as well. When i got my mind right she got hers as well.

so now i'm wondering if i just let it be and continue being me, and the fact that i'm back to playing it right should keep her in check (or maybe i'm too arrogant at this point?). or should i check her?


EDIT: the fact that i stepped back and took some time to myself (as well as talking to other chicks) definitely helped me gain some perspective and also gave me some time and focus to take care of some other business that needed to be taken care of. Balance your life folks!!!

This chick I know is like that. when we first started chillin, she was on me HEAVY! Calling me all throughout the day, every day checking up on me. I actually haven't smashed yet despite her coming to my house several times(she claims she's a virgin I didn't ask her so w/e.) I'm not going to lie I wasn't that interested in her as much as she was in me so I always had that distance when it came to who's feeling who.

Recently though for some reason, someone I know supposedly is talking with her and I got a little perplexed and tried to hit her up and now her "phone" doesn't work as good or was broken. She hits me up but convo's don't last as long and calls aren't returned as she'd say. I don't even bother to call her and she calls me a few weeks later like "why u never call me ? "
I don't got time to be playing phone buddy with you!

At this point I just don't hit her up at all really.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

lol @ that car door shyt . that's funny.

man the girl you were dating mrhatecoffee i'd never date a girl like that, such a turn off

i'll hold open a door but not gonna open the car door unless its like a honeymoon or some shyt
the fact she never payed for anything smh

you was caught up hard lol

Usually I'd never date a girl like that either. My whole thing was in the beginning serious dating was out of the questions, it was she's gonna get hers and I'm gonna get mine. I gave in to her will because it gave me the peace of mind to never fall for her. It's nothing to pay for a meal.

Things changed when she started really liking me and pushing for a relationship. At that point I started to kinda feel her too when she started catering. And once I started caring that's when some of the bullshyt I was putting up with had to stop.

but I know I fukked up. kevm was right, I was reinforcing bad habits. Lesson learned.

but we all fall victim to a very attractive girl and her puss.

 

[kevm3]

You might hear some cats talk about giving dimes leeway. That's a sucker attitude. That's simping at it's finest. i remember telling ya'll about the story about me in middle school about me not having a pencil and asking some cat for one and he said he didn't have an extra... but a little while later, a girl asked him and he produced one. That's the kind of thing you want to avoid... making exceptions for a woman. The best attitude to look at it is to have your acceptable looks bar, which a woman at least has to look decent enough for you to be attracted to her. Past that, completely take looks out of the equation and deal with her behavior. You respond, reward and punish women based upon their BEHAVIOR, not their looks, status or any of those superficial things.

You have to be a man that watches behavior. You don't have to treat a woman like trash or any of that nonsense, but what you have to do is you have to remove women from around you that don't have an acceptable set of morals, mindset or doesn't demonstrate the correct behavior. It takes DISCIPLINE to do this because you want to give these fine women extra leeway, but that is exactly why those pretty women act so bad-- because so many guys are constantly cutting them slack, allowing them exceptions, and just accepting their disrespect.

NEVER allow yourself to change your overall demeanor because of women. I'm not going to treat women like trash because a lot of them like that. That's allowing the woman to lead YOU. I'm just going to learn to recognize those women that like being treated like trash and get them away from me as soon as possible. If you have to become a completely different person in terms of your character and personality to have a woman around you, why would you even want her around you in the first place? What real enjoyment would you be getting out of that? I feel bad when treating people like trash, so I'm not going to do that to keep some female's company. It's not a female's company that is what a man should seek, but rather he should seek and only accept a female that brings the proper behavior with her company. This is the importance of learning to be alone, shifting down women in general on your priorities list and never getting too caught up on any one woman. You don't have to treat women bad. You just have to be observant and don't extend yourself to them to where you can be taken for a sucker and you always have to choose among the best with the best behavior.

 

[TheHonorableOmarSharif]

You have to be a man that watches behavior. You don't have to treat a woman like trash or any of that nonsense, but what you have to do is you have to remove women from around you that don't have an acceptable set of morals, mindset or doesn't demonstrate the correct behavior. It takes DISCIPLINE to do this because you want to give these fine women extra leeway, but that is exactly why those pretty women act so bad-- because so many guys are constantly cutting them slack, allowing them exceptions, and just accepting their disrespect.

Exactly. Alot of cats make the mistake of making a tacit attachment just off of the strength of a conversation with a woman they find attractive. The issue in that approach is you open yourself up to lapses in judgment or natural selective bias because "a fine chick is talking with you."

Never engage on more than a friendly/platonic level with a chick that you meet until you are able to affirm your initial read of that female. Guys are far to easy to forget their social worth in terms of dealing with a woman, and give far too much credence to a need to fall into the trap of feeling that an attractive woman giving you the time of day somehow negates the reality that a woman also needs to pass your personal test of worth, and that her "look" creates an interaction that somehow gives her power in determining the overall approach that a guy has to take when trying to dive deeper into what she is all about. (phrasing)

Just because she fine, doesn't mean that you have to lower other standards that you may have set for a woman that you feel would be a good fit for what would adequately coalesce with your wants and needs, as well as lifestyle.

By all means, the three most important words when dealing with the opposite sex, are "Know Your Personnel."

 

[kevm3]

Exactly. Alot of cats make the mistake of making a tacit attachment just off of the strength of a conversation with a woman they find attractive. The issue in that approach is you open yourself up to lapses in judgment or natural selective bias because "a fine chick is talking with you."

Never engage on more than a friendly/platonic level with a chick that you meet until you are able to affirm your initial read of that female. Guys are far to easy to forget their social worth in terms of dealing with a woman, and give far too much credence to a need to fall into the trap of feeling that an attractive woman giving you the time of day somehow negates the reality that a woman also needs to pass your personal test of worth, and that her "look" creates an interaction that somehow gives her power in determining the overall approach that a guy has to take when trying to dive deeper into what she is all about. (phrasing)

Just because she fine, doesn't mean that you have to lower other standards that you may have set for a woman that you feel would be a good fit for what would adequately coalesce with your wants and needs, as well as lifestyle.

By all means, the three most important words when dealing with the opposite sex, are "Know Your Personnel."

Yessir. In their mind, cats have all these high standards, but all of that gets overrode as soon as a fine woman gives them a cool conversation. Just because the conversation is cool doesn't mean she's cool for you. Looks are cool and everything, but looks go away, and when they do, all you are really left with is that behavior.

You got to take things at face value when dealing with women. What makes a woman special is her specific actions towards you that she doesn't perform for other men. Does she answer immediately when you call? Text back immediately? Is she willing to chill with you without you having to pay a dime? If you see her in a crowd, are you the first guy she gravitates towards?

In this day and age, the game has been flipped. It's the men that are the ones getting emotional and the ones craving relationships to validate themselves. I'd like a nice relationship, but a relationship doesn't complete me and I will NOT get in one just to have one. When you start needing a relationship, you will start accepting all kinds of nonsense in order to have the company of that woman. A lot of guys also mistakenly assume that by you 'wifeying' her up, aka getting in a relationship with her, it will keep other guys out of her honeypot... but let's be real. How many stories have been posted of the boyfriend finding out that her 'friend' wasn't really her friend? Being in a relationship with a woman will never 'lock down' that thing between her legs. So cats have to stop trying to rush and make decisions to 'lock down' these women. It's her morals, mindset and behavior that will really determine what in the world she does, not by rushing a relationship wit her.

Cats also got to stop letting other dudes, their homeboys or whoever else put batteries in their back and rushing to get in relationships with these women because they want props from the crew. The most likely scenario is that your crew is hyping you up to get with some dimepiece, but they don't consider her personality at all. Then you start making all these moves to wrap up this fine woman and you're out a whole bunch of money, time and sanity. Be your own man and focus on that woman's behavior.

 

[Xtraz2]

You want to know the flyest pair of shoes you can put on when dealing with women?
Is it mauri gators? Gucci loafers? Air Jordans?

None of the above my friend. The flyest pair of shoes you can put on when dealing with a woman is cement shoes.

we call it "10 toes down" where i stay

 

[Kartel13]

I'm going to have to cut this one girl off. I tried brehs. I really liked this girl. We were going great until her ex came back and fukked things up. Now, I find myself more frustrated than happy. I thought she was the one after all of these years. She seemingly came out of no where. We got along. Had some great times together. But it didn't pan out. We're meeting tomorrow and I'm going to have to man up move on. I just don't thin relationships are for me brehs. Nor is marriage. I don't even like kids.

 

[International Playa]

I'm going to have to cut this one girl off. I tried brehs. I really liked this girl. We were going great until her ex came back and fukked things up. Now, I find myself more frustrated than happy. I thought she was the one after all of these years. She seemingly came out of no where. We got along. Had some great times together. But it didn't pan out. We're meeting tomorrow and I'm going to have to man up move on. I just don't thin relationships are for me brehs. Nor is marriage. I don't even like kids.

Props dude, real men when they notice that the situation has become undesirable or disrespectful, they know to turn back and never look back.