Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I've been thinking about that girl whom I went on the date with last month. I feel like I should have pursued it a bit harder, although she did say she'd hit me up and never did. But it's like I can't do that because I placed the ball in her hands, and she dropped it. Eh I did like her but I guess there's plenty more out there. I just don't want to text her and press on when she may not want me about, plus this was last month, thrill might be gone. Sighh

 

[MikelArteta]

POF brehs, how many messages before you go to meet up?

This girl sent me a message first, so obviously she's interested, and now we've sent a couple messages back and forth, but I don't know what the etiquette or rules are with meeting up.

I don't want to jump the gun but at the same time don't want to lose any momentum.

right away!!

if she looks decent shes getting 100msgs a day, just ask for her number text her then bring out the hey you want to get coffee or something and voila

 

[Turbulent]

I've been thinking about that girl whom I went on the date with last month. I feel like I should have pursued it a bit harder, although she did say she'd hit me up and never did. But it's like I can't do that because I placed the ball in her hands, and she dropped it. Eh I did like her but I guess there's plenty more out there. I just don't want to text her and press on when she may not want me about, plus this was last month, thrill might be gone. Sighh

it's hard but depending on how things ended, your best bet might be to not text/call her. how did things end exactly?

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

it's hard but depending on how things ended, your best bet might be to not text/call her. how did things end exactly?

Hungout Monday night, told her I'd call her Wednesday night to set up another date. Called around 11 on Wednesday night, she didn't answer but texted me back the next morning, we spoke for a while then I popped the question like we should kick it tonight and she said she had a long day and had to study but maybe this weekend she could use some company while studying so I said alright, and we haven't spoke since then.

 

[Turbulent]

Hungout Monday night, told her I'd call her Wednesday night to set up another date. Called around 11 on Wednesday night, she didn't answer but texted me back the next morning, we spoke for a while then I popped the question like we should kick it tonight and she said she had a long day and had to study but maybe this weekend she could use some company while studying so I said alright, and we haven't spoke since then.

bushes.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

bushes.

[ame=http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=B2MCptNzNlg]Nobody knows it but me - babyface - YouTube[/ame]

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

On another note @Turbulent and others, how many of these broads do you throw in the bushes? I swear I've thrown 2 already and am about to throw this third that I met Wednesday in the bushes as well for not responding to my text. It seems like I'm throwing more in the bushes than I really should. And my conversation game and jokes are a1, but when it comes to texting it seems like they expect something from me.

 

[sixsixtwo]

bushes.

Most definitely.. That broad is bluffing like crazy.. She's trying to run a "time ho" program on brother Fox..

 

[Turbulent]

Nobody knows it but me - babyface - YouTube

i feel you man. and i know it's easy to say on my part because i'm not in your shoes. but here's the way i see it (and i was actually gonna make a post today about this).

Usually you feel that way because you feel like you didn't come out with your best foot forward. Maybe you feel like she hasn't seen your full potential and that's why you feel like contacting her. You feel like you could contact her and tell her exactly how you feel with the right tone and delivery and she'll give you another chance.

Let me tell you something man. for whatever reason (maybe it has to do with you, maybe it doesn't) she flaked on you. Maybe she felt something wrong on the date, maybe she didn't like the fact you called late on wednesday, maybe she didn't like your shoes, maybe a better option opened up somewhere else. who really knows. my point is, whatever the reason is, chances are you won't be able to convince her otherwise even if you talk to her. She acted like a coward. if you contact her, you are rewarding cowardly behavior with more attention. As soon as i would have heard the "maybe" i would either have either tried to force a solid yes or i would have did like you did (say it's cool) and already mentally categorize it as a likely future flake. the ball is in her court. If you contact first, you taking an option away from her. By contacting her you're depriving her of the option of doing the right thing. Give her the opportunity to learn respect. then it's up to her to either accept your guidance or not.

I won't front, i slip up at times. i'm far from perfect. and sometimes i cheat a little bit and tell myself "i'll teach her later down the line. i'll give her a pass on this one." Problem is that if you do it too much you end up with a very bad student. it's your call but like i said, i think it's at a point where it's in her court.

 

[Turbulent]

On another note @Turbulent and others, how many of these broads do you throw in the bushes? I swear I've thrown 2 already and am about to throw this third that I met Wednesday in the bushes as well for not responding to my text. It seems like I'm throwing more in the bushes than I really should. And my conversation game and jokes are a1, but when it comes to texting it seems like they expect something from me.

to be frank, i don't really approach chicks like that. but most chicks i'm talking to, it's gonna sound weird but i feel like they're all in the bushes but at the same time they're all out of the bushes.

you have to figure out your code. What is unacceptable behavior from a chick? Reincar had a great view on this (it was about the two strike rule). but it really depends on you. I think at some point you just get a feeling in your gut like something isn't right. Sometimes you feel like a chick legitimately couldn't act right because of extraordinary circumstances. and then sometimes your gut just tells you she's abusing and not respecting your time. when you get that feeling you have to either tell her straight up "I want to meet you at blablabla" or "call me at ____time" or whatever it is you want from her and then she either does it or she doesn't. you let her choose (and always be ready for her to not show up, say no, not call, etc). OR you don't even give her that opportunity to get with your program and throw her straight to the bushes.

but yeah, you'll just know when something isn't right. a chick will even give you excuses and technically she could be telling the truth. but you'll still get that feeling like she's using the fact as an excuse to not commit her time to you (basically fronting on you). Follow that feeling in your gut.

 

[CrossBones]

ay, quick gem right here. there are women out there who love to see how sad or messed up youd be if she was to leave you. they might even ask you this stupid shyt. they do this 1) out of insecurity and 2) to possibly play see-saw with a dudes emotions.

Ive seen some men trip and act all down when their girl is busting their balls, and then go back to being happy once their woman is done running this game on them. its SMH. dont fall for that or play into their threats. never let em see you sweat, and dont even entertain any ultimatums.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

i feel you man. and i know it's easy to say on my part because i'm not in your shoes. but here's the way i see it (and i was actually gonna make a post today about this).

Usually you feel that way because you feel like you didn't come out with your best foot forward. Maybe you feel like she hasn't seen your full potential and that's why you feel like contacting her. You feel like you could contact her and tell her exactly how you feel with the right tone and delivery and she'll give you another chance.

Let me tell you something man. for whatever reason (maybe it has to do with you, maybe it doesn't) she flaked on you. Maybe she felt something wrong on the date, maybe she didn't like the fact you called late on wednesday, maybe she didn't like your shoes, maybe a better option opened up somewhere else. who really knows. my point is, whatever the reason is, chances are you won't be able to convince her otherwise even if you talk to her. She acted like a coward. if you contact her, you are rewarding cowardly behavior with more attention. As soon as i would have heard the "maybe" i would either have either tried to force a solid yes or i would have did like you did (say it's cool) and already mentally categorize it as a likely future flake. the ball is in her court. If you contact first, you taking an option away from her. By contacting her you're depriving her of the option of doing the right thing. Give her the opportunity to learn respect. then it's up to her to either accept your guidance or not.

I won't front, i slip up at times. i'm far from perfect. and sometimes i cheat a little bit and tell myself "i'll teach her later down the line. i'll give her a pass on this one." Problem is that if you do it too much you end up with a very bad student. it's your call but like i said, i think it's at a point where it's in her court.

You made a good point, plus we talked the 14th of march, it's the 6th of April so she obviously didn't care. But yeah youre totally right she did act like a coward and chasing after her would be the mistake of the century, especially after I just got done doing some shyt like that with my ex, it's better I don't entertain these bytches and their bullshyt

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

to be frank, i don't really approach chicks like that. but most chicks i'm talking to, it's gonna sound weird but i feel like they're all in the bushes but at the same time they're all out of the bushes.

you have to figure out your code. What is unacceptable behavior from a chick? Reincar had a great view on this (it was about the two strike rule). but it really depends on you. I think at some point you just get a feeling in your gut like something isn't right. Sometimes you feel like a chick legitimately couldn't act right because of extraordinary circumstances. and then sometimes your gut just tells you she's abusing and not respecting your time. when you get that feeling you have to either tell her straight up "I want to meet you at blablabla" or "call me at ____time" or whatever it is you want from her and then she either does it or she doesn't. you let her choose (and always be ready for her to not show up, say no, not call, etc). OR you don't even give her that opportunity to get with your program and throw her straight to the bushes.

but yeah, you'll just know when something isn't right. a chick will even give you excuses and technically she could be telling the truth. but you'll still get that feeling like she's using the fact as an excuse to not commit her time to you (basically fronting on you). Follow that feeling in your gut.

Basically set standards, and then abide by them. The funny thing is when I approach women, generally they usually turn into nothing, probably because I don't pursue it or they're just giving me their number because they'll feel bad saying no. Why don't you approach chicks on the regular? And why do you feel like most of these chicks should be throne in the bushes?

 

[re'up]

I feel like they're all in the bushes but at the same time they're all out of the bushes. [/B]

Like this quote, feel the same way. Had an applicable situation to this line of conversation, in the last few weeks. Texted a girl if she wanted to do something over the weekend, more specific then that but that was the general text, she gave me the run around a day later, I sent one more text just acknowledging hers, I don't want someone thinking I'm being too petty or offended by their texts or lack ther of....don't text her, or hear from her since.

Then she wants something from me last weekend, and I'm like cool, but she goes all into a whole flirting scenario which I didn't really respond to, I wanted to say 'all thats unnecessary, I'll conduct myself professionally, you do the same, no need to try to manipulate me'. It's hard to tell if people think they are smarter then everyone else, or if they are all just 'intellectually limited' and think everyone is the same.

 

[Newzz]

How did you find your wife?

What made you want to marry her?



Sent from royalty using Tapatalk breh

"How did you find your wife?": I met her at work. She actually approached me, so I knew she wanted me rather then me having to chase after her wondering if she's interested.



"What made you want to marry her?": Quick summary....Her work ethic always wanting to move up in life rather then staying content where she was. The fact that she was such a nice person to EVERYONE she knew....and even those she didnt. She was a great mother and we shared the same interests in alot of things. She had little "weird" things that she liked, which was kinda cute in a nerdy way (I've always liked girls who had a little nerdiness to them ). She held me down when I was in between jobs and always gave me confidence in that I could do/go get whatever I wanted and it even seemed like she believed in me and my goals more then I did at one low point I was going through. Her bedroom game was and I also thought she was cute as well.



At the end of the day......I liked it, so I had to put a ring on it