To be real, sometimes you might just have to drop babygirl and keep it moving and grooving... I'm not saying to definitely do that, but you have to consider it, even with all of the commitment. It's difficult, but if you are exerting extraordinary effort to make it work, more than likely she's not exerting that much effort, which is leading to you chasing her and catering to her to 'make it work.' In other words, you are slowly getting shifted into a butler role and you will find no matter how much you do, and you will end up doing a lot, that something isn't right and your efforts just aren't being appreciated. When a man has to really work to keep a relationship going, it's likely the woman has other plans and interests in mind other than the man she is with. To demonstrate my point, just think of how easy going and how relaxed the relationship was at it's prime. Now I don't know the exact specifics of what the problem is, but if it is you doing a whole lot of work with her having a cold shoulder, then it is exactly how I said it is.
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To be real, sometimes you might just have to drop babygirl and keep it moving and grooving... I'm not saying to definitely do that, but you have to consider it, even with all of the commitment. It's difficult, but if you are exerting extraordinary effort to make it work, more than likely she's not exerting that much effort, which is leading to you chasing her and catering to her to 'make it work.' In other words, you are slowly getting shifted into a butler role and you will find no matter how much you do, and you will end up doing a lot, that something isn't right and your efforts just aren't being appreciated. When a man has to really work to keep a relationship going, it's likely the woman has other plans and interests in mind other than the man she is with. To demonstrate my point, just think of how easy going and how relaxed the relationship was at it's prime. Now I don't know the exact specifics of what the problem is, but if it is you doing a whole lot of work with her having a cold shoulder, then it is exactly how I said it is.
u were taking too long. if the girl was the third wheel, and she's responding well to your convo, there's no reason u shouldnt have smashed that night.
thirdwheelers are extremely vulnerable. they dont want to be the one left out and feeling odd.
i woulda asked her to go somewhere quiet where we can chill. the rest of the group can go to hell. lol maybe not hell, but i'll see em later.
when u go out man, u goto always keep ur objective in mind. when u went out that night, i'm sure your aim was to get chicks. and here is one already delivered to u and u were playing with it. girl probably came out that night with no underwear lol just looking for some realness. and here u are allowing enough time for some other n1gga to come in and try fucck sh1t up.
Needed more sex, went on holiday with my crazy sister in Asia, met a gorgeous australian guy who was hitting on me, remebered the feeling of being desired, had my first ever one night stand. Came back, told boyfriend, got dumped.
We had been together for over 2 years, we were living together.
The end
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We had been together for over 2 years, we were living together.
The end
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Poh SIti Dawn
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Why is every song on my local radio station about love and shyt? Not that I mind R&B, I love it, but when it's on some shyt to where "I'd give my life for you!" I'm just absolutely disgusted. I listen to sad songs, but only by older R&B singers like David Ruffin. Real singers, and no disrespect to @turbulent because I like you, but that Chris Brown song is softer than some nuts and a ballpark sausage in some hot cross buns at an opening little league game, and the musicians that we listen to gives others a representation of ourselves, whether they're intelligent enough to see it or not is far from our decision. You listen to shyt like that on the regular people going to think you're some sort of dancing ass unstable emotional ass nikka, cause that's what Chris brown fans are. You want to hear some real shyt, click play on this and soak up some of that real black man game before America turned our men soft, effeminate creatures.
[ame=http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nxYSTL-B9OY]DAVID RUFFIN - YOU OUGHT TO KNOW ME (1976) - YouTube[/ame]
[ame=http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nxYSTL-B9OY]DAVID RUFFIN - YOU OUGHT TO KNOW ME (1976) - YouTube[/ame]
I can't front...i'm not. I be wildin out
I just love women b lol smh "it just keeps calling me" *pookie voice*
She's worth it. She's a good girl (From what I know). I'm just a wild n*gga with a little bit of popularity so temptation is a b*tch right now. Plus, I don't have my sh*t all the way together.
Another thing...My sex drive has went down something serious. I think it's the stress. Sh1t is crazy. I use to be thinking about blowing backs out 24/7 now its just like whatever. Maybe I need to get back in the gym or something...lmaooo some vitamins or something....my libido swag is looking flabby and sick
Poh SIti Dawn
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Probably be better that you get your shyt together first.
my personal opinion. don't know all the details but she probably knew who you were when she chose you. she probably stayed with you while you were who you are. my guess is she'll start changing if you change who you are. or she might even leave...
if you gotta change your behavior, do it for yourself, never for a woman. If you decide to change your mindset and behavior for yourself, once that's done, check how she acts. if she leaves
if she stays but changes her behavior, check if it's for the better or for the worse, and if it's for the worse, evaluate if it's tolerable enough to keep her or not. what i'm telling you is always assuming you're ready to take the L.HummerCrusher
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I'm sure you've heard about this one. I've known women who would lie through their teeth, send a man to prison for years, and be out there partying with no conscience; like the man whose life they ruined wasn't even a reality.
She's all cheerful, sitting beside the man she royally screwed over with extra cheese like nothing happened. Scouting for him on Facebook when he's released, trying to add him as a friend. Some ****** are out of their damn minds. Srs.
I'm sure you've heard about this one. I've known women who would lie through their teeth, send a man to prison for years, and be out there partying with no conscience; like the man whose life they ruined wasn't even a reality.
She's all cheerful, sitting beside the man she royally screwed over with extra cheese like nothing happened. Scouting for him on Facebook when he's released, trying to add him as a friend. Some ****** are out of their damn minds. Srs.
Especially being a black male who do you think they are going to believe?
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my personal opinion. don't know all the details but she probably knew who you were when she chose you. she probably stayed with you while you were who you are. my guess is she'll start changing if you change who you are. or she might even leave...
if you gotta change your behavior, do it for yourself, never for a woman. If you decide to change your mindset and behavior for yourself, once that's done, check how she acts. if she leaves
When she started f*cking with me I was a lowkey working dude. I just started to hit my prime as far as my brand and my name buzzing...she cant take all the chicks throwing themselves at me. I cant either kinda lol.. I try my best tho.
I feel what you saying tho breh
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just live ur life my dude... u only get one of these things they call youth so anyone who shows you any kind of resistance on the way to your enjoyment, cast them aside
tough call then. it's up to you. reminds me of this thing i was talking about a few pages ago (about compassion). I'm sure you feel in your heart like she had your back when you were low-key. and you feel like rewarding her past loyalty. Only thing i'll tell you. Whatever you choose to do, don't do it expecting anything from her afterwards. if one day she gets a come up or if someone who can provide more happiness to her shows up, don't expect her to stay by your side just because of what you sacrificed for her. You can only reward past loyalty. You can never buy future loyalty. that's why i'm saying do it for yourself and your principles first and foremost. If rewarding her passed loyalty is prescribed by your principles, then do it cause in that case it will be righteous. but you can only do it for that reason. if you do it to buy her compassion or loyalty, you will lose because it won't be righteous. Good luck breh...
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Don't you think though that some of the great legends like Stevie Wonder had some simpish songs sometimes?
Don't you think though that some of the great legends like Stevie Wonder had some simpish songs sometimes?