i understand what you're saying but when i say be a "sociopath", i don't even mean like be a player. i believe in honesty. but what i meant is that it almost seems like you have to not care about what they want or what they could regret in the future. cause even with a "good girl" (matter of fact, ESPECIALLY with them...) that compassion you have could fukk you up. they simply aren't wired like us.
i don't think there are good girls, just like i don't think there are bad/wrong girls. they will just be what you allow them to be. if you get fukked over by the last girl who was once a good girl (but you eventually allowed her to be a bad girl) then when you meet the next good girl, you'll be more guarded and cold. what happens though is that the new girl you pick will probably be even more innocent and seem more nice and genuine than the last one. even worse if she has a sob story. the problem is now, you learned from last time so you will put her through a lot. she seems unhappy and insecure because of it. suddenly that compassion that's wired in you kicks in. you feel "this chick really is ride or die for me...she deserves more of me. she deserves to be more happy. she shouldn't have to pay for the last chick that fukked me over, she's a different person." that's when you're fukked. because she will turn if you change on her.
that's why i said you almost gotta be a sociopath. You could meet the perfect girl for you who truly cares about you, ride or die, sweet as fukk, never did anything wrong to you, always had your back when she didn't have to, showed you loyalty, cooperating, easy-going, etc etc etc....once that protective instinct kicks in and once you start feeling bad for her, you're prey. she sees an opening and you're done. but it's just how we are. we can't help it. nature wired us that way for the survival of the race. if we didn't have that compassion, we'd just play them, fukk em, and not give a fukk about their physical or emotional protection. it's almost like we all have an inner fight in us, both males and females. except their inner fight is in reverse from us. We are wired to be compassionate but we have to force ourselves to be cold to attract them. they are wired to be cold but have to force themselves to be sweet and nice in order to attract us. trust me man, it's the nice ones that could fukk you up the most because it'll be easier for them to soften your heart. and it's not on purpose. they're not evil. it's just nature. if they weren't like that, the human race would be in trouble as well. you have to truly not give a fukk that she seems like an exception. Once you start thinking "she doesn't belong to the game cause she's nice" you're already prey. cause we're all in the game. don't expect her to feel like you don't belong to the game when (not if but when...) the shoe is on the other foot.
the ones that are consciously scheming are easy to spot. it's the ones that aren't even consciously playing the game that will burn your soul the most. fukk what she feels, fukk what she wants, fukk if she never did anything wrong to you. Never think a chick is doing you a favor because she didn't hurt you. Whenever you're with a chick, you have to constantly feel like you're the best thing that ever happened to her and that she's lucky to even have you in her life. Never make her feel like you're lucky to have her. fight the urge to constantly make her feel safe. she should ALWAYS be a little insecure. you should foster that feeling in her (not too much but enough). and you should do it because it's in your best interest. your principals above her life. it sounds fukked up. it sounds evil. it even feels counter-intuitive. but i sincerely think that everytime you will feel compassionate to her you will lose a little (and that feeling is inevitable because it's in our nature.) that's what i meant by sociopath.
and in a relationship, it's inevitable that you will lose sometimes. but you always have to fight the feeling.
