Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Tommy Lee Jones]

issue is dudes aint getting no motion thus want to hang on to any sense of hope. Apps should be some passive shyt you do when on the toilet. Have a real life lol. When you don't have a life apps are your only source thus you try to make anything shake

the problem is bytches are retarded and the younger they are the more retarded. I just matched one her prompt said typical Sunday is cooking for my man. I said this is my love language then we matched. she wrote lol ok and I wrote what's your favorite thing to cook? she says I have a lot.

I already know what type of time she's on either shes dumb, playing games, or just matched to match. usually when they send answers like that it's one of those few scenarios or all 3.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

the problem is bytches are retarded and the younger they are the more retarded. I just matched one her prompt said typical Sunday is cooking for my man. I said this is my love language then we matched. she wrote lol ok and I wrote what's your favorite thing to cook? she says I have a lot.

I already know what type of time she's on either shes dumb, playing games, or just matched to match. usually when they send answers like that it's one of those few scenarios or all 3.

I don’t do online dating but when I did that’s how 90% of my interactions would go.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

the problem is bytches are retarded and the younger they are the more retarded. I just matched one her prompt said typical Sunday is cooking for my man. I said this is my love language then we matched. she wrote lol ok and I wrote what's your favorite thing to cook? she says I have a lot.

I already know what type of time she's on either shes dumb, playing games, or just matched to match. usually when they send answers like that it's one of those few scenarios or all 3.

90 percent of the time
It’s just for attention

Using dating apps in 2025 waste of time

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I think there’s also a communicative and relationship disconnect that has rapidly eroded over the last decade or so and I can’t quite figure out when that happened. Sometimes dating app threads will pop up and older brehs will reminisce about the early days of the apps. 2013-2015 ish and how easy it was to meet women. For example I was on Tinder, POF, Okcupid back then and it was nothing to get a girl to meet same day or next day minimum effort required and they’d be decent quality looks wise and actually pretty cool chicks. Very little cat and mouse games. I used to approach girls in the gym back in 2014-2016 and would get constant dates, no flaking at all. Wild to think about how much has changed.

Fast forward to 2025. Literally 10 years later. What happened?

Going out was the same
Meeting a chick
Day later yall on date or she’s at your place
This was 2015
Not even that long ago

 

[Ahadi]

the problem is bytches are retarded and the younger they are the more retarded. I just matched one her prompt said typical Sunday is cooking for my man. I said this is my love language then we matched. she wrote lol ok and I wrote what's your favorite thing to cook? she says I have a lot.

I already know what type of time she's on either shes dumb, playing games, or just matched to match. usually when they send answers like that it's one of those few scenarios or all 3.

Attention & she don’t like you.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I just matched one her prompt said typical Sunday is cooking for my man. I said this is my love language then we matched. she wrote lol ok

Immediate unmatch after the “lol ok”

rather than tell you you’re at fault for following up with another question, I’d say use your previous positive experiences with initial conversations (online or irl) to emphasize why you shouldn’t have to put up with non-sense.

 

[phcitywarrior]

One thing I’ll say is this, brehs gotta make sure they’re putting their best selves out there, too.

If you got a certain part of yourself that you’re not the most secure in, fix it. Whether finances, weight, housing situation etc.

Have to be 100% with yourself if you’re not yielding the results you’d expect.

 

[Ohene]

One thing I’ll say is this, brehs gotta make sure they’re putting their best selves out there, too.

If you got a certain part of yourself that you’re not the most secure in, fix it. Whether finances, weight, housing situation etc.

Have to be 100% with yourself if you’re not yielding the results you’d expect.

i hear that. for it its being unemployed at the moment but who knows when the market will pick back up

regardless, that supreme confidence is key and you wont have it if certain aspects of life aint in order

 

[re'up]

I think there’s also a communicative and relationship disconnect that has rapidly eroded over the last decade or so and I can’t quite figure out when that happened. Sometimes dating app threads will pop up and older brehs will reminisce about the early days of the apps. 2013-2015 ish and how easy it was to meet women. For example I was on Tinder, POF, Okcupid back then and it was nothing to get a girl to meet same day or next day minimum effort required and they’d be decent quality looks wise and actually pretty cool chicks. Very little cat and mouse games. I used to approach girls in the gym back in 2014-2016 and would get constant dates, no flaking at all. Wild to think about how much has changed.

Fast forward to 2025. Literally 10 years later. What happened?

Huge changes in society, politicLLY, culturally, technologically. If I just assessing a few major areas, how the whole world has been changed, or the western world

-The majority of people on social media in 2008-2015, tended to be young progressives, so social media reflected their values (this is no longer true)

- The majority of people working in magazines like Vogue, Cosmo, GQ, BuzzFeed, tended to be young millennial progressives

-The political scene was the Obama era progressiveness

-Rise of dating apps conincided with these values and this exact moment in generational history. Dating apps in the beginning like social media, were a new way of doing an old thing, people were hopeful, open, exploring, this is before their own behavior was affect by the use of the tech.

Social media: You can write a book, but the article from The Atlantic hit pretty close. It's more than just women have followers and options, it's how social media has taught an entire generation how to view the world, and view themselves. Rather that become the ultimate liberal/progressive many many people became more and more RIGID, as they focused on their brand identity

-Refracting life through social media. Performing life for social media.

-The APP GENERATION that has been taught to input their data, and come back with a perfect match PROGRESSIVE, 100K, 6 ft 2

-Social media rewards extremism. Rewards outrage. Rewards IDENTITY based statements.

Ex) I don't date men that make less than 200k a year
A man has to take me on a $700 date for me to take him seriously
or whatever the example is.

"I don't date men who don't share my exact political views "

Anxiety

Think about what playing a slot machine for 7 hours a day feels like
Think about the anxiety of branding yourself on a daily basis to live up to the standards you are seeing on social media
Think about the pressure to perform the life you want to have

 

[skyrunner1]

I think there’s also a communicative and relationship disconnect that has rapidly eroded over the last decade or so and I can’t quite figure out when that happened. Sometimes dating app threads will pop up and older brehs will reminisce about the early days of the apps. 2013-2015 ish and how easy it was to meet women. For example I was on Tinder, POF, Okcupid back then and it was nothing to get a girl to meet same day or next day minimum effort required and they’d be decent quality looks wise and actually pretty cool chicks. Very little cat and mouse games. I used to approach girls in the gym back in 2014-2016 and would get constant dates, no flaking at all. Wild to think about how much has changed.

Fast forward to 2025. Literally 10 years later. What happened?

TLDR, Social media, Algorithm, technology (smart phone with access to high speed internet and unlimited data plans) allows people to pipe into a neverending feed of content designed to high jack your shyt. This is just the first wave of people who been tapped in last few years.



Long answer, I lived that 2013-'15 wave as an experienced vet armed with years of experience and getting exposed to online spaces like that (though I would say it hurt in beginning than actually helped). Only era better than that was when we were using promoter type software on myspace and essentially turned the website into a dating site where we were the only guys. Myspace let you search by area, build (slim athletic, thick or whatever but incredible, lol) age group, ethnicity, etc. Imagine I could say I want all the 21-25 AA athletic girls in miami and mass text hey you look familiar or cute and get 50%+ response rate. It was that ridiculous, that program did have them introduce captcha tho but we were eating off that for yearssss. Because it was new and unfamiliar. Same like when I was sending direct mail for homes back in day, response rate was incredible, when competition increased, response rate dropped.

I would think many are familiar with the paradox of choice, when exposed to multiple options humans tend to be unable to make a choice. That is what we are seeing now, the type of abundance that makes people unable to choose at all. Add on that time frame you mention, IG hit tipping point around same time, going from like 50 mil to like 500 mil monthly users from the run up of 2013-'15. In that time it went from iphone only to Android, added videos, direct messages, ability to go live, etc. But biggest glitch is when they did their full redesign and go from chronological to algorithm based post first. If there is an algorithm then it can be manipulated and certain people will be pushed and then masses can be influenced. Around the same time, cameras on phones go from ehh to actually decent enough, unlimited data plans were introduced around same time, I think Tmobile was leading the charge in that 2014-16 era.

I lay down all of that to say even with us getting a glimpse of how bad it was with reality tv and women actually watching basketball wives and bad girls club type stuff, it was mainly tied to tv. When IG allowed people to build up followings and then communicate directly then you had even the person on meds being able to have ability to influence the masses. My city is the fronting capital of world, it was IG before IG. People fly here, rent a lambo and be whoever they want to be for weekend, IG allows people to build entire personas online and have people follow into perpetuity. People are literally connected to social media like an IV. I was talking to a 24 year old girl met recently and on first night out I swear I was talking directly to an algorithm. EVERY social media buzzword in first convo (Demure, toxic, narcissist, self care/love, boundaries, gaslighting, etc.) Maybe its the marketing/ad background that has me like but I know when I hear it and I just start going thru the motions. Show me your IG, do you watch youtube? Lemme see, is this your only account? What dances you do on tiktok (the greatest algorithm ever created since i havent mention yet and since they started as kids app, they hijacked gen Z or is it Gen A?) You get someone access to phone and you have everything you need to see whats really good. This is better than when the old school playas used to read their girls diaries (yes I had older cuz who did that when I was jit) Hopefully this mess makes some type of sense, I should of ran it thru AI to clean up..

 

[skyrunner1]

Oh and there is sooo much I had to cut out but can touch on, reason I bring up phone and internet is because going into 2010s most people werent connected like that. Maybe 70% had ONE computer AT HOME. Before then in club it was usually ONE person with a casio camera tryna capture moments and they werent uploaded instantly. You had to go home and then do that, behaviors changed when EVERYONE was connected with an iphone and to web with a camera that took good enough pics to upload. Then when cameras got better, dam people can see how I really look, that is when wearing makeup and makeup artist took off. People spending money on soo many things due to social media (Hair, nails, makeup, bbl, vaneers, etc.) The chokehold is real and though it isnt everyone, its a ripple affect. Even if a women doesnt have those things she probably listens to and takes advice from someone who does.

 

[Ohene]

EVERY social media buzzword in first convo (Demure, toxic, narcissist, self care/love, boundaries, gaslighting, etc.) Maybe its the marketing/ad background that has me like but I know when I hear it and I just start going thru the motions.

does that shyt turn you off?

it turns me off to a degree but i find myself adapting to it due to how common it is nowadays

this last chick would often say, "im just a girl", "____ girlie", and asked me about "icks" on our first date.

 

[skyrunner1]

does that shyt turn you off?

it turns me off to a degree but i find myself adapting to it due to how common it is nowadays

this last chick would often say, "im just a girl", "____ girlie", and asked me about "icks" on our first date.

Like you said to some degree yea. We know what it is, these people are chronically connected online. But it does make it easier from which angle to approach and what basket to put them in.

 

[re'up]

does that shyt turn you off?

it turns me off to a degree but i find myself adapting to it due to how common it is nowadays

this last chick would often say, "im just a girl", "____ girlie", and asked me about "icks" on our first date.

The girlie thing I hear all the time

identity, branding yourself

this may be too far for some, but I read this the other day, and it nodded TWICE at sex when compared with scrolling Tik Tok, which I thought was interesting, meaning people would prefer to just scroll mindless, childish nonsense

‘The Rizzler’ and the Creeping Childishness of Pop Culture

Some corners of American entertainment are becoming worrisomely infantile.

www.nytimes.com

this is the piece

 

[Ohene]

i finally booked a flight to South Africa. Other than Japan its been my most sought after vacation destination