Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

Should have just asked her to link in one fell swoop, especially if you feel the vibe was good. The worst thing is she says no, but so what, you're still living your life. No need to overthink it.
 

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Should have just asked her to link in one fell swoop, especially if you feel the vibe was good. The worst thing is she says no, but so what, you're still living your life. No need to overthink it.

Yeah I thought about that but figured the vibe was so good that it didn’t even matter. Everybody that was out that night kept pointing it out to me too. Oh well you’re right bro no need to overthink.
 

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Met one of my cousin’s friends (baddie) at a kick back a couple months back and we’ve always vibed since we met but I've never pressed the issue. Fast forward to this past Saturday and a few of the cousins go out. My cousin invites her friend and she pulls up late after she gets off work. We immediately start vibing. Good convo, laughing, asking the right questions and we end up getting cozy at the strip club later that night.

I end up getting her number when we were all leaving and she texts me that she made it home and it was really good seeing me again. I tell her the same and we need to run it back soon. I end up texting her again today asking how her week has been going so far and she let me know today has been super busy for her with work. She also asks how I've been doing and if I made it back to Austin since I was back home in Houston. I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

What yall boys think? Should I cut my losses or just see how it plays out. I’m not really with games but maybe I’m overreacting lol.

Just hit her direct with an invite... Just ask for what you both want. I understand the formalities of small talk, but it's really just about reassurance. Just put yourself out there and take the hit, if she ghosts or whatever.

You know her, and I don't, but if it was me, I'd pick the most expensive hotel in Houston and invite her to the bar, and leave the option if you want to eat. Expensive hotels always have a dope, exclusive lounge area with some solid (cheaper) enough food options, and a high end restaurant, if that can be worked in. Say I want to check this spot out. Come with me.

St Regis Houston. Done. edit: 4 Seasons looks better.
 
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Met one of my cousin’s friends (baddie) at a kick back a couple months back and we’ve always vibed since we met but I've never pressed the issue. Fast forward to this past Saturday and a few of the cousins go out. My cousin invites her friend and she pulls up late after she gets off work. We immediately start vibing. Good convo, laughing, asking the right questions and we end up getting cozy at the strip club later that night.

I end up getting her number when we were all leaving and she texts me that she made it home and it was really good seeing me again. I tell her the same and we need to run it back soon. I end up texting her again today asking how her week has been going so far and she let me know today has been super busy for her with work. She also asks how I've been doing and if I made it back to Austin since I was back home in Houston. I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

What yall boys think? Should I cut my losses or just see how it plays out. I’m not really with games but maybe I’m overreacting lol.

You beating around the bush. Ask her out directly.
 

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Met one of my cousin’s friends (baddie) at a kick back a couple months back and we’ve always vibed since we met but I've never pressed the issue. Fast forward to this past Saturday and a few of the cousins go out. My cousin invites her friend and she pulls up late after she gets off work. We immediately start vibing. Good convo, laughing, asking the right questions and we end up getting cozy at the strip club later that night.

I end up getting her number when we were all leaving and she texts me that she made it home and it was really good seeing me again. I tell her the same and we need to run it back soon. I end up texting her again today asking how her week has been going so far and she let me know today has been super busy for her with work. She also asks how I've been doing and if I made it back to Austin since I was back home in Houston. I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

What yall boys think? Should I cut my losses or just see how it plays out. I’m not really with games but maybe I’m overreacting lol.
Everything doesn’t have to be so reactionary to not receiving a response on the timeline you wanted.
 

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Just hit her direct with an invite... Just ask for what you both want. I understand the formalities of small talk, but it's really just about reassurance. Just put yourself out there and take the hit, if she ghosts or whatever.

You know her, and I don't, but if it was me, I'd pick the most expensive hotel in Houston and invite her to the bar, and leave the option if you want to eat. Expensive hotels always have a dope, exclusive lounge area with some solid (cheaper) enough food options, and a high end restaurant, if that can be worked in. Say I want to check this spot out. Come with me.

St Regis Houston. Done. edit: 4 Seasons looks better.

You beating around the bush. Ask her out directly.

:mjtf:way too early

Everything doesn’t have to be so reactionary to not receiving a response on the timeline you wanted.

:salute:
 

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Met one of my cousin’s friends (baddie) at a kick back a couple months back and we’ve always vibed since we met but I've never pressed the issue. Fast forward to this past Saturday and a few of the cousins go out. My cousin invites her friend and she pulls up late after she gets off work. We immediately start vibing. Good convo, laughing, asking the right questions and we end up getting cozy at the strip club later that night.

I end up getting her number when we were all leaving and she texts me that she made it home and it was really good seeing me again. I tell her the same and we need to run it back soon. I end up texting her again today asking how her week has been going so far and she let me know today has been super busy for her with work. She also asks how I've been doing and if I made it back to Austin since I was back home in Houston. I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

What yall boys think? Should I cut my losses or just see how it plays out. I’m not really with games but maybe I’m overreacting lol.
Why didn't you go for it immediately after the strip club?
 

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Cutting down the traps, I met a girl on Hinge. She got all the signs, so I'm like, ok, let me see if I can wipe my dikk across her face. Her first move is to ask for my Instagram. :dahell: Not a date but my IG. I asked why since we could meet and go from there. She says your IG tells me who you are. I'm like, if you don't get your wooden-headed ass out of here with that bullshyt female logic:why: She says it's that or nothing. I said ok. I sent her my nephews IG link and she came back and said you look different from your profile on IG. :birdman: I said that's not me, that 's my lil nephrew. Go play games with a kid. bytch.:mjlol:

Hoes try any and everything to disqualify you. fukk em, keep it moving bro!:camby:
 
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Since we sharing stories I got one. Had a doctor appt yesterday and on my way home I met a chick yesterday at 9AM and was at her place by 7PM. Nigerian shorty with some nice big titties

I asked her if she was down to do drinks this weekend or even that night since I was free. She said we can do the weekend cause shes doing some cooking but asked if I was down to come through instead. Shorty came down to her lobby in a dress with the cleavage out...knew what time it was. But it turned out she was on her reds. Managed to get the mouth though and we going out this wknd.

Moral of the story: as many men have said in here, when you meet a chick don't waste time. If she giving you the run around just move on to the next one. Text her for one-two days max and try to set up a rendezvous. If she balks...forget about it. Cut through all the cat and mouse bullshyt
 
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Met one of my cousin’s friends (baddie) at a kick back a couple months back and we’ve always vibed since we met but I've never pressed the issue. Fast forward to this past Saturday and a few of the cousins go out. My cousin invites her friend and she pulls up late after she gets off work. We immediately start vibing. Good convo, laughing, asking the right questions and we end up getting cozy at the strip club later that night.

I end up getting her number when we were all leaving and she texts me that she made it home and it was really good seeing me again. I tell her the same and we need to run it back soon. I end up texting her again today asking how her week has been going so far and she let me know today has been super busy for her with work. She also asks how I've been doing and if I made it back to Austin since I was back home in Houston. I let her know I ended up staying in Houston for few more days and I let her know the reason. I was expecting her to respond back so I can parlay that into asking her out dolo but she doesn't respond back (or hasn’t as of yet).

What yall boys think? Should I cut my losses or just see how it plays out. I’m not really with games but maybe I’m overreacting lol.
when did you message her last?
 

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true. nothing you can do tbh

as somebody who has double texted in the past, rarely does it yield any results.

this is why it is important to have multiple women on the go. so you dont even care, or notice this kinda thing. cause the truth is that while yall got cozy, you havent really spent any quality time with her and thus havent developed any real rapport. its prolly some other dude she messing with already anyways
 

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true. nothing you can do tbh

as somebody who has double texted in the past, rarely does it yield any results.

this is why it is important to have multiple women on the go. so you dont even care, or notice this kinda thing. cause the truth is that while yall got cozy, you havent really spent any quality time with her and thus havent developed any real rapport. its prolly some other dude she messing with already anyways

Yeah I don’t double text so it is what it is lol
 
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