Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Tommy Lee Jones

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So her divorce just so happened to finalize the day after your date, on a Sunday?

In any case, she just wanted to get folded up in her backseat.
Yeq im a hit her up in few days maybe I can still get it in. This is why you don’t burn bridges and act emotionally.
 

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Women who’ve recently divorced are notoriously flaky. I remember I saw one once made out and all sorts, then she went cold, explained she wasn’t quite ready for anything, let her be.

She reappears a little while later and we meet up again she pulls the same games, we make out she leaves and says she’s not ready for anything beyond kissing and touching.

Left her be. She tried to contact me again after that. But I was over it. A year and a half later I was going out for dinner with another chick and we had just parked up. I see her walking towards us with her dog. She pretends she doesn’t see me.

:lolbron:

One divorced chick I hooked up with told me it took her a while to come round to the idea that another man whose not her ex husband would be inside her.
 

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Do it after the holiday season to avoid the “holiday desperation” / “new year new me” hoes
Yeah pretty much should he off apps until after V Day. Focus on in person only, your current roster, or set a short term personal goal and work to accomplish that until then
 

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Tbh if you’re just looking to smash with no issues.

You have to be upfront. I recently put ethically non monogamous in my tinder profile and I get chicks who say they are looking for long term relationships on their profile hitting me up.

First thing I ask them is you have read my profile right?

In fact I matched an Indian chick earlier that swiped on me. Said that to her, she messages back this evening.


Nice, easy and simple. We both know what the drill is she’s clear what she’s open to and what’s she’s seeking.

No confusion. Which is where a lot of chicks get cold feet they don’t know a man's intentions. If she feels like he wants to get too serious too quickly she’s outta there.
 

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I can still remember in 2017, going on a really romantic, like a 5 hour date with this girl, we had intense physical chemistry, like I was ready to go, and she was still rambling, lingering over our dessert. Followed up about getting ice cream, the most low key casual date, and she sent me this long, long rambling text that felt like a break up. It felt like way too much emotion. It felt honest from her, but also so so over the top. I wanted to say "your head isn't right to get ice cream?!" but just let it go.
 

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Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?
You gotta find a lower investment first meeting option that isn’t a full on date.

Meeting sooner is good but you invested way to much and didn’t know enough to avoid a recent divorcee.
 
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You gotta find a lower investment first meeting option that isn’t a full on date.

Meeting sooner is good but you invested way to much and didn’t know enough to avoid a recent divorcee.
We just went out for food and drinks at a Mexican place and then walked around after.
 

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Tbh if you’re just looking to smash with no issues.

You have to be upfront. I recently put ethically non monogamous in my tinder profile and I get chicks who say they are looking for long term relationships on their profile hitting me up.

First thing I ask them is you have read my profile right?

In fact I matched an Indian chick earlier that swiped on me. Said that to her, she messages back this evening.


Nice, easy and simple. We both know what the drill is she’s clear what she’s open to and what’s she’s seeking.

No confusion. Which is where a lot of chicks get cold feet they don’t know a man's intentions. If she feels like he wants to get too serious too quickly she’s outta there.
Thanks for this, I just hit her up saying something similar like we can still have fun and it not be anything to serious.
 

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We just went out for food and drinks at a Mexican place and then walked around after.

Sometimes any bit of food sends the wrong message.

The standard protocol is
  • Drinks
  • At a place relatively near to your own
  • set the vibe with the conversation and demeanor
  • "Come through, I make a "mean mojito""
Extra points
  • if you get her to buy the 1st drink
  • If you fill top shelf bottles with bottom shelf liquor
  • You tell her she can't stay long because you have an early morning :youngsabo:
 

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Sometimes any bit of food sends the wrong message.

The standard protocol is
  • Drinks
  • At a place relatively near to your own
  • set the vibe with the conversation and demeanor
  • "Come through, I make a "mean mojito""
Extra points
  • if you get her to buy the 1st drink
  • If you fill top shelf bottles with bottom shelf liquor
  • You tell her she can't stay long because you have an early morning :youngsabo:

Nah.... this is minus points. If you gotta resort to this you not ready... straight broke boy behavior
 

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Nah.... this is minus points. If you gotta resort to this you not ready... straight broke boy behavior

That's literally the vibe you want for a divorcee.

She can only see you as a sexual option - otherwise, "I'm not ready to get into something"
 

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I think part of the issue is the narrow lanes that 'we' tend to put everyone based on these societal structures.

"not too serious"

"just want to have fun"

"looking for something serious only"

Doesn't leave a lot of room. And those time worn phrases carry their own baggage of cliche and bullshyt. I don't always have better language, but it's something I work on.
 
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