Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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What is your offline roster looking like? Less problematic?
I dropped them all about a month or so ago, they were a different kind of problematic. They flip flop from extremely hot to extremely cold and distant or are suddenly very shy. There's nowhere for us to go when you're inconsistent, I can't reward and encourage that.
 

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A cheat code when dealing with women.


Always, always, always have a plan.


Even if the plan gets fukked, women just want to see you providing the direction.

It's kind of crazy how much women will ride with you when you come with a plan and back up plans.

Bonafide fine ass woman will get with the program
 

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Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?
 

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A cheat code when dealing with women.


Always, always, always have a plan.


Even if the plan gets fukked, women just want to see you providing the direction.

It's kind of crazy how much women will ride with you when you come with a plan and back up plans.

Bonafide fine ass woman will get with the program

Love that :wow:
 

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Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?
Just tell her you appreciate the honesty and you'll have to end it there. If she says she's not emotionally available don't even fight that uphill battle trying to bring that side outta her. You could stick around but by the time she's truly ready you'll be mentally burnt out and checked out. Just let her go heal. Sounds like it was a decent date just leave it at that breh.
 

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Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?

Leave her alone & move on
 

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Just tell her you appreciate the honesty and you'll have to end it there. If she says she's not emotionally available don't even fight that uphill battle trying to bring that side outta her. You could stick around but by the time she's truly ready you'll be mentally burnt out and checked out. Just let her go heal. Sounds like it was a decent date just leave it at that breh.
Thanks this is pretty much what I did. I’m not here to try and convince anyone of shyt or chase anyone. Was just wondering if she’s being honest or it’s me. I unmatched her and deleted her number.
 

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I deleted Hinge a few weeks ago after I'd had it about a year. I had some random success, but recently I got fed up of meeting women that clearly just wanted a dinner date. Women that have no personality or inclusion in the conversations. They offer no substance other than "call me", "where we going to eat". One pissed me off showing up looking 20 years older than her photo.

I might download it again, I miss the fake "hunt" 😄

Do it after the holiday season to avoid the “holiday desperation” / “new year new me” hoes
 

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Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?

The nice way is to say this is that she realized she wasn't ready for anything coming out of the relationship.

The player way is that You came off too much like a "boyfriend".

To get in the panties, the bar is much higher for a guy that's a good long term bet, versus a guy that she knows that she's not gonna fall for.

So typically

1) Chicks coming out of a relationship want to get banged, not find themselves in another relationship. So they pick lover boys over boyfriend/husband material.

But...

2) Chicks that bang guys right out of a relationship - end up wanting to have a relationship with guys they just banged.

It's very typical behavior, and we've all ran into it.
 

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Thanks this is pretty much what I did. I’m not here to try and convince anyone of shyt or chase anyone. Was just wondering if she’s being honest or it’s me. I unmatched her and deleted her number.
Yeah can't tell if she's being sincere or not. So just take her word and bush her. You don't wanna be her male friend that she trauma dumps on. Also A lot of women try to play these mind games that they get off social media. So if that's her angle then she'll have to learn a valuable lesson. Trying to get people to chase you in your 30s is crazy if that's what she was shooting for.
 

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The nice way is to say this is that she realized she wasn't ready for anything coming out of the relationship.

The player way is that You came off too much like a "boyfriend".

To get in the panties, the bar is much higher for a guy that's a good long term bet, versus a guy that she knows that she's not gonna fall for.

So typically

1) Chicks coming out of a relationship want to get banged, not find themselves in another relationship. So they pick lover boys over boyfriend/husband material.

But...

2) Chicks that bang guys right out of a relationship - end up wanting to have a relationship with guys they just banged.

It's very typical behavior, and we've all ran into it.
Yea I think this is what happened. I didn’t get the vibe she just wanted to fukk but I think date went too well felt like a relationship and she realized she not ready for that. And that’s what jm looking for.
 

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Matched this girl on Tuesday by Thursday setup a date for Saturday. Date was going great but halfway through she tells me she filed for divorced a year ago after being married for 3 years and she just turned 30. Her ex moved to another state.

End of the night we are holding hands, kiss, she’s grabbing on my arm cause it’s cold out. Says she had a great time thanked me for taking her out. I walk her to her car she ask me to drive her car to my car. Then we kiss and go our ways.

The next morning I text her at like 11 am. 10 pm she texts me says sorry for the delay. Her divorced was just finalized that day and her lawyer let her ex know. She told me she realizes she’s not emotionally available to date and that I’m great and it’s not me. I also said this to her on the date like is it too soon?

What y’all make of this? I try not to analyze a bytches actions because they are squirrelly but I’m trying to figure out what happen? Thoughts?
So her divorce just so happened to finalize the day after your date, on a Sunday?

In any case, she just wanted to get folded up in her backseat.
 
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