Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

How do you even ascertain whether she settled with you or not?

Probably from how they act at the onset

1. Inconsistency
2. Indecisiveness
3. Lack of reciprocation
4. Lack of attention

Probably means shes just going with the flow and waiting for you to impress/convince her. She not into you like that but she has nothing to lose by entertaining you and her other options

Meanwhile the girl who really wants you prolly going to let it be known pretty early by being receptive and consistently:

1. Planning stuff for yall to do
2. Initiating conversations/checking up on you
3. Learning stuff about you
4. Making time for you
5. Complimenting you

Etc etc

Women aint too different from us these days. They be knowing pretty early just based on attraction and what other options they have just how far they gonna go with you

 

[phcitywarrior]

Women aint too different from us these days. They be knowing pretty early just based on attraction and what other options they have just how far they gonna go with you

The bolded is so true in this day and age. Women go off attraction in finding a mate whereas I think in prior generations they were more willing to look at the “whole” package.

If the physical attraction ain’t there off the jump, you’re kinda swimming against the current.

I saw @Apollo Creed mention this in another thread and it was poignant. Men are better off building themselves up to be the guy that can attract a lot of women (physically present well, etc) as it saves you a lot of wasted time.

 

[Ohene]

The bolded is so true in this day and age. Women go off attraction in finding a mate whereas I think in prior generations they were more willing to look at the “whole” package.

Now, if the physical attraction ain’t there off the jump, you’re kinda swimming against the current.

I saw @Apollo Creed mention this in another thread but with these dynamics as play, men are better off building themselves up to be the guy that can attract a lot of women (physically present well, etc). Saves yourself a lot of wasted time.

For sure. You cant build yourself up for the purpose of getting women either, it just has to be a byproduct or bonus.

Cause the fact of the matter is that women will like you for different reasons and there is no way of knowing what will attract them. Women will like or not like you for any and every reason; and in the same breath, one women will dislike or like what another doesnt. It's this dumb 'ick' mentality. Some women will even self-sabotage when it comes to messing with you due to their own insecurities

Then there is the question of whether or not they fit into your program because the more you build yourself up the more you start to scrutinize women. It's honestly a double edged sword. I'll meet a woman who I enjoy spending time with, fukkin etc., but it's like social media has them brainwashed. You sit there, look em in the eye and hear them talk and you can jus tell their mind is warped; that they don't get "it" when it comes to this relationship shyt

 

[Ohene]

Probably from how they act at the onset


1. Inconsistency
2. Indecisiveness
3. Lack of reciprocation
4. Lack of attention

Probably means shes just going with the flow and waiting for you to impress/convince her. She not into you like that but she has nothing to lose by entertaining you and her other options

Meanwhile the girl who really wants you prolly going to let it be known pretty early by being receptive and consistently:

1. Planning stuff for yall to do
2. Initiating conversations/checking up on you
3. Learning stuff about you
4. Making time for you
5. Complimenting you

Etc etc

Women aint too different from us these days. They be knowing pretty early just based on attraction and what other options they have just how far they gonna go with you

For instance think of that balloon show people on the coli keep posting. In the few clips I've seen when the woman asks why they popped the balloons a lot of them will say shyt like "he aint my type," "height" or "I wasnt attracted but I wanted to hear what he had to say and give him a chance".

1:20 to 3:45 mark for instance.


That's the type of woman who may give you her number, may even go out with you a couple times, but as soon as you start to escalate she will make excuses like "its too early" or "i am not comfortable coming over yet". When it comes to single women past a certain age, a lot of the shyt comes to "vibe" or "attraction" with them; that's why theyre still single, because they arent approaching dating or relationships strategically but rather based on feelings and lust.

 

[Braman]

Never get in a relationship with a woman that settled for you because she can't get the guy she wanted.

When you are a woman's #1 draft pick, you get the best treatment, loyalty, respect, amazing sex, feed you like a king.

It's night & day difference, best relationship I ever been.

100%. And it can be easy to get lost, bc in the beginning so much is focused on us impressing, pursuing, courting etc. There is a space for that in dating, but you should never feel like you’re in a perpetual state of trying to impress a chick

Sometimes the only time you can realize it is when you do get that admiration and twinkle in the eye from another woman. It would be impossible to settle for anything less again.

 

[phcitywarrior]

For sure. You cant build yourself up for the purpose of getting women either, it just has to be a byproduct or bonus.

Of course, you gotta do it for you, but it’s the same thing many people tell fellas. Get on your purpose and women will come as a byproduct, but it may not be the ones you want.

That's the type of woman who may give you her number, may even go out with you a couple times, but as soon as you start to escalate she will make excuses like "its too early" or "i am not comfortable coming over yet".

Wish I could rep you for the bolded. 100% truth.

When it comes to single women past a certain age, a lot of the shyt comes to "vibe" or "attraction" with them; that's why theyre still single, because they arent approaching dating or relationships strategically but rather based on feelings and lust.

It’s funny you say this because I was talking to my moms about this a few weeks back when she was tryna introduce me to one of her college friend’s daughter, Chika.

Chika fine as hell, 28 yrs old and just started working as a doctor but apparently can’t get a man to commit. My mom was wondering why there were so many pretty, accomplished women that were single or have never been in a proper relationship. Said back when she was in her 20s girls like Chika would have been locked down like 3-4 yrs ago.

I told her there’s prob an attraction gap between the guys Chika likes and the guys that actually pursue Chika properly. It is what it is.

Sometimes the only time you can realize it is when you do get that admiration and twinkle in the eye from another woman. It would be impossible to settle for anything less again.

100%. Been on both sides of the equation. When ole girl messing with you heavy, you’ll know. Interactions will be like playing tennis, good back and forth.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

The bolded is so true in this day and age. Women go off attraction in finding a mate whereas I think in prior generations they were more willing to look at the “whole” package.

If the physical attraction ain’t there off the jump, you’re kinda swimming against the current.

I saw @Apollo Creed mention this in another thread and it was poignant. Men are better off building themselves up to be the guy that can attract a lot of women (physically present well, etc) as it saves you a lot of wasted time.

yep i agree with the bolded

if you can attract women and be the one with options...you'll fare much better than being out here trying to convince the ONE woman YOU like to give you a shot....

it allows you to deal with women with no attachment...

 

[phcitywarrior]

yep i agree with the bolded

if you can attract women and be the one with options...you'll fare much better than being out here trying to convince the ONE woman YOU like to give you a shot....

it allows you to deal with women with no attachment...

As a man, you always want options in life. Work, business, dating etc.

 

[skyrunner1]

Sometimes the only time you can realize it is when you do get that admiration and twinkle in the eye from another woman. It would be impossible to settle for anything less again.

You put into words which were my initial thoughts when I read @International Playa post, Its one of those things that you can try to explain to brehs a million times and they might get it but only have to experience that cooperation and a women really feeling you ONE TIME for it to click in brehs heads.. When she choose you the game is 100 times easier

 

[NeilCartwright]

My ex been on bullshyt lately. We broke up back in late February, cool. But she calls my mom on Mother’s Day to wish her a happy holiday, and sends her an edible arrangement. That was extremely odd but I’m trying not to give it too much mental energy.

And my lil cousin is getting married in the summer, and I’m (pretty sure) the e-invites were sent after we broke up. And my lil cousin tells me my ex accepted the RSVPthats weird too. Why would accept an RSVP to a family event youre not a part off

The whole thing is odd, man. I’m trying on move on but these 2 instances got me wondering if I should worry about it or not

 

[skyrunner1]

My ex been on bullshyt lately. We broke up back in late February, cool. But she calls my mom on Mother’s Day to wish her a happy holiday, and sends her an edible arrangement. That was extremely odd but I’m trying not to give it too much mental energy.

And my lil cousin is getting married in the summer, and I’m (pretty sure) the e-invites were sent after we broke up. And my lil cousin tells me my ex accepted the RSVPthats weird too. Why would accept an RSVP to a family event youre not a part off

The whole thing is odd, man. I’m trying on move on but these 2 instances got me wondering if I should worry about it or not

She willing to take a paycut to stay on the roster I love a gf that becomes a situationship..

 

[Apollo Creed]

My ex been on bullshyt lately. We broke up back in late February, cool. But she calls my mom on Mother’s Day to wish her a happy holiday, and sends her an edible arrangement. That was extremely odd but I’m trying not to give it too much mental energy.

And my lil cousin is getting married in the summer, and I’m (pretty sure) the e-invites were sent after we broke up. And my lil cousin tells me my ex accepted the RSVPthats weird too. Why would accept an RSVP to a family event youre not a part off

The whole thing is odd, man. I’m trying on move on but these 2 instances got me wondering if I should worry about it or not

ignore that bytch lol.

 

[The ADD]

My ex been on bullshyt lately. We broke up back in late February, cool. But she calls my mom on Mother’s Day to wish her a happy holiday, and sends her an edible arrangement. That was extremely odd but I’m trying not to give it too much mental energy.

And my lil cousin is getting married in the summer, and I’m (pretty sure) the e-invites were sent after we broke up. And my lil cousin tells me my ex accepted the RSVPthats weird too. Why would accept an RSVP to a family event youre not a part off

The whole thing is odd, man. I’m trying on move on but these 2 instances got me wondering if I should worry about it or not

Tell your cousin to take the invite back

 

[DJSmooth]

My ex been on bullshyt lately. We broke up back in late February, cool. But she calls my mom on Mother’s Day to wish her a happy holiday, and sends her an edible arrangement. That was extremely odd but I’m trying not to give it too much mental energy.

And my lil cousin is getting married in the summer, and I’m (pretty sure) the e-invites were sent after we broke up. And my lil cousin tells me my ex accepted the RSVPthats weird too. Why would accept an RSVP to a family event youre not a part off

The whole thing is odd, man. I’m trying on move on but these 2 instances got me wondering if I should worry about it or not

Nah. Bring a plus one to the wedding. Make sure she is super bad.

 

[Braman]

My ex been on bullshyt lately. We broke up back in late February, cool. But she calls my mom on Mother’s Day to wish her a happy holiday, and sends her an edible arrangement. That was extremely odd but I’m trying not to give it too much mental energy.

And my lil cousin is getting married in the summer, and I’m (pretty sure) the e-invites were sent after we broke up. And my lil cousin tells me my ex accepted the RSVPthats weird too. Why would accept an RSVP to a family event youre not a part off

The whole thing is odd, man. I’m trying on move on but these 2 instances got me wondering if I should worry about it or not

I mean….There is nothing ‘odd’ about it. You know exactly what she’s trying to do

You just wanted to get that off your chest and that’s cool