Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[T-K-G]

You right fam, I classified us the wrong way

If I was going to be in the location I'm currently at, for at least another year, there's a strong chance that me and this girl would be dating. She's just taking a risk by playing out some roles of a relationship with an end clearly in sight. I also don't want to make it seem like she's all over me, and I don't have an ounce of care or feelings for her.

I've hinted at my scenario a little before in here, but I know it's lost now in the all the pages. But yeah, started off as friends, but now sex has been introduced. Sex is the main, recurring theme in this partnership/relationship. At this point, if there isn't consistent sex, then there's issues.

I'm sort of apathetic. I'm blank and numb towards a lot of aspects of life since I don't like expanding too much energy towards things that could essentially just be trivial. Some of this shyt is draining though.

Getting hit with sad faces after being reluctant to have sex, getting told that I'm not taking her seriously, shyt like that is wack. She tried to say that she's not trippin' since we're not together, but for the amount of time we spend together, she'd hope that " respect [her] as much as [she] respects & cares about [me]."

why are you even feeding into her bs tho?

sounds like she's just thristy for compliments and validation imo


when i see bytches going out of their way to do that shyt i use their own weapon against them


random girl text: you dont respect me blah blah blah blah


me : "k"


shuts all of that shyt down instantly


but you've been feeding into it so it might take you a lil longer to get her to stop doing shyt like that, i would tell you to just call her on her bullshyt but if she's highly emotional like you said, it would get ugly real quick




indifference puts an end to most female nonsense im my opinion

 

[Turbulent]

Now, when I say you are WORTHY of any woman, I didn't say you will catch any and every woman that you go and choose to deal with, because that is simply not the reality of the situation. But I'm saying that to say that you never know if a woman likes you or not until you give her a chance to deal with you or not. The greatest thing you have is not your jewels, car, clothes, etc. The greatest thing you have is your individuality, so express that to the fullest. Your individuality is the only thing someone else can't completely duplicate or go to the store and buy.

I've already made this analogy before, but think of yourself as a chef, preparing the best steak ever. Now, is it a reality that everyone will enjoy that steak you made? Absolutely not. You have some that don't like steaks because they don't eat beef. Some won't eat a steak because they are vegans. Some may not like the seasonings you used on your steak. On the OTHER hand, there are people that will absolutely LOVE the steak you prepared. They LOVE the seasons that you put on your steak. THAT is the audience you want to serve your steak to. You are wasting time trying to take your dish to women who don't have that inclination towards what you are serving and trying to 'convince them' to deal with you. You're going to have a very hard time feeding someone who doesn't like seafood shrimp. That's why it has been said, "A woman has to really like you."

Your mission isn't to catch any and every woman. Your mission is to discover those women that really like you and what you're about and choose among the best of them. So with that said, what you're really out here to do is to allow these women to get a whiff of the tantalizing aroma and to hear the sizzle of your steak, and the one that is really salivating.... if you're digging her too, then let her get a sample of your main dish.

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and another thing we've touched on before in this thread, you choose the best out of the ones that already chose you. but if none of them meet your standards, then you should become a better version of you and then look if more/"better" women are choosing you. do this until you find one you also like and then STILL continue improving yourself because you should do it for you first and foremost, not strictly to get chicks (that's just the side effect)

to connect it with your analogy, if you're not getting enough clientele for your restaurant or if you'd like to get higher paying customers, go back to cooking school and learn new stuff, perfect your craft. new recipes, techniques, etc. then come back with those skills in your arsenal and watch how you get more (and also more varied) clients. but ultimately you're not doing this just for the sake of getting more money. You're also doing it cause you love cooking. it's your passion and you want to learn more (same way improving yourself is your passion)

 

[Medio]

Yeah, don't sit around chattering her on the phone and having these long, drawn out conversations. You're telling her the ending of the movie before she even goes to the theater by doing that. Hit her with a little small talk, tell her what the plans are and then hang up the phone.

yea, when though. I was thinking of asking her sunday/monday to do something thursday.

 

[Turbulent]

Yeah, don't sit around chattering her on the phone and having these long, drawn out conversations. You're telling her the ending of the movie before she even goes to the theater by doing that. Hit her with a little small talk, tell her what the plans are and then hang up the phone.

lol, i made this rookie mistake this week...

 

[T-K-G]

lol, i made this rookie mistake this week...

i just tell them off top that i dont do that texting shyt unless im busy and tell them to.


only conversing through calls and face to face>>>>>>



it's funny, just a few years ago talking on the phone was normal shyt





now it's status when you dont have to text all day

 

[Turbulent]

yea, when though. I was thinking of asking her sunday/monday to do something thursday.

that's why i like to give them my number instead. some guys think it's a bad idea but i usually do it if i feel like she's really feeling me.

best game is no game. call her when you're not busy and when you feel like it. personally i would have sent her a text telling her to save my number on the same day (maybe even while still talking infront of her). then i would have called her when i'm not busy (unless she calls you first). Also, if it's a chick from class/work is different than if it's a chick you met on the street. chick you met on the street i'd probably call in the next 24hours (also i usually tell them i'll call them tonight/tomorrow). if it's a chick from class/work/friend of a friend, maybe i,d send a text within 48hours and then see how it goes. depends on the rapport you already have with her too...


bottom line, don't overthink things. it doesn't really matter that much. if she's feeling you, you could make all the "no-no's" in the world and she'll still jock.

 

[Nintendough]

Another simp Exposed and embarrassed for the sake of a woman's enjoyment and entertainment....




Video: Embarrassing: Dominican Girl Puts Boyfriend On Blast.. Crying On The Phone Over Her All On FB!

SCUST Look at the simp pain in his face.

 

[Medio]

that's why i like to give them my number instead. some guys think it's a bad idea but i usually do it if i feel like she's really feeling me.

best game is no game. call her when you're not busy and when you feel like it. personally i would have sent her a text telling her to save my number on the same day (maybe even while still talking infront of her). then i would have called her when i'm not busy (unless she calls you first). Also, if it's a chick from class/work is different than if it's a chick you met on the street. chick you met on the street i'd probably call in the next 24hours (also i usually tell them i'll call them tonight/tomorrow). if it's a chick from class/work/friend of a friend, maybe i,d send a text within 48hours and then see how it goes. depends on the rapport you already have with her too...


bottom line, don't overthink things. it doesn't really matter that much. if she's feeling you, you could make all the "no-no's" in the world and she'll still jock.

yea bruh, she has my number also though and I have hers. and i'm not gonna try to overthink things like I did last time

yea but when you say you'd call them, you'd call them to go out or call them just about bullshyt ?

 

[Turbulent]

yea bruh, she has my number also though and I have hers. and i'm not gonna try to overthink things like I did last time

yea but when you say you'd call them, you'd call them to go out or call them just about bullshyt ?

depends if you're strictly trying to fukk or if you want to get to know her first.

if you're trying to fukk, call her, do some small talk, get her to "drop the mask" and be herself with you. then tell her you gotta go but you genuinely enjoyed the convo with her. tell her something like "what i like about you is that there's no pretending" say it in your own words if you wouldn't talk like that. then tell her you'd like to meet up spontaneously. if she asks to do what, tell her you want to take a walk, maybe coffee. (DO NOT TRY TO CONVINCE HER' DO NOT BE PUSHY OR NEEDY). if she says no don't be bitter, don't act like a bytch, just be cool and move on from it. once you meet her, it all depends on your G. convo should last maybe 30 mins/ an hour.


if you're just trying to get to know her, call, small talk for 5 minutes and tell her you'd like to get to know her more and set up the date.




EDIT: you don't necessarily HAVE to do it that way, that's my M.O. sometimes it works, sometimes it fails

 

[Sharp]

For those who don't know my background, I'm currently separated from my wife.

I've been dating numerous women for the past couple of months.

These are some things that I have witnessed:

1. Women will fight for your time if you are a great catch and you make yourself exclusive.

*** Normally, you would believe that if you only call a girl once every 2-3 weeks she would not even entertain you as she probably moved on to the next. But this is not necessarily true. If you make a great first impression, remain polite and respectful; even if you don't speak to her often, she will continue to have interest because they don't consider you not calling them to be a red flag. What they consider to be a red flag is you calling them only when you want some sex. I call these ladies probably once a week, just to say hi, see how they're doing, and arrange a date. And when I do spend time with them, I make sure that they have a great time and are comfortable.

Before I used to be afraid to call a chick after not speaking to her for a month. Now, I do it with ease because if she feels you are worth it, she will entertain you and seek ways to get more of your time.


2. Women are attracted to image and power. Most women like what other women like.

***** It's like exponents. If women are attracted to you, other women will sense that attraction and more than likely become attracted when exposed to you. For example, if I'm talking with a beautiful young lady, making her smile and blush, and she's obviously enjoying my company, best believe another female is watching. She's attracted to me because she's attracted to my interaction with the other lady. This is why most women get jealous of their friends who have great husbands because they get to view and ultimately desire that type of interaction. Their friend's husband has become attractive to them. It's science bro.. don't ask me how.

 

[DaRealness]

For those who don't know my background, I'm currently separated from my wife.

I've been dating numerous women for the past couple of months.

These are some things that I have witnessed:

1. Women will fight for your time if you are a great catch and you make yourself exclusive.

*** Normally, you would believe that if you only call a girl once every 2-3 weeks she would not even entertain you as she probably moved on to the next. But this is not necessarily true. If you make a great first impression, remain polite and respectful; even if you don't speak to her often, she will continue to have interest because they don't consider you not calling them to be a red flag. What they consider to be a red flag is you calling them only when you want some sex. I call these ladies probably once a week, just to say hi, see how they're doing, and arrange a date. And when I do spend time with them, I make sure that they have a great time and are comfortable.

Before I used to be afraid to call a chick after not speaking to her for a month. Now, I do it with ease because if she feels you are worth it, she will entertain you and seek ways to get more of your time.


2. Women are attracted to image and power. Most women like what other women like.

***** It's like exponents. If women are attracted to you, other women will sense that attraction and more than likely become attracted when exposed to you. For example, if I'm talking with a beautiful young lady, making her smile and blush, and she's obviously enjoying my company, best believe another female is watching. She's attracted to me because she's attracted to my interaction with the other lady. This is why most women get jealous of their friends who have great husbands because they get to view and ultimately desire that type of interaction. Their friend's husband has become attractive to them. It's science bro.. don't ask me how.

I'm in a similar boat to you, although I haven't dated since November and may even leave it for this year tbh (although a lot of people around me strongly disagree) since I'm working on myself. But I remember that thread you made a long while back about men who are separated/divorced and that shyt was like therapy at the time.

 

[sixsixtwo]

Feminist Self-Annihilation | Free Northerner

Baby Rabies and a Traditional Wife | Free Northerner

 

[Two Stacks]

*learning*

just text this chick i met at work that i wanna go out with her next saturday. and to hit me up if shes interested.

no more no less. good move from what im seeing in here

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

breh i was engaged to a russian, mostly every girl i dated in my life i was the first black guy they dated, if your gonna get rejected your gonna get rejected, the odds of a girl saying eww dont talk to me your black is slim, she may reject you because your black she may not.


Rejection is better than regret.
Opportunities are brilliantly disguised as impossible
situations!
-Pook

you should check out this ebook
http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/book_of_pook.pdf

damn good point. What happened though? Why aren't yaw married?

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

you might as well approach and pursue them if youre interested. you cant know everything beforehand. and theres no loss if you try to holla and then see that it wont work.

at the least you can say that youve tried, because theres a chance their peoples arent openly, or dangerously racist. they could be open minded. dont let fear and negativity stop you from trying something you want. also, if it doesnt work, it makes you more aware of what to look for next time. little cues and statements they may make. I would try it. I hollered at some french chick who I thought would be down, and straight up told me it wont work because of her parents. whether that was true, or just because she wasnt feeling me, at the very least it was good to hear ahead of time.

Yeah man you make a good point. Tbh I just get pissed off when someone tells me I can't have something and then especially because of race it's like, bytch my family is probably better than yours how can you even think so highly of yourselves after saying shyt like that?