Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Doin2Much Williams]

Thanks yaw. I just be seeing some cute ones, but be afraid cause I'm thinking damn they don't date black guys, although I probably dress/look better than the guys they end up with. I'm talking about Russian women btw

Defeatist, yes because you're going into the idea of dating them with preconceived notions.

Always hit the reset button with every new chick you encounter. And always harness the mentality that she is going to be who you want her to be, not what her family has engrained in her little forehead or what traditional/cultural ideas have implemented in her thought process (and if you just trine fukk... that's great that she isn't allowed to date brothas, younger girls LOVE to rebel).

Even if you DO fall in love with the babe, who cares what her family thinks - but at this point, all that relationship/matrimonial stuff shouldn't even be in the equation. You asking some profound questions, beigh. Especially somebody at your age.

But that's good though. You have a very inquisitive nature... it's a great quality.

Keep 'em coming. Assembly belt.


But by the end of the day, if you like her, get 'em.


Who knows, she might be the greatest thing you've ever not skipped out on.


Deeg?


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[MikelArteta]

In terms of advice on dealing with relationship with women and balancing wants and needs with your woman, or just basic advice on dating and attracting women? That's good stuff to discus.

The thread seems to have been hijacked and derailed a bit into a circle-jerk of spiteful woman-haters lamenting that gender relations and womens' rights have moved beyond the Bronze Age. That's what I was commenting on.

why dont you quote something in this thread that is bashing women or hating on women?

while we wait

like is aid ive been posting in this thread from day 1




let me just add on women want their men to lead, and most men want to lead in the relationships, there is a reason why there is still stigma when a woman mkaes more than her husband.

 

[MikelArteta]

Thanks yaw. I just be seeing some cute ones, but be afraid cause I'm thinking damn they don't date black guys, although I probably dress/look better than the guys they end up with. I'm talking about Russian women btw

breh i was engaged to a russian, mostly every girl i dated in my life i was the first black guy they dated, if your gonna get rejected your gonna get rejected, the odds of a girl saying eww dont talk to me your black is slim, she may reject you because your black she may not.


Rejection is better than regret.
Opportunities are brilliantly disguised as impossible
situations!
-Pook

you should check out this ebook
http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/book_of_pook.pdf

 

[Wild self]

Kevm3 was justifying and defending Chris Brown for beating Rihanna's ass earlier in the thread. Reincar is worse. Dude literally laughed at spousal rape on the old site, and said that a man's wife's vagina is a his possession and equated it to a car. That's the type of dudes you're dealing with. There's no reaching them with rationality.

None of the dudes have any women. That's what funny, lol. We're supposed to be listening to dudes in their 20's with no education in counseling or psychology, and no wife, and strings of bad relationships who are spiteful from having been cheating on or having their potential children aborted by women "drop knowledge" or relationships.

Part of the reason why I know most of the stuff they're talking is bullshyt is because I am married for 6 years and have been with the same woman for going on 10 years, and I am the more dominant one and she is more submissive and some of our issues we've had in the past have arisen out of that dynamic. It's not perfect and we definitely have had our ups and downs and have even been on the brink of divorce before like most couples nowadays, but we've worked out a lot of things are we're closer now than ever.

Some women are comfortable totally submitting, not having an opinion and just cooking, cleaning, and childbearing due to how they have been acculturated. But unless you get a wife straight off the boat from Saudi Arabia somewhere, that's probably not going to be the case in America in 2013. So you can sit there and be bitter and cry like a little bytch because it's not the 1940's anymore, which ironically is not "manly" at all, or you can deal with reality (personally I wouldn't even want a woman like that).

Relationships have their distinct dynamics and there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution. There's going to be a struggle for power and respect, but that's something you have to work out and determine with your partner. Like I said, I have always been the more dominant one and my wife would often just accommodate me. But too much accommodation and lack of assertion on the part of a woman over time + verbal disrespect leads to built-up resentment and that will manifest itself in some ugly ways. She's not a dummy or some stepford wife. She's intelligent and college-educated.

So that's something we had to work out. We were getting into some bad fights over minor stuff that blew up much bigger than they should. We went to marriage counseling. Did weekly "active listening times" where we openly aired out our grievances or whatever. We started communicating more, respecting each other more, and alleviating the power struggle and being more cognizant that this is a partnership, not a hierarchy.

And at the end of the day, I do "lead" most of time. But there's a process where ideas are shared and the best agreement is reached. My logic has always been sharp, but now my communication skills are more effective so that I can articulate myself in a way that has her like And she usually agrees based on practicality, not submission. She trusts me to handle finances because I do a good job at it. And I listen to her and sometimes her ideas are better than mine. If they are, we go with them. That's a respectful, adult relationship.

But I suppose I could've just keep alienating her until she left then immersed myself into a world of internet losers calling people "manginas" and "white knights" and crying about women not submitting.

Love should not be a power struggle. But more power to you if you don't want a woman to listen to your word.

 

[Dusty Bake Activate]

a lot of this thread has been about being cognizant enough to know not to get with a woman who will start argument with you on little things and try to basically pull your card which is what your wife was doing. you were not smart enough to check her on it off rip and instead chose to live in a fantasy that she would never do something like that to you. i hope your marriage works out and everything but because you chose this path she will now always question your power in the back of her mind. you keep trying to degrade it but a big point of this thread was to fix situations like that. you talking down on everybody and acting bulletproof is immature. reading your situation with your wife you should be more constructive in a thread like this than you are because a lot of this information is speaking on a lot of the things you posted

Lol...first of all, you know nothing about women, relationships, or life in general. You are like 19, socially awkward, you don't have a girl or an active dating life. Your entire conception of women is based upon reading chauvinistic, ill-informed pop psychology and resentment over years of rejection from women. There is nothing you can school me to about women. Let's get that out of the way first.

If you actually read what I was saying, my experience illustrates the pitfalls of being too dominant and aggressive in a relationship. What happens over time when a woman is constantly accommodating and suppressing her opinion to keep her man happy, she builds resentment which will manifest itself in deleterious ways.

It's funny that you immediately resort to the juvenile "you share that girl" line because the subordinate church mouse role you demand a woman stay resigned to is a pretty good way to assure infidelity because years of suppression and accomodation leads to secrecy, emotional disconnectedness, and duality of character, which could foster cheating. There's no surprise that some of dudes espousing this stuff have admittedly been cheated on.

On the contrary, women respect a man who is not a doormat nor an overseer, and is assertive yet self-aware and can take honest respectful criticism and will put forth effort to make things better.

That is your lesson for the day that you can hopefully apply if you every manage to bag a woman. The fact that you laugh at open communication and balancing desires in a relationship and quake in fear at the prospect that being less iron-fisted with a woman will inevitably result in her fukking someone else proves how juvenile, insecure, and ignorant your views are.

 

[Dusty Bake Activate]

Love should not be a power struggle. But more power to you if you don't want a woman to listen to your word.

When did I say she doesn't listen to me? I'm sorry to break it to you but there's going to be power struggles in any long term relationship eventually. How you balance it is key. If you're not prepared to deal with it, don't get in one...or move to Saudi Arabia.

 

[Wild self]

When did I say she doesn't listen to me? I'm sorry to break it to you but there's going to be power struggles in any long term relationship eventually. How you balance it is key. If you're not prepared to deal with it, don't get in one...or move to Saudi Arabia.

I prefer getting an introverted woman that is humble and submit like any immigrant woman with a functional brain. Thank you. There can't be 2 captains to the ship.

 

[kevm3]

Man this negro stays stalking cats attempting to cause some kind of drama for attention. You notice how he doesn't make a SINGLE post attempting to contribute knowledge, but everywhere he goes, he's arguing with someone and attempting to talk down on someone? First thing he does is come up in here bringing my name up. I never bother addressing this lame, but do my best to ignore this cat because I already know his little routine. He will try to go in your post history and cherry pick things and try to flip it on you.

I have never found rape in any form funny and if your sucker butt really was reading you would have known in this thread I've said you can't own a woman's vagina and never will. Now get out of here with your nonsense. This lame bird chest negro stays coming up in threads, following cats around, big dog woofing, but when he gets exposed, he runs off with his tail between his legs. When they put his pics up oh sohh the kid disappeared off the site and then came back with a whole new name, which is his current name. He was talking crazy until Malc made him back down a few months back as well. Let's put this cornball on ignore and lets keep kicking the knowledge and keep this thread flowing how it was.

 

[Dusty Bake Activate]

Man this negro stays stalking cats attempting to cause some kind of drama for attention. You notice how he doesn't make a SINGLE post attempting to contribute knowledge, but everywhere he goes, he's arguing with someone and attempting to talk down on someone? First thing he does is come up in here bringing my name up. I never bother addressing this lame, but do my best to ignore this cat because I already know his little routine. He will try to go in your post history and cherry pick things and try to flip it on you.

I have never found rape in any form funny and if your sucker butt really was reading you would have known in this thread I've said you can't own a woman's vagina and never will. Now get out of here with your nonsense. This lame bird chest negro stays coming up in threads, following cats around, big dog woofing, but when he gets exposed, he runs off with his tail between his legs. When they put his pics up oh sohh the kid disappeared off the site and then came back with a whole new name, which is his current name. He was talking crazy until Malc made him back down a few months back as well. Let's put this cornball on ignore and lets keep kicking the knowledge and keep this thread flowing how it was.

You seem pretty agitated, friend. What did I say about you that bothered you so much that you went into this tempest of personal invective? That you are in your 20's, have no education in counseling or psychology, failed relationships and no woman? That's true info that you volunteered yourself and pertinent to your qualifications since you positing yourself as some kind of relationship advice guru and have 4755367886433 posts in this thread.

I didn't say that rape stuff about you, I said Reincar said it. Read the post first if you're going to respond.

I did "drop knowledge," or more accurately give my take on relationship matters. Your problem is in your infinite arrogance you think your warped chauvinistic views are synonymous with "dropping knowledge" so you get irritable whenever they're questioned. For all the "knowledge" you drop it certainly doesn't seem to be advancing your success with women nor your station in life.

 

[Dusty Bake Activate]

why dont you quote something in this thread that is bashing women or hating on women?

while we wait

like is aid ive been posting in this thread from day 1




let me just add on women want their men to lead, and most men want to lead in the relationships, there is a reason why there is still stigma when a woman mkaes more than her husband.

I'd have to quote almost everything you've said in this thread.

 

[DaRealness]

Kevm3 was justifying and defending Chris Brown for beating Rihanna's ass earlier in the thread. Reincar is worse. Dude literally laughed at spousal rape on the old site, and said that a man's wife's vagina is a his possession and equated it to a car. That's the type of dudes you're dealing with. There's no reaching them with rationality.

None of the dudes have any women. That's what funny, lol. We're supposed to be listening to dudes in their 20's with no education in counseling or psychology, and no wife, and strings of bad relationships who are spiteful from having been cheating on or having their potential children aborted by women "drop knowledge" or relationships.

Part of the reason why I know most of the stuff they're talking is bullshyt is because I am married for 6 years and have been with the same woman for going on 10 years, and I am the more dominant one and she is more submissive and some of our issues we've had in the past have arisen out of that dynamic. It's not perfect and we definitely have had our ups and downs and have even been on the brink of divorce before like most couples nowadays, but we've worked out a lot of things are we're closer now than ever.

Some women are comfortable totally submitting, not having an opinion and just cooking, cleaning, and childbearing due to how they have been acculturated. But unless you get a wife straight off the boat from Saudi Arabia somewhere, that's probably not going to be the case in America in 2013. So you can sit there and be bitter and cry like a little bytch because it's not the 1940's anymore, which ironically is not "manly" at all, or you can deal with reality (personally I wouldn't even want a woman like that).

Relationships have their distinct dynamics and there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution. There's going to be a struggle for power and respect, but that's something you have to work out and determine with your partner. Like I said, I have always been the more dominant one and my wife would often just accommodate me. But too much accommodation and lack of assertion on the part of a woman over time + verbal disrespect leads to built-up resentment and that will manifest itself in some ugly ways. She's not a dummy or some stepford wife. She's intelligent and college-educated.

So that's something we had to work out. We were getting into some bad fights over minor stuff that blew up much bigger than they should. We went to marriage counseling. Did weekly "active listening times" where we openly aired out our grievances or whatever. We started communicating more, respecting each other more, and alleviating the power struggle and being more cognizant that this is a partnership, not a hierarchy.

And at the end of the day, I do "lead" most of time. But there's a process where ideas are shared and the best agreement is reached. My logic has always been sharp, but now my communication skills are more effective so that I can articulate myself in a way that has her like And she usually agrees based on practicality, not submission. She trusts me to handle finances because I do a good job at it. And I listen to her and sometimes her ideas are better than mine. If they are, we go with them. That's a respectful, adult relationship.

But I suppose I could've just keep alienating her until she left then immersed myself into a world of internet losers calling people "manginas" and "white knights" and crying about women not submitting.

I'm reading this post and fundamentally you're not really saying anything different to what the majority of posters have already been expressing throughout this thread. It's clear that you're here because of some personal gripe and nothing more and all this talk about "misogyny" is just a smokescreen. After all the recent rants by the opposition that, out of nowhere, have suddenly flooded this thread, I've seen dudes clearly explain their positions until they're blue in the face and one poster even waved the white flag, yet you don't even want to come to some kind of agreement or common ground, but just repeat the same thing over and over just to cause disruption.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

 

[kevm3]

Anyways let's get this thread back on track. Today I went ahead and bought a ring... It really feels great upgrading different aspects of my wardrobe and watching it all come together in a fly way. Two-toned with chocolate diamonds... this one to be exact:

Kay - Men's Diamond Ring 1/2 ct tw Round-cut Sterling Silver/10K Gold

i'm really about to set some funds aside this year and have my wardrobe razor sharp. It's amazing how much of a difference dressing right can make.

 

[Sharp]

Kevm3 was justifying and defending Chris Brown for beating Rihanna's ass earlier in the thread. Reincar is worse. Dude literally laughed at spousal rape on the old site, and said that a man's wife's vagina is a his possession and equated it to a car. That's the type of dudes you're dealing with. There's no reaching them with rationality.

None of the dudes have any women. That's what funny, lol. We're supposed to be listening to dudes in their 20's with no education in counseling or psychology, and no wife, and strings of bad relationships who are spiteful from having been cheating on or having their potential children aborted by women "drop knowledge" or relationships.

Part of the reason why I know most of the stuff they're talking is bullshyt is because I am married for 6 years and have been with the same woman for going on 10 years, and I am the more dominant one and she is more submissive and some of our issues we've had in the past have arisen out of that dynamic. It's not perfect and we definitely have had our ups and downs and have even been on the brink of divorce before like most couples nowadays, but we've worked out a lot of things are we're closer now than ever.

Some women are comfortable totally submitting, not having an opinion and just cooking, cleaning, and childbearing due to how they have been acculturated. But unless you get a wife straight off the boat from Saudi Arabia somewhere, that's probably not going to be the case in America in 2013. So you can sit there and be bitter and cry like a little bytch because it's not the 1940's anymore, which ironically is not "manly" at all, or you can deal with reality (personally I wouldn't even want a woman like that).

Relationships have their distinct dynamics and there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution. There's going to be a struggle for power and respect, but that's something you have to work out and determine with your partner. Like I said, I have always been the more dominant one and my wife would often just accommodate me. But too much accommodation and lack of assertion on the part of a woman over time + verbal disrespect leads to built-up resentment and that will manifest itself in some ugly ways. She's not a dummy or some stepford wife. She's intelligent and college-educated.

So that's something we had to work out. We were getting into some bad fights over minor stuff that blew up much bigger than they should. We went to marriage counseling. Did weekly "active listening times" where we openly aired out our grievances or whatever. We started communicating more, respecting each other more, and alleviating the power struggle and being more cognizant that this is a partnership, not a hierarchy.

And at the end of the day, I do "lead" most of time. But there's a process where ideas are shared and the best agreement is reached. My logic has always been sharp, but now my communication skills are more effective so that I can articulate myself in a way that has her like And she usually agrees based on practicality, not submission. She trusts me to handle finances because I do a good job at it. And I listen to her and sometimes her ideas are better than mine. If they are, we go with them. That's a respectful, adult relationship.

But I suppose I could've just keep alienating her until she left then immersed myself into a world of internet losers calling people "manginas" and "white knights" and crying about women not submitting.

First of all, I'm happy for you and your wonderful marriage. You've found a situation and method that works for you.

However, you're under the assumption that the attributes that are existent in your relationship and exhibited by your wife is extrapolated to all women. Sometimes it's better just to give advice than to put everybody else down before saying "here, what I have over here is better." Not quite sure that will go over well.

As far as the material in this thread, everybody doesn't agree with everything. The difference is that we don't waste our times trying to argue with people about what they "feel" or "believe". We keep and build on what we think makes sense to us, and we discard what we don't.

We also have to humble ourselves. You made a comment about none of these guys having women. Everybody in here has dated women before. If they didn't, then they would have anything to reference from. Some of the time they are referencing from experience, sometimes they reference from theory. We're all different ages as well.

I don't like the tone of this thread lately. It's been hostile. People are attacking this thread, instead of ignoring it if they don't like or respect the content.

Instead of taking the "You dudes are gay and don't know how to deal with women" approach, how about "Hey, this is something I learned while dealing with my lady... maybe this might work for you."

Just food for thought.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'd have to quote almost everything you've said in this thread.

Im waiting go ahead, keep speaking tales

You hate what kevm says because you hate religion.
You've said nothing of value, and just name calling and throwing out women hater


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