Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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One of the theories I have been playing with, is the idea that based on a fusion of technology/how social media/tech has rewired us, is the idea that people treat their phones, specifically something like texts, as an extension of themselves, like an appendage, and if "we" are full of anxiety, apprehension, awkwardness, our messages will reflect that

it becomes like an emotionally based/signaling mechanism, and not a straightforward medium for communication. basically all those tools are engagement devices, to keep us more engaged with our phones, editing pictures, editing your texts post send, selecting emojis, double tap, and then the ones we invent for ourselves, like late responses, vs immediate ones, "leaving people on read", ghosting on and on. but they don't make for great communication.
 

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One of the theories I have been playing with, is the idea that based on a fusion of technology/how social media/tech has rewired us, is the idea that people treat their phones, specifically something like texts, as an extension of themselves, like an appendage, and if "we" are full of anxiety, apprehension, awkwardness, our messages will reflect that

it becomes like an emotionally based/signaling mechanism, and not a straightforward medium for communication. basically all those tools are engagement devices, to keep us more engaged with our phones, editing pictures, editing your texts post send, selecting emojis, double tap, and then the ones we invent for ourselves, like late responses, vs immediate ones, "leaving people on read", ghosting on and on. but they don't make for great communication.
This makes a bit of sense. I just dealt with a girl who ghosted on me the other day (wasn't for dating purposes, i wanted something back). Let's just say im a mix of fuming and fukking irritated.
 

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so, my takeaway is more along the lines of being a little more "lenient", rather than lashing out, or "cutting someone off" who doesn't answer, or doesn't answer back exactly how I would prefer.

was saying on the other page, some girl I know started a group chat, there's on like 5 of us trying to get together,

I hit her up, and she's like lets start a chat, it's active, she's now not responding to her OWN GROUP CHAT. Like, that's madness to me lol

@MisterMajesty , some guy I know in that chat, I called him an hour or so after he responded, just to catch up and trade stories, he was friends with my best friend, who died, left dude a VM, and no answer, and it's nothing urgent, he has no issue with me, and I'm not asking for a favor, people are just fried.

edit: and who you think was FIRST to reply in that chat lol by the girl, within 30 seconds
 
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its done never double text. Thank God for the blessing you don't know if this chick got a crazy ex, is crazy herself, cheated on her past ten bfs etc. etc.

if it doesn't work out :blessed:

Every rejection brings you closer to a great woman
I’m not a firm believer in no double texting cuz it’s proven not to be the case a couple of times. I feel you tho. A lot of truths in your post
 

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What do you mean

You are naive if you don’t think dating apps play a big part in why things are weird these days
Most people on apps aren’t looking for relationships

Apps have made the pursuit of casual sex and general dating weird, not relationships
 

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Texting shorty, pull up to her crib…thinking we chilling there…she come outside ready to come to my spot…I’m like yo what’s up ya baby awake lol

“No she sleep”

Aight let’s go in

“My mama in there with her”

:what: :what: why tf you ain’t say that in the text lmaooo

“I thought we was on same page”

Smh mane. Ain’t even said she stay with her mama. Been chatting for two weeks roughly. Crazy.

But damn the ass :banderas: so soft and plump, fat :banderas: I almost brought her to the crib but now I’m at the gym. Maybe tomorrow.
 

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