I got like a million things to say about the dinner date conversation, but the easy stuff
- Avoid boring topics like - where'd you grow up, where'd you go to school, do you have siblings,
- but if she brings this BS up - have stuff ready ALWAYS.
- I have a great story about my baby sister and my baby brother, that I love to tell, if someone asks me
- You need a good story about
- where you grew up
- mom and dad and siblings and Uncle Archie
- your schooling
- your job
- the places you've lived
- The place you live now
- your car
- your job, your boss, your co-workers
- Avoid political and religious topics - If you have differences, you can't recover from them.
- Avoid Buzz Words that set broads off
- Broads
- Females
- Hoes, bytches, Thots
- Easy topics
- Food - favorites, most she spent, cheapest, rowdiest, quitest, best food,
- for my ghetto children (c) Juvie - Will she sneak Popeyes Bucket into the movie theater?
- Music
- last album she bought
- last song that made her cry
- does she like sad songs
- song she knows by heart
- Song she can't help but to sing if it ever comes on
- Movies and TV and Books
- This should be so easy it's not funny. Maybe I'm used to dealing with smart chicks, but even dumb ones got things to say
- If you can get a FEMALE to explain to you the intricacies of Love and Hip Hop and why those chicks do what the do....
- Celebs
- The People/Environment around you
- FMK - Eff, Marry, Kill - you can do it with the people there, or with celebs
- Be careful with spicy topics like dating/relationships/sex/gender roles - Some of y'all can't wait to Kevin Samuels a broad,, talmbout what she bring to the table, and do her degrees keep her warm at night. (Them degrees pay for the house and the utilities, so the answer is yes)
- Weed Smoking and Dranking and other things - If you partake, this might be a deal maker/deal breaker. I don't mind a wine drinker, I kick weed smokers to the curb
- Digging into her dating patterns and history
- deal makers and deal breakers
- What she says she finds attractive, versus what her ex boyfriends look like
- Marriage/Kids
- Her parents
This is some level 1 stuff.
To make any of this better, it's taking the face value answer, and go deeper.
Her - "I like pizza"
You - "Lemme guess, you're a cheese girl?"
Her - Because she's a female, you're either 100% right, 100% wrong, but in any case - "You must not know bout me" - she can't let your idea of her, and who she is go unchallenged. She wants to define who she is..in your head. But lemme hold back on that level 3 stuff.
Level 2 - Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" -
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie: Summary and Lessons
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interests
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking
- etc -
Everything on this list is gold, and people with slightly above average social skills, follow all of these suggestions. Read the book, it's at best a 6th grade level and can be finished in an afternoon. Apply the book.
I do all of the above, but I add it to the 3rd level, my style.
Level 3 - I'm not politely chatting with a broad having a conversation, I'm trying to create a moment that sticks in her mind.
Exes I hate, that hate me, still reach out from time to time, because they want to talk to ME.
Most guys think about conversations strictly on a content basis. They're looking for words and hype lines, and want to have the gift of gab, always saying funny stuff. They want to be Bernie Mac on a date, keep the chick entertained.
I think that's the wrong way to approach that dinner date conversation.
If anything, she's there to entertain me, I'm not looking for her approval so we can sleep together in a few hours.
Moreover, if she's trying to gain my approval, the more likely it is, that we will sleep together...
I want to do 2 things
- I want to see her - the real her
- I want to spark her imagination.
After rapping with me, she should feel like - this guy gets me, and she has to have a million ideas.
So if she's into astrology, i'll ask her about that.
If she's into tarot cards, I'll ask her about that.
If she believes in ghosts, I'll ask her about that.
I'll ask her about the wisdom she may have received from an grandmother.
I'll ask her to describe going to the beach.
"Have you ever put your hand in a barrel of kidney beans? Do you know that feeling, that sound?"
I will pay attention to show she uses her cutlery, and tell her, "I can see the little girl in you by the way you use your fork"
I'll ask stuff like What's your boss like?
Who do you think they go home too?
If she asks me a dumb question about my job or something equally inane,
1) I'll give her a face of displeasure/disgust and then say in the right tone.
2) "C'mon, you've dated a bunch of other suits before, WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW?"
The type of conversations you need to have with a broad - should have her in AWE of you. Like she's never met a guy like you, had a date like this before.
And you should be stealing mercilessly.
Any good line you read, you see in a TV show, you hear in a movie, in a song, you need to bring it to bear when you talk to chicks.
It's true that they watch porn, but they read a lot more romance and erotica.
Your words + your delivery is the thing that breaks her.
The entire conversation, the entire date IS FOREPLAY.
I generally agree with everything everyone else has said on the topic, but I think you can do a lot more with these females.
I mean them boys in Afghanistan got UK chicks to fly into a warzone and become brides, all over text messages
You can do a whole lot more with a chick in 90 minutes over some Korean BBQ.
