Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Brehs just came back from vacation, I took hella pics of myself dressed in nice clothes in nice spots.

Posted the pics on my Hinge, my profile getting many responses from multiple women. I got dates set up till September with 6-7 women

Take nice vacation pics, they will sell you well on dating apps including fine dining pics, cooking pics or pics of your hobby.
 

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Brehs just came back from vacation, I took hella pics of myself dressed in nice clothes in nice spots.

Posted the pics on my Hinge, my profile getting many responses from multiple women. I got dates set up till September with 6-7 women

Take nice vacation pics, they will sell you well on dating apps including fine dining pics, cooking pics or pics of your hobby.
September?
 

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I'm starting to think I'm just not built for dating.

Not receiving validation from women at a young age fukked me up.

I'm 33 now.

I will always be insecure and feel like I'm not good enough.

I've had all these feelings of low self-esteem, self hatred, isolation and frustration with woman all bubble over from one girl showing a little interest in me.

When I accepted my loneliness I didn't have to deal with these emotions.

Me accepting dying alone is easier to deal with than facing my insecurities.
 

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I'm starting to think I'm just not built for dating.

Not receiving validation from women at a young age fukked me up.

I'm 33 now.

I will always be insecure and feel like I'm not good enough.

I've had all these feelings of low self-esteem, self hatred, isolation and frustration with woman all bubble over from one girl showing a little interest in me.

When I accepted my loneliness I didn't have to deal with these emotions.

Me accepting dying alone is easier to deal with than facing my insecurities.
Life is long. I probably wasn’t much far off that at the same age. My life is a lot different now for the better. I wouldn’t write yourself off like that.
 
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I dealt with a lot of the same feelings @Mandarin Duck I understand it can look hopeless.

But you gotta dust yourself off and get going. I realised that in my early 30s I could either remain in self pity or make a go of it.

I made a go of it. Now dating for the most part is easy as it's not my main focus but I know how to mostly approach it.
 

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July 4th, post...

Ridonkulous A$$ - Atlanta, then maybe Miami and Houston. And obviously the Motherland, with a special nod to East Africa. Word to Luda.

If I wanted Asian chicks, I'd go to Japan, Vietnam, Thailand, or Vietnam. If I wanted the domestic version, Houston or Cali. I would stay out of Korea. China, but only in the South.
If I wanted Ethiopians - DC, ATL, and Dallas and LA (or Ethiopia obviously)
If I wanted Mexicanas - San Antonio, Texas in General, and prolly AZ and NM. Not LA, too many vatos. (and Mexico of course)
DR and Colombians - if I'm not passporting, I'm headed to The Bronx or Miami. (DR and COL, but not Sosua or Medellin)

Indians (Red Dot) - London. (or any college campus if I was that age again, lol)

Persians/Armenians - Los Angeles

Vanilla - Pretty much anywhere in America, but Scottsdale and Minneapolis and Nova Scotia. And then Scandinavia, Germany and the Rich Parts of Europe, along with pockets in Eastern Europe.

PAWGS in particular - I believe that the Midwest is slept on, but my time in Ohio disabused me of that notion. Thanks to J.Lo, Brazzers, Bang Bus, and the Kardashians, "fat bottom girls" (c) Queen - have come into the forefront in the past ~20 years. I blame hip hop and you JBO ninjas for exposing this. Instead of low self esteem, these now have high self esteem.

Places I'd never go for broads - India and The Middle East as a whole (outside of expat enclaves).

Having established that, where would you go for big chests, specifically?
 

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I'm starting to think I'm just not built for dating.

Not receiving validation from women at a young age fukked me up.

I'm 33 now.

I will always be insecure and feel like I'm not good enough.

I've had all these feelings of low self-esteem, self hatred, isolation and frustration with woman all bubble over from one girl showing a little interest in me.

When I accepted my loneliness I didn't have to deal with these emotions.

Me accepting dying alone is easier to deal with than facing my insecurities.

Mind/Body/Soul

Mind

Positive reinforcements
You will never be perfect
Situations will never be perfect
Go to clubs/places by yourself and RELAX...Everytime you go, do something that takes you out your comfort zone..

Body

Gym
Proper Posture
Correct breathing(fast breathing/"no breathing",,)puts the body in a state of anxiety
Slow Pace when walking
Eat right(carbs/fats/protein
Eye contact

Soul

Love yourself and enjoy life
Get rid of the negative

Your in a "deep hole"(pause) that you won't come out of overnight..

Just take your time and always push forward or keep a baseline of positive things you do to improve your life..
Never go back...

Also your job/career plays a part as well.

I have a physical job that creates adrenaline/stress on the body...it puts me in a state of anxiety lol...
I have to sit down and take a deep breath to relax and calm down..


You have to look at everything
 

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I dealt with a lot of the same feelings @Mandarin Duck I understand it can look hopeless.

But you gotta dust yourself off and get going. I realised that in my early 30s I could either remain in self pity or make a go of it.

I made a go of it. Now dating for the most part is easy as it's not my main focus but I know how to mostly approach it.
I know I was coming off inexperienced with the girl I was talking to. I'm not going to be able to find a woman knowing who can deal with me not knowing what to do on a date, how to initiate a kiss or anything that normal men who've had experience with women do.

It's like trying to learn how to ride a bike as an adult.
 

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I know I was coming off inexperienced with the girl I was talking to. I'm not going to be able to find a woman knowing who can deal with me not knowing what to do on a date, how to initiate a kiss or anything that normal men who've had experience with women do.

It's like trying to learn how to ride a bike as an adult.
A lot of women have as little experience or are just awkward with it as well.
 

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A lot of women have as little experience or are just awkward with it as well.
I'd imagine a majority of women my age have enough experience with men to sense that I have no experience with women.

Even the woman I was talking to at some point text me "I asked for your number and I tell you I like black guys, duh I'm interested in you lol"

I don't know what I'm supposed to do on a date, how to act. Do I go for a kiss? Do I wait untill l the date is over?

Too many uncertainties.

I'm a logical, methodical person and too much of dating is spontaneous and unplanned.
 

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I'd imagine a majority of women my age have enough experience with men to sense that I have no experience with women.

Even the woman I was talking to at some point text me "I asked for your number and I tell you I like black guys, duh I'm interested in you lol"

I don't know what I'm supposed to do on a date, how to act. Do I go for a kiss? Do I wait untill l the date is over?

Too many uncertainties.

I'm a logical, methodical person and too much of dating is spontaneous and unplanned.
It’s all situational but you will paralyze yourself in fear thinking about it today
 

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It’s all situational but you will paralyze yourself in fear thinking about it today
I'm not a situational person. Which makes me think I'm not a dating person.

I'm an overthinker. That's what happened with the date I was supposed to go on. I over thought and cancelled.

I don't even want to think about this girl anymore but because it brought up all of my insecurities I can't stop. It just brought back all these feelings of being a loser again.
 

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someone list some good, non basic, non cookie cutter conversations to have at a dinner on a first date. tired of the same old conversations.
 
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