Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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The ADD said:
:lupe: relationship tho?
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That face is exactly where I’m at with it too lol.

She has me intrigued though because

  • She takes feedback + accountability (or so she claims)
  • I told her I have no interest in marriage she said that’s fine
  • She’s good on her own (got a masters in public health administration)
  • She’s very feminine
  • She likes country living & wants to learn how to fish & farm
  • She’s big on learning I sent her a comic book recommendation and by the end of the day she was sending me older issues of Spider-Man and asking which she should read first

We’ll see though :yeshrug:
 
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Sonny Bonds said:
I dislike when you respond cleverly to a Hinge prompt and all they do is like it. My response was meant to start a non-generic conversation.
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This won't help much, but it's worth to consider that all those thumbs up, liking/loving, were created for Facebook to measure engagement, when it couldn't determine from algorithims WHY anyone would use Facebook, they brought in that as a measuring tool, and because of smart phones, the thumb was able to hit that LIKE button easily. It's not to make actual communication easier for anyone.

Therefore, you have to consider that as a whole, we have dumbed down the communication for everyone, while hyper analyzing the limited way we engage, and the ways people don't even realize how circumspect they are being in their conversations. Like, you are thinking, right now, what am I supposed to do with a like? Is that like an A for effort? Is that a way of ending the convo, while not ghosting? or is that simply the baseline response for someone who is not thinking at all about their actions, just responding in a way they are taught? Happens to me too.
 
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Black Excellence said:
That face is exactly where I’m at with it too lol.

She has me intrigued though because

  • She takes feedback + accountability (or so she claims)
  • I told her I have no interest in marriage she said that’s fine
  • She’s good on her own (got a masters in public health administration)
  • She’s very feminine
  • She likes country living & wants to learn how to fish & farm
  • She’s big on learning I sent her a comic book recommendation and by the end of the day she was sending me older issues of Spider-Man and asking which she should read first

We’ll see though :yeshrug:
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Nah brody...

She gonna want to have all your free time...

If you didn't tell her you was seeing someone, its gonna eventually be a tug-of-war for space...And that might happen with you telling her..

The p*ssy will be plentiful, but its coming with attachments
 
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360dagod said:
Nah brody...

She gonna want to have all your free time...

If you didn't tell her you was seeing someone, its gonna eventually be a tug-of-war for space...And that might happen with you telling her..

The p*ssy will be plentiful, but its coming with attachments
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I mean she can want whatever, I don’t need her lol. She already told me off bat she can tell I like my space & it works cuz she got her own life, she travels, her daughter, it works for both of us….with all that said we only been on one date so I’m chillin lol.
 
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Mufasa Ahadi said:
Vacation pics are good. Just ask someone, it’s completely normal, don’t worry about being a bird, you need to make your life reflect the highest quality possible. This is your SOCIAL RESUME. Get a phone tripod off Amazon and take flicks yourself if you need.

The cat would be a good addition & for your hobbies, same as I mentioned before, take photos of yourself while you cook, you at a comic book store, etc.

You can do all this yourself with a phone tripod and using a self timer. Or pay a photographer who specializes in this to help you.

& Again, test these images on your other social media platforms, whatever gets the best reaction from women, add to your profile.
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Co-sign. I solo travel all the time and got a lil mini tripod. I’ve even propped up my phone on random stuff. Just get the flick don’t worry about bein cool

My greatest cold approach ever happened that way. Was in PR and saw a chick doin the same as me. Struck up some convo she kept giving me tips on pics and angles I was like what are you some model. She said ‘Somethin like that’…ffwd found out she was a former Ms America :damn: (different country)
 
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Action Mike said:
FYI drinks for a first date are no longer acceptable

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Messaging is everything. When she said ‘just drinks?’. The proper response is……

Yes.

That’s it. ‘Drinks first then we’ll see’ —-even tho that’s a good mindset to have—-isnt something you say, it absolutely conveys you don’t have a plan
 
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VertigoKnight said:
Yeah, I explicitly don't say date. It's a hangout or to be even more cynical a vibe check

Dates are for women I've met who I'd like to see again and they'd like to see me.
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Exactly

Catch-Up
Hangout
Meet-up
First Meet-up
Vibe Check

All imply something informal, short, with little risk……..
 
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I see in that word usage, the micro definitions, and narrower and narrower categories, an increasingly intolerant people using them.

As much as I think (mutual) clarity is important, god knows, I try to convey that just asking someone to dinner at somewhere "upscale" does NOT to me imply any sort of trade of or expectation, or "class" of person/date.

I also think in that hyper categorization, things just get murkier and murkier. It's like emoji's. I think collectively opening up to people, experiences, is what makes things easier, lowering and letting go of expectations. I swear some of this is just content for listicles and social media posts.

"it's not a date, IF _____ _____"

"I don't go on dates, unless _______"
 
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