Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[WIA20XX]

this a real post, ain’t wanna just brush this off

like you said, can have every attribute that is praised as far as attracting a woman but time is undefeated

Makes you wonder how brehs in marriages handle that

I can't even call it. I think a lot of dudes I know in good marriages (or at least stable ones with kids, growing and what not) - they got married EARLY, (like college/right after college), wasn't in these streets heavy, the girls wasn't really in the streets heavy, and they just grew together as a couple.

I got theories, but it don't really help folks not in that situation.

 

[Ahadi]

I can't even call it. I think a lot of dudes I know in good marriages (or at least stable ones with kids, growing and what not) - they got married EARLY, (like college/right after college), wasn't in these streets heavy, the girls wasn't really in the streets heavy, and they just grew together as a couple.

I got theories, but it don't really help folks not in that situation.

What type of theories? Lack of options? Or other incentives / resources?

A lot of couples I’ve met are swinging & even met one couple that offered me to do things with their wife



Dude still be texting me all the time

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Women are a roller coaster ride man, now she is okay with not moving after wanting to end our relationship because of it. Also this provider non sense she is trying to push onto, I am not going for, this is team work. After our call with our therapist she says, our relationship do not have to look like that. Why do someone women think men are going to sign up for misery just to keep them happy? She makes great money herself and who knows, she can potentially surpass me one day and become vp of finance or some shyt. I view relationship as team work from finances, to cooking etc. I just don't give a fuk about the traditional non sense, dream house...etc. You want it, you will contribute to it.

 

[Apollo Creed]

What type of theories? Lack of options? Or other incentives / resources?

A lot of couples I’ve met are swinging & even met one couple that offered me to do things with their wife



Dude still be texting me all the time

don't ever become a slave bedbuck. Its a disgrace to your ancestors and a doorway to fakkitry

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I can't even call it. I think a lot of dudes I know in good marriages (or at least stable ones with kids, growing and what not) - they got married EARLY, (like college/right after college), wasn't in these streets heavy, the girls wasn't really in the streets heavy, and they just grew together as a couple.

I got theories, but it don't really help folks not in that situation.

that’s one of things I realized finishing up college.

if someone truly wants to attempt a LTR, they have to be ALL IN on it. No half steppin’ or dippin’ into the streets. If you not 100% in.. you basically playing the field/passively hooking up like everybody else

 

[WIA20XX]

Nah man.

Maybe its cause i live in toronto but on a decent sunny day all you have to do is go for a walk.

And the point isnt you go for a walk for the sole purpose if meeting m women. Its that you go for a walk because you feel like jt and you come across good looking women. And if you don’t then who cares…youll come across women at some other point.

That being said Toronto has a decent ratio of attractive women. Cant speak for cities like San Antonio, Memphis, suburbs and shyt.

There is literally no need to switch up routines and shyt. You go about your day and when you come across attractive women, you holla. Its literally the exact opposite of a hassle

A hassle is going to a club, dressing up, spending money for cover/drinks sometimes, driving to the establishment etc.


Edit: just saw the second part of your post. Where you live now? Im very surprised to hear DC, Houston dont have women to holla like that

I've had this discussion before

I think the disconnect here is that I'm focused on meeting new, attractive women every single day.

Not just on the weekend.
Not just when the weather is good.
Not just on holidays and vacation.

Every day.

That happens with bar and club game. That rarely happens with "just meeting chicks at random".

NYC yes.

DC is somewhat walkable, but you're seeing the same people at the coffee spot that you always see.
Houston - with that heat? Folks ain't getting out the car.

I can't speak on Miami and LA, but for the most part those are driver cities.

If you got a regular job, you're not really mixing it up with randoms on a day to day basis.

So for a cat that's doing 3/80 - he needs more volume, not less.

And focusing on random chicks he might bump into at the grocery store, or the gas station is hustling backwards.

 

[bigde09]

Last week she was talking about having kids with me and how much she likes me.

This week she is ignoring my calls and giving me one word answers and flaking on me

I would be upset but I know how the game go

 

[WIA20XX]

What type of theories? Lack of options? Or other incentives / resources?

A lot of couples I’ve met are swinging & even met one couple that offered me to do things with their wife



Dude still be texting me all the time

My sense is that when both sides are not degenerates like most of the population, they can more easily accept behavior from other side that would not be acceptable if they had more experience.

• She asking him to do this that and a third
• Him telling her like it is every day.

They basically have learned to accept "flaws" that might be "red flags" for other people. They love each other, more cooperation, more unit thinking and less selfishness... and all of that through ignorance.

IMO, it's expectations, said and unsaid, that really do damage to partnerships, in my experience.

 

[Ohene]

I've had this discussion before

I think the disconnect here is that I'm focused on meeting new, attractive women every single day.

Not just on the weekend.
Not just when the weather is good.
Not just on holidays and vacation.

Every day.

That happens with bar and club game. That rarely happens with "just meeting chicks at random".

NYC yes.

DC is somewhat walkable, but you're seeing the same people at the coffee spot that you always see.
Houston - with that heat? Folks ain't getting out the car.

I can't speak on Miami and LA, but for the most part those are driver cities.

If you got a regular job, you're not really mixing it up with randoms on a day to day basis.

So for a cat that's doing 3/80 - he needs more volume, not less.

And focusing on random chicks he might bump into at the grocery store, or the gas station is hustling backwards.

Lmao i see

Everyday would be great but i dont need that. A few a week is good, manageable snd sustsinable

 

[keond]

Lol whatd you see

Broads filming themselves dancing by themselves or with other women, when a breh tries to dance with them, they get upset and walk away. My boy tried to holla at chick and demanded to see his IG first, seen his kids and said "im good" Plus very little interaction outside of folks just staring at their phones and filming their plates. This was at a spot called Suite Lounge

 

[Digital Omen]

I can't even call it. I think a lot of dudes I know in good marriages (or at least stable ones with kids, growing and what not) - they got married EARLY, (like college/right after college), wasn't in these streets heavy, the girls wasn't really in the streets heavy, and they just grew together as a couple.

I got theories, but it don't really help folks not in that situation.

One of my close homies is that dude. Had lil girlfriends in HS, you know kid shyt.
Got to UM and stumbled on this Jamaican chick
They went out one night, that was it. 25 years later they got a 12 year old son and been married for 18.
No partying, no hoe phase, no fukk boy, no passport bro, no gotta find myself shyt
Straight courted her and got married few years out of college
Homeowners, he inherited his dad's IT services company and she's a pediatrician.

My man is head over heels in love with his wife and they're the only married couple I know outside of family.
Whatever they're doing is working for them, and it's dope to see

 

[Digital Omen]

Women are a roller coaster ride man, now she is okay with not moving after wanting to end our relationship because of it. Also this provider non sense she is trying to push onto, I am not going for, this is team work. After our call with our therapist she says, our relationship do not have to look like that. Why do someone women think men are going to sign up for misery just to keep them happy? She makes great money herself and who knows, she can potentially surpass me one day and become vp of finance or some shyt. I view relationship as team work from finances, to cooking etc. I just don't give a fuk about the traditional non sense, dream house...etc. You want it, you will contribute to it.

Yo I hear you but for what you posted you and her have different worldviews that if not compromised to will drive you apart, building up resentment too.
Notice she stacks paper but wants to be provided for. It's in her nature. The richest woman on earth still wants to be provided for in some capacity.
Cut her some slack, ask her to do the same for you. That way it's equal and a mutual solution can be agreed upon
That's if you're feeling her like that. Is she worth it? You decide.
Compromise or bushes.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Broads filming themselves dancing by themselves or with other women, when a breh tries to dance with them, they get upset and walk away.

weirdo shyt. I see them all the time from oversexualized compliments to fondling on each other… let a mf say you look right in that dress and you would of thought he flashed himself the way she reacted

I try real hard to understand the dynamics of what women go through. Harassment, assault, feeling uncomfortable with strange men… but I’m slowly peeping a lot of em just sexually confused in general about Men.

My boy tried to holla at chick and demanded to see his IG first, seen his kids and said "im good" Plus very little interaction outside of folks just staring at their phones and filming their plates.

Multiply this by 10 if it’s a 21-25 club.. either straight thot music or drill. No in between, simply happy shyt the whole venue vibing to.

This was at a spot called Suite Lounge

near the Aquarium?
Should of hit up the Royal Peacock

 

[Ohene]

Broads filming themselves dancing by themselves or with other women, when a breh tries to dance with them, they get upset and walk away. My boy tried to holla at chick and demanded to see his IG first, seen his kids and said "im good" Plus very little interaction outside of folks just staring at their phones and filming their plates. This was at a spot called Suite Lounge

Yup
Par for the course and why i don’t fcj with these bars like that

It’s rough Outchere

 

[Ahadi]

don't ever become a slave bedbuck. Its a disgrace to your ancestors and a doorway to fakkitry

Hell no,

The dude was cool at first, talking about the city, sports, business etc. in a somewhat similar industry, then all the sudden, it’s “hey my wife likes you”

I’m like …

Nah… im good