I can't even call it. I think a lot of dudes I know in good marriages (or at least stable ones with kids, growing and what not) - they got married EARLY, (like college/right after college), wasn't in these streets heavy, the girls wasn't really in the streets heavy, and they just grew together as a couple.
I got theories, but it don't really help folks not in that situation.
Like anything in life I think there are many "paths to victory" (Spread offense vs. ground and pound).. But one that has been a constant for decent shot at it is they were "marriage minded" early.. Now the degenerates I be around alot of them put up numbers early and/or have gotten caught some multiple times with other chicks.. Maybe its the demographics (alot of island boys) but its kinda shrugged off and they get a probation period and keep it moving.. I guess also they locked one in early and basically had to be dragged down the alter kicking and screaming.. and these savages get their "guy trip" card yearly, lol..
Also the thing I think you look for in a women that their girl has, seems to be non existent nowadays, that generation of being married being a priority and family seems to have dwindled at a rapid rate. I have seen the transition upfront and personal and I tell these dudes it aint the same from even 10 years ago, dont even get fomo.. you got a good one, who gave you 2/3/5 kiddies.. just focus..
So I would say get you had to see the vision young, sell it to someone who wanted you and go from there. But one of my associates recently popped up and he was probably locked in with his girl longest in circle we in.. I actually known his girl longer than him and I would say he got a good one, extremely low body count, yada yada, he was taking care of her, she popped out the kids, she did the mommy thing, then I guess she got bored, he put her thru nursing school, next thing you know she doing good, covid happpens, now she clearing 200k+, things kinda broke their way with market, bought house for 300k, market goes crazy now worth a milli, they get a couple airbnb, now I hear she broke bad and she tryna take EVERYTHING.
Dude is to point he is happy just to keep his pension she can have everything else, back at his OG while still paying house.. I heard she turned savage and I have partied with nurses so I kinda know how it goes.. 15 years down, I tell dudes as long as you had kids, you had a good run.. Its tough though because he actually never did dirt, was putting in work while working on the "we plan" evidently she had her "Me plan" Soo Im like the designated guy in the friend group who is go to guy to hang out but sheesh.. I will say for a guy been out the game 15+ year he doin work on apps and I am happy because I know he hurtin.. Hate seein dudes get torn out the frame..
