Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[WIA20XX]

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if you were to guess, what % of women do you think are single? (and identify as single lol)

At the club? 100% of the chicks are single for the right guy.

If she was boo'd up and in love, she'd be with that dude.

She's not gonna put herself in a position to get hollar'd at by some NBA/NFL ball player, much less a regular dude like myself.

But chicks do put themselves in position to see "if they still got it".

But then they get GOT. A couple of drinks in em, Back Dat Azz Up, she gonna feel flirty, and then the biology takes over.

 

[Ohene]

At the club? 100% of the chicks are single for the right guy.

If she was boo'd up and in love, she'd be with that dude.

She's not gonna put herself in a position to get hollar'd at by some NBA/NFL ball player, much less a regular dude like myself.

But chicks do put themselves in position to see "if they still got it".

But then they get GOT. A couple of drinks in em, Back Dat Azz Up, she gonna feel flirty, and then the biology takes over.

in general. everything ive been talmbout is in general

 

[Ohene]

@WIA20XX how do you approach girls in bars/clubs btw.
school me
i aint been in that seen in yeeeears

 

[WIA20XX]

in general. everything ive been talmbout is in general

I had a homeboy, chick lived with him, they was on the marriage track
He out in LA at a vegan spot (cause she vegan, smh).

Guess who walks in?

Andre 3000.

Did she excuse herself to the lady's room?
Did he find her having a little chat with 3 Stacks...

At a moral and intellectual level, plenty of chicks are faithful.
....Male friends, Work Husbands, always trying to impress the male boss, hating on other females at work, all them selfies on her social media...

Nothing that would indict a female, per se.

At a genetic level? At a primal level? At that reptilian center of the brain?

She ain't.

I've seen it too many times, dealt with too many GF's and Wives that reveal they are after the fact/after the act.

Romance, Fidelity, Morality, Honor, Honesty - male creations for male minds - females pick and choose those things as it suits them.

It's why no man ever "wins" an argument.
It's why it's so rare for them to admit to wrongdoing.

Their approach to life is flexible and they act accordingly.

I don't judge them for it. I just see the good and the bad and move accordingly.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

I never understood this. Like this has never worked for me. There’s been periods where I’ve been so burnt out of the BS and rejection that I just tune out and do me. Hell that’s what I do when I’m not intentionally trying to approach anyways. Hell there’s been times where I didn’t go out for months and just did shyt I wanted to do.

Women didn’t fall in my lap.

Like what do you mean? To me I look at going out with intention as taking control of my own destiny and not hoping that stuff simply falls in my lap.

And tbh I don’t like going out. I don’t drink nor need to, I’ve heard the same songs thousands of times, seen the same bullshyt hundreds, if not thousands of times. Same attitudes, same responses, same fakeness. All of it. Would be different if I actually liked the music but even trying to vibe and enjoy that shyt they play feels corny as hell. Like dumb, I’m only there for women.

Don’t mean to come off as crass but it’s 2023 breh. People don’t have hobbies like that, mosf hobbies don’t have attractive women there. A lot hobbies are online anyways, not in person. Most meetup groups are temporary and only have a handful of regulars, most people with hobbies tend to be older as well. Hell, I’d go so far as to say the majority of people with hobbies are doing them because they aren’t satisfied with their social life and are in some transitional self development period. This ain’t college anymore.

And a lot of hobbies most men like, such as gaming are so male dominated that women are paid to be at conventions and shyt.

no offense taken breh...

but brehs should be into their own things and meet a woman along the way....she may not necessarily be into what your into...just saying you never know how you will meet people....you could be at a convention...go to dinner...and run into a baddie in town for whatever...life is funny like that...

my point is actively searching for women is not the way to go....do you...whatever that may be and let the universe take care of the rest

 

[The ADD]

no offense taken breh...

but brehs should be into their own things and meet a woman along the way....she may not necessarily be into what your into...just saying you never know how you will meet people....you could be at a convention...go to dinner...and run into a baddie in town for whatever...life is funny like that...

my point is actively searching for women is not the way to go....do you...whatever that may be and let the universe take care of the rest

You could take it a step forward:

If you have no interest and no investment into yourself and you meet someone, what are y’all supposed to do together?

 

[BigTyme Records]

I notice a lot of dudes on here are struggling mentally and and or with attracting women


shyt kinda sad to hear, nikkas need to improve they self esteem

 

[RaspberryFitted]

At a genetic level? At a primal level? At that reptilian center of the brain?

She ain't.

this is why the lust factor should be emphasized first. Whether it’s your genetic giftedness, physical appearance, charisma… the ability to blurt nothing or even stand there and still have women allured should be top priority.

all that lyrical miracle spiritual shyt is pointless. Even for a chick that you see might be on it too (word to Eboni K. Williams)

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I notice a lot of dudes on here are struggling mentally and and or with attracting women


shyt kinda sad to hear, nikkas need to improve they self esteem

eh really only one breh in here other brehs are tryna help.

could argue low self-esteem is probably the most crippling virus to BM. It bleeds into our romantic, academic, professional, social sectors of life

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Stop taking advice from these frauds

 

[Apollo Creed]

I notice a lot of dudes on here are struggling mentally and and or with attracting women


shyt kinda sad to hear, nikkas need to improve they self esteem

They focused on hoes and not themselves. You got nikkas talking about going to nihjt clubs to work on talking to 100 bytches. Im like no wonder these hoes dunking on you nikkas

 

[WIA20XX]

@WIA20XX how do you approach girls in bars/clubs btw.
school me
i aint been in that seen in yeeeears

I need to finish my book, but a rough outline

• My mindset - Fine chicks are never alone (if she's alone, she's either waiting for friends, a professional, or something's different about her)
• Expect and look forward to dealing with her friends.
  • This one is a tough one - but chicks want winners, leaders, alphas - not stoics that never say anything.
  • But you have to WANT to be involved, want to socialize, want to be in the Mix.
• Approach the group with a group friendly topic
  • Which is sometimes eye contact, confident walk over, break up their convo, and say something that grabs their attention - balls of steel stuff, but once you get used to it, you feel entitled)
• Group friendly topics
  • Food
  • Alcohol/Weed
  • Music
  • Celebs
  • Dating/Love/Relationships/Sex
• Win over the group
  • Bow you're the focus of attention, but also making things interesting.
  • Additionally - talking to chicks on the solo, can often be harder, because she doesn't have the social/peer pressure to stay in the chat.
• Get the girl to choose you, by reacting "poorly" to what she says/doesn't say
  • Ask every girl in the group a question
  • Agree with/understand what everyone says. "I see your point, I can feel that."
  • Hot Girl - Oh You would say that
    • This is not about what she said, but about HER.
    • she's gonna react, they always react, and they know it's part of the game, so does the group.
• Get into it with the girl - PLAYFULLY, MISCHIEF IN YOUR EYE, SMIRK
  • I can tell who you was by them shoes you got on, etc.
  • You must be from the Northside...
• Borrow the girl for a second
• Run my one-on-one game
• Bring the girl back to her group safe and sound

Now after this, if City Girl want to dance with your boy, chill and sip on a rum and coke, that's pretty much it. Chick is open, she's established a rhythm, and it's really about letting her heat up, and then having the logistics down to get her back to my spot, to read the Bible of course and pray for her mortal soul.

So tonight, I'd ask something about Teyana Taylor, Chris Brown, and Usher.
Bound to have some strong opinions on that, and that would be game set match.

• To Hot Girl - "You would take Usher's side....What about Teyana, you don't think she can't speak up for herself..."
• Fireworks ensue.

There are a lot of does and do nots, a lot of self image stuff going on, a lot of body language and nonverbal communication that makes all of this work - but that's the gist of it.

All of this sits in a framework of how to take apart a club, how you think women act/react, your own feelings about yourself, your experience in talking to strangers, etc.

But if a man can talk to 80 chicks in a weekend, he can be a god at this stuff in 3 months.

 

[Apollo Creed]

eh really only one breh in here other brehs are tryna help.

could argue low self-esteem is probably the most crippling virus to BM. It bleeds into our romantic, academic, professional, social sectors of life

Dudes glorify these bum ass hoes too much. Look at how often dudes be on some “damn i messed up” shyt vs being on some “i said what i said”

 

[WIA20XX]

this is why the lust factor should be emphasized first. Whether it’s your genetic giftedness, physical appearance, charisma… the ability to blurt nothing or even stand there and still have women allured should be top priority.

all that lyrical miracle spiritual shyt is pointless. Even for a chick that you see might be on it too (word to Eboni K. Williams)

Lust fades.
Love fades.
Respect fades.

She might not sleep with the next dude, but there's no way to "keep" a woman.

Lemme define keep - That lovey-dovey Honeymoon mode her entire life.

Obviously a man can make it painful for her to leave.
A man can put himself in a position to always replace her..

But he can never HAVE her.

Once I understood that, it made my life much easier.

Dudes always afraid of opening up to a broad - the premise is that if he does, she will either treat him poorly or leave.

It's because he's trying to keep her in a particular emotional state so that she treats him in a particular way.

Once he realizes that this is impossible, it's not up to him, he's free.

Lotta dudes don't want to be free. Them wanting to keep a chick, also keeps them down.

And the same thing happens with the females, even faster if you ask me.

She wants to keep dude in that "we just started dating phase"

• All the attention
• The gifts, meals, dates, etc
• The getting close
• The opening up
• Getting official
• The sharing of tasks
• The showing off her relationship
• Marriage
• Kids

I don't care how fine a chick is, how good the sex is, I'm gonna love her, but that 1st 3 months thing is done.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Dudes glorify these bum ass hoes too much. Look at how often dudes be on some “damn i messed up” shyt vs being on some “i said what i said”

carry over from not wanting to upset their mothers. If a breh can’t go against his own mama, he doesn’t have the backbone to go against regular women.

also a fear of losing access to vagina, when in reality her interest in breh was low to begin with.