Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[skyrunner1]

Might as well prep for next summer lol

But cinco should be crazy.

any tequila recs?

Nah breh, we gon be ready, lol.. I usually can lock in pretty easy, started in mid Feb, but a little injury here, threw wrench in schedule.. I should of already been in sprinting phase, I can usually lean out quick with sprints for a few weeks.. Got to lock in this month.. AFTER this weekend..


Tequila, hmm Im not an expert but you sipping or Margaritas?

Some good sipping Sauza (dark color, smooth AF), Casa Dragones, Fortaleza.. I was recently gifted a bottle of something that was good but I cant find bottle at moment, If I do I will update..

I like Herradura all around

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

I forgot who said it but the quote was something like if you knew you couldn't sleep with her could you still tolerate being around her?

i have a podcast and i talked about this very thing. i admitted that no woman i have ever dealt with would be near me if sex wasnt involved...none of them was particularly interesting once you go past their physical attractiveness

not one....and breh i have been married twice....

 

[skyrunner1]

Intermittent fasting during the day so you can relax at night lol

Legit Fast and do an AM workout and then 2-3 scoops of protein around 12-3

I used to try a different diet yearly until I found IF, just fit my lifestyle soo easy and was easy to keep up.. I do that combined with a kind of quasi no/low carb/keto.. Working out in AM has been programed since high school football lifts before school, lol.. Cheat code forreal

 

[re'up]

If your girl did that in front of you, youd be ok?

Hahah, in theory, yes, but the person I was thinking of, was really aware of that kind of thing, and would have gone way out her way to avoid that. Would just think that she REALLY liked that guy at some point, and it would be obvious. It wouldn't have been the most comfortable moment.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I used to try a different diet yearly until I found IF, just fit my lifestyle soo easy and was easy to keep up.. I do that combined with a kind of quasi no/low carb/keto.. Working out in AM has been programed since high school football lifts before school, lol.. Cheat code forreal

yeah it helps you not come off as a social outcast lol.

Workout in AM, have a afternoon Shake and then in the evening do what you want as long as you aren't binge eating/binge drinking you should be able to stick to your decifict or eat at maintenance calories.

If I'm on a date I usually stick to 1-2 drinks + Meal (if I do appetizer then the meal will more so be a meat and veggie).

 

[Apollo Creed]

Hahah, in theory, yes, but the person I was thinking of, was really aware of that kind of thing, and would have gone way out her way to avoid that. Would just think that she REALLY liked that guy at some point, and it would be obvious. It wouldn't have been the most comfortable moment.

honestly I tend to have more respect for other peoples relationships than they do lol.

 

[WIA20XX]

@WIA20XX sir any thoughts surrounding why roster pieces slowly fade away? Lack of effort?

(Ex. Not receiving resources, still loves ex / sex with ex, mentally not on the same page)

Few thoughts

• She wants to have her own roster (and arguably she does.)
• She likes the sexual thrill of toxic guys/thugs/hoods/Tupacs/d-boys/jocks whoever.
• She doesn't like to feel used. (you're on her roster, she's not on yours)
• She will trade sex for love/attention, especially from someone that she knows can't give it to her (classic win a guy over mindset, that no girl should do, but many girls do engage in)

So if she finds herself in a roster situation, it's because the guy is doing something for her that she can't get anywhere else.

On the natural side (as in not engineered) - it could be Magic Stick type thing (they love toxic dudes - it's a huge rush of endorphins/emotions), but more often than not - the dude is a good LTR match - a soulmate - in that he brings enough of the Tupac, but also has shades of the Business suit. So she's really trading her sex/accessibility/service on the hopes that this dude makes her his queen. Her One Last Hope, his one last chance...(c) TV on the Radio.

On the engineered side - The 2 dudes I know that do this regularly - the sex is an event - it's always some BDSM/Crazy type stuff. It's not just having a big dikk, good tongue, stamina, etc - the sex is more than just P into V. Sex has always been like that, most dudes just want to bang - but the dude with a harem is AWARE of the lack of distinct lines, how sex oozes into everything.

So for most of us, the roster falls away, because it's natural for a chick to just give up, in the mean time she's getting consistent new offers.
If she's got any visual weaknesses, she's more likely to waste her time, but many do wise up.

 

[WIA20XX]

Is he really though?

Just on the #'s

6 figures (10-15% of the population) and 6 foot tall (10-20%) - is like 2 in a 100.
Once you start going down the line with any other requirements (facial attractiveness, heterosexual, single, interested in a long term relationship, lives within 100 miles, Black), a chick needs to cultivating tens of thousands of social media followers to find any that meet the criteria.

Or she needs to put herself in places where those men are. That's why you see them turn out for NBA All Star Weekend, but ain't nobody trying to roll to the national NSBE conference...

AND unlike men - we going mostly off of face/body, they all seem to want the SAME dude, or the same set of dudes. So there's competition angle that they don't want to admit.

As things go, if a Black dude is school minded, average height, and stays in decent shape not D1 athlete shape - he should CLEAN up. Give these 19 year olds some basic game, and cat might have a harem by senior year.

It's been like this for sometime, and is only getting worse because of factors beyond anyone's control.

What's a black woman to do?

Not go to school? Plenty of them don't, and those aren't lives a lot of people want to live.
Not make money? Hell naw.

And if she has to choose between having a kid and not having a kid, a lot will choose to have kids with a dude they find sexy, but without the benefit of a husband.

It is what it is.

 

[re'up]

The too philosophical answer is that we default to the view of monagamous committed relationships as the dominant and therefore most valued one

People don't want to feel undervalued/not valued.

That's not how I feel about it, but that's how most people do. It's something I am still coming to terms with lol.

The further part, to me, would be that many guys I know, aren't great at managing those relationships, being a little generous, a little gracious, or willing to move outside a narrow box. Which is a paradox, because the more "open" and "cool" you are, the more they will want to move you into the "real relationship" category. II had someone scream ayt me once, "I don't know how treat you! Like my friend, my fukkbuddy, or my boyfriend" So dumb to me.

 

[DJSmooth]

Yeah I mentioned I wanted kids with one woman last month and I think that made her lose interest in me because it's something I want in my future.

Weeks later after we stopped talking I saw her on Bumble and her children section mentioned "Not Sure Yet". I just don't understand that in your mid 30s.

Given what I know about her ie being an only child, a bit of careerist, etc I will surmise that kids aren't a priority for her so I'd assume no hence the misalignment.

I had an ex that mentioned kids but she would also mention how life transforming kids are. Ultimately her actions didn't match her words.

Matching your values and wants are important in pursuing a long term relationship. I've learned sticking to your guns instead of settling and compromising is the best path

Women are much more selfish and narcissistic than men these days.

 

[ViShawn]

Women are much more selfish and narcissistic than men these days.

That's why vetting is SUPER important.

 

[Ohene]

It's way more common than the interwebz will have you believe.

• Never been kissed
• Never been on a date
• Never had a boyfriend
• Actual Virgins
• Chicks that can't give the P away. (like not even on Tinder)

Some chicks too ugly, too fat, too tall.
Many are too Christian.
Many are too awkward and inexperienced.
Many spent too much time in the books.
A lot of them spend too much time at the job.
A lot of them are "too busy" - with bs activities for work or with their girls....

That said, with the professional set, a lot of them have "reasonable" expectations - attractive dude, not fat, hold a convo, same education and $.... (although they all hope for 2-3x the money)

But a Black Man that dates Black Women, that is decently attractive, not fat, makes the same money (or more) and can hold a convo - he's a rare commodity.
*looks at mirror, points to self, cheesy grin *

And a lot of women don't want to face that reality.

They don't want to compete. (c) Kevin Samuels.
They don't even know what a man like this wants.

That's how they end up in an Umar Johnson type harem or having a baby with Darnell their personal trainer...

In my book i use the concept of affordability to talk about this

Everyone might want a lambo, but just cause you luck into winning one; doesn’t mean You’ll be able to financially maintain it or even drive it if you lack the funds and experience

Dating is similar. It’s important not to punch above your weight class until you have gone through the easier difficulties and learned the game. You don’t start playing a video game on the highest difficulty off rip

Got to warm up to it

 

[Ohene]

Women are much more selfish and narcissistic than men these days.

Much much much more

 

[360dagod]

its simple....

no matter what you do YOU will NEVER be able to give multiple women the attention they desire....its impossible...theres only one you and eventually you will fall off....

only way you can pull it off long term is if you have NOTHING else going on in life but juggling women....




and who wants to live like that?

job...hobbies...building a business....gym...you should be too busy for a roster....

Yeah man....

If they don't have any hobbies, they will try to slot themselves in..

Once you send that hi text, they already plotting lol..

 

[360dagod]

Feels like summer is already here brehs, cotdam.. Im still like 6-8 weeks away from ideal body goals These last couple weeks been madness but this weekend is shaping up to be a movie, starting with cinco de mayo, got a domestic bachelor party, heat playoffs, Grand Prix, and that dont even include the brunch or club runs..

Lets see if we still got it in us to do a solid Thurs-Sun run..

Yeah you outta here my boy lol..

Might as well try to maintain and maybe mini bulk when summer is over...And that might turn into a cut if you not careful

Besides lifting

Unless you doing dedicated cardio( and/or jump rope)and calorie counting to keep the fat at bay, it can get out of hand fast...

Espicially if your a binge eater