Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[<<TheStandard>>]

i've always said this. what makes a man a man is being able to that which the opposite sex cannot. women cant bottle up their emotions and handle their problems. they have to talk about it, ask this person and that person for his or her opinion. as a man, u cant do that. at least not with ur woman. u cant bring ur problems to her. thats what u have friends for (good friends, not them backstabbing ones). thats what u have your momma for, your sisters for.

if u had a bad day at work, go to a gadamn bar. or go do something else to get ur mind off it. if ur woman ask u whats wrong, tell her its just some things you goto handle. what is it? tell her dont worry about it sweety. i'll handle it. ud be suprised at how mannerisms, and the way you respond to questions can easily turn on a woman or make her regard u with high esteem.

So true..

I truly realized I lost a relationship being too emo of a nikka......It took me years later after more experience with women and an episode of the Sopranos to realize what I did wrong. (Specifically this scene (where Tony in his dream picks up the phone and just hangs it up realizing he can't bring his problems to his wife (because he just can't involve them with the life) and he can't bring problems to his crew (because he'll look weak))

You can truly diminish any attraction she has for you by not holding yourself together, telling her your problems, complaining, shyt like that. Even if you don't you should act and appear like you do. Otherwise she'll be cheating on you and telling some nikka she's fukking how much of a p*ssy you are. lol I've heard it from chicks I was fukking who had boyfriends. lol


Looking back, I wish I never had to learn so much through trial and error......had someone just told me these things before and when I started dating I would have been a lot better off. I'm 26 and I'm still young but man, my late teens and early 20s were rough at times. This thread is truly a gem.

 

[TRUEST]

So true..

I truly realized I lost a relationship being too emo of a nikka......It took me years later after more experience with women and an episode of the Sopranos to realize what I did wrong. (Specifically this scene The Sopranos - join the club ending - YouTube (where Tony in his dream picks up the phone and just hangs it up realizing he can't bring his problems to his wife (because he just can't involve them with the life) and he can't bring problems to his crew (because he'll look weak))

You can truly diminish any attraction she has for you by not holding yourself together, telling her your problems, complaining, shyt like that. Even if you don't you should act and appear like you do. Otherwise she'll be cheating on you and telling some nikka she's fukking how much of a p*ssy you are. lol I've heard it from chicks I was fukking who had boyfriends. lol


Looking back, I wish I never had to learn so much through trial and error......had someone just told me these things before and when I started dating I would have been a lot better off. I'm 26 and I'm still young but man, my late teens and early 20s were rough at times. This thread is truly a gem.

its good u learned through trial and error. cuz if u didn't, had someone warned u, u would have ignored their warning.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

i don't know if you play chess. but something i thought of. Usually in chess, you're not necessarily trying to read in your opponent's mind. and you don't really have a super intricate plan. the reason for that is that if you had a super intricate plan on how to checkmate someone, all it takes for them to fukk up your plan is to not do what you thought they would do at any step of the plan and you're fukked.

instead what you,re trying to do in chess is to try to anticipate possibilities of your opponent trying to do A, B or C that could harm you. The more you anticipate the more you can set your pieces to close down those possibilities for your opponent (defense). At the same time, you,re also trying to set your pieces to have as many options as possible to attack and provoke the checkmate (offense). See if you do this successfully, you don't even need to know what your opponent's next move is cause you're setting it up so that he only has the choice between a bad option or an even worse option. Whatever they do, you don't need to intricately plan the whole game. The checkmate will draw itself on its own, you'll just need to train your eye to recognize the opportunity when it presents itself.

Thanks for the advice I'm going to keep this in mind. I actually did use it a bit today, when there was this girl I used to like and we'd talk all the time she said she wanted to see me then the next day she never responded, would hit me up like I want to see you, then I'd respond and she'd straight up ignore it. I saw her today and she waved and smiled at me, I did the same back but I realized from this thread that just because she has a p*ssy doesn't mean you should let someone treat you that way, because if it were the other way around she wouldn't have allowed it. And so I ended up taking care of my business and not even bothering to go speak to her ass. This thread has helped a lot, also noticed a cute chick checking me out today at the gym so I'm definitely liking this thread. thanks yaw

mostly when youre laying with your girl after sex, and shes gossiping to you, or youre telling her secrets about yourself or other people, or maybe you sweet talk to her, telling about how wonderful she is and happy you are etc. a lot of that goes down due to the p*ssy high, and men might say things they dont really mean at that time - even make empty promises to her. theres no need for that. you already got her to give it up. so and play out your hand, revealing yourself as being more into her than she is to you. this goes down a lot more than people would like to admit.

oh yeah, okay this makes total sense then. I'll keep that in mind next time I pull a broad.

 

[Jahmal]

Why are guys so afraid to be alone? I know many guys that are settling for fat, ugly and disrespectful women just so they can have a woman to come home to.

I would rather be single for years than settle for some ugly cow.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Btw I always hear something about "bettering yourself" in what ways are you guys bettering yourselves? I've picked up the keyboard in hopes of learning to play piano, reading, and exercising.

I figure that bettering yourself is not only just stepping up your swag but your outlook on life and figuring out who you are rather than who you make yourself out to be.

 

[kevm3]

I've learned along time ago that you can't bring your problems to your girl.....I don't care how much you two love each other. You end up looking weak and/or she throws it back in your face. That's her job to complain and bytch and have problems.......You're the leader and you're on your own.

This is exactly why you are 'the prize' so to speak as a man. You simply have to assume a lot of responsibility that she doesn't have to bear, so she has to compensate you for that accordingly.

 

[kevm3]

Btw I always hear something about "bettering yourself" in what ways are you guys bettering yourselves? I've picked up the keyboard in hopes of learning to play piano, reading, and exercising.

I figure that bettering yourself is not only just stepping up your swag but your outlook on life and figuring out who you are rather than who you make yourself out to be.

Actually sitting down and doing a lot of writing. Sharpening my mindset. Working out. Sharpening my dress code. It's just a wonderful thing to see the changes in you slowly start to come to fruition and when you look in the mirror you can smile.

 

[kevm3]

We've been talking a lot about leadership and let's get deeper on that issue. If we're leading, there has to be a destination, so let's say that you have a great girl. Where are you leading her to? What do you hope to accomplish? What can you offer her that she cannot get from being alone? What can you two accomplish together that none of you would be able to accomplish alone?

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Actually sitting down and doing a lot of writing. Sharpening my mindset. Working out. Sharpening my dress code. It's just a wonderful thing to see the changes in you slowly start to come to fruition and when you look in the mirror you can smile.

Are you doing this with a checklist or just going straight down and doing as you please? Would you say organization is also one of the things you're bettering.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

We've been talking a lot about leadership and let's get deeper on that issue. If we're leading, there has to be a destination, so let's say that you have a great girl. Where are you leading her to? What do you hope to accomplish? What can you offer her that she cannot get from being alone? What can you two accomplish together that none of you would be able to accomplish alone?

I think, if you have a great girl and you want to keep her then you're leading her into a relationship. As far as what do you hope to accomplish, idk that's a hard one, maybe a cure for loneliness and an introduction to an intermediate version of companionship? The other 2 are difficult to answer, I guess you could give her the idea of being meaningful and with that she'll feel like she has a purpose and likewise for myself

 

[kevm3]

Are you doing this with a checklist or just going straight down and doing as you please? Would you say organization is also one of the things you're bettering.

At the moment, I'm not really doing a checklist, but I really do love checklists because they give me a razor sharp way of knowing exactly what I need to accomplish. Organization is definitely something I will get sharper at with time, but it's not a primary focus for me right now.

I'm more of an off-the-cuff, improv type of guy, so what I'm really working on is figuring exactly what it is I want and how I want it, and when I clearly have that in mind, then I can devise a highly efficient and effective checklist to obtain that.

 

[Daenerys Targaryen]

We've been talking a lot about leadership and let's get deeper on that issue. If we're leading, there has to be a destination, so let's say that you have a great girl. Where are you leading her to? What do you hope to accomplish? What can you offer her that she cannot get from being alone? What can you two accomplish together that none of you would be able to accomplish alone?

This is such a big deal. So many guys just complaining whining about how girls wont let them take the lead, but they don't want to admit to themselves that they have no vision, have no clue where they're going. No concrete, detailed, explicit goals in life. It's very frustrating for the woman. I love my bf, but I refused to follow him off a cliff, not if I can clearly see we're moving in the wrong the direction. It took awhile for him to hear me, but he is sooo much better now. Sooo much better. Last time he came to visit he called me out on some of my bs, and I straightened up (it wasn't a big deal, my place was just a little messy, he made me clean it lol). I really wanted someone to hold me accountable because that's the type of relationship my parents have. I think he felt uncomfortable with that model b/c his parents had a more egalitarian model, but I'm not really interested in that.

Anyway, were doing very well now. We like gender roles (in regards to our relationship), they work for us.

 

[kevm3]

I think, if you have a great girl and you want to keep her then you're leading her into a relationship. As far as what do you hope to accomplish, idk that's a hard one, maybe a cure for loneliness and an introduction to an intermediate version of companionship? The other 2 are difficult to answer, I guess you could give her the idea of being meaningful and with that she'll feel like she has a purpose and likewise for myself

Just to sharpen you up some, you have to lead a woman into more than a relationship... you have to have an objective that is bigger than her that you are really trying to accomplish, because once she is really with you, she will be following you... but where are you going? Since you are young, you have plenty of time to answer that question, but it's a VERY important one to answer.

In terms of what do you hope to accomplish, how do you envision your life, say 10 to 20 years from now, and how would she fit into that picture? Would you be effectively able to communicate that to her and communicate what she would need to do to help you obtain that goal?

The last two questions are very important as well. Keep turning those questions over in your mind until you start finding answers, and how you deal with women will become much more clear to you.

 

[kevm3]

This is such a big deal. So many guys just complaining whining about how girls wont let them take the lead, but they don't want to admit to themselves that they have no vision, have no clue where they're going. No concrete, detailed, explicit goals in life. It's very frustrating for the woman. I love my bf, but I refused to follow him off a cliff, not if I can clearly see we're moving in the wrong the direction. It took awhile for him to hear me, but he is sooo much better now. Sooo much better. Last time he came to visit he called me out on some of my bs, and I straightened up (it wasn't a big deal, my place was just a little messy, he made me clean it lol). I really wanted someone to hold me accountable because that's the type of relationship my parents have. I think he felt uncomfortable with that model b/c his parents had a more egalitarian model, but I'm not really interested in that.

Anyway, were doing very well now. We like gender roles (in regards to our relationship), they work for us.

Glad to see that you embrace the gender roles. Men weren't mean to be women and women weren't meant to be men. Women that are able to humble themselves and submit to a strong, solid man and men who are able to stand up and provide powerful and honest leadership, will find that amazing things start to happen. Unfortunately, too many women want to be competitors instead of cooperatives... and too many men want to sit on the passenger side instead of the driver seat.

 

[sixsixtwo]

I convinced a friend not to get married today. : MensRights