Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Apollo Creed]

I'm not the DM police and have no interest in becoming one. She's grown woman who knows right and wrong
If she chooses to entertain DMs that's on her and it will come to light
I had ex-FWBs hitting me up recently throwing it at me. I declined and KIM.
DMs open, closed, off in Bolivia, doesn't matter. If they want to step out they'll find a way.
I chose not to engage the p*ssy offers. I value my relationship more than some ass I already got.
Even new ass, I KIM. It's just basic decency and respect.
My girl is attractive so I know she's got orbiters, friend zone dudes trying to level up, randoms hitting her up, all that shyt
I don't stress that shyt. It's all in the game. Married women have dudes sweating them daily weekly monthly and yearly.
We make choices every day. The day she chooses someone else is the day I bounce. Until then we're good.

What's the end goal of the relationship? Like what are y'all working toward?

And just make sure you aren't cheating because it's something YOU choose to do vs being loyal or some shyt lol. And of course never stress, main thing is once you are shown chick got out of pocket, don't come here asking us what to do, just end things and KIM.

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

How do you know if a very shy girl either just wants to be fukked or wants something serious?

 

[WIA20XX]

How do you know if a very shy girl either just wants to be fukked or wants something serious?

You don't.

And more importantly, she doesn't either.
She might not know in the near term, she might change her mind in the long term.

That's why you base your moves on what you want, not what she's feeling that day.

Please learn this lesson now, not after a decade like I have.

 

[Digital Omen]

What's the end goal of the relationship? Like what are y'all working toward?

And just make sure you aren't cheating because it's something YOU choose to do vs being loyal or some shyt lol. And of course never stress, main thing is once you are shown chick got out of pocket, don't come here asking us what to do, just end things and KIM.

We're working on getting to know each other on a deep intimate level and determining if we're compatible to proceed to the next step (saying engagement feels so far off but that would be the logical next step).
We have a committed monogamous relationship. We both agreed to those terms.
I'm choosing to not step out on her, because I don't want to or need to.
There's no gun to my head, I'm not hostage. I simply have no interest in other women at the moment.
That may change in the future for either one of us. Then we'll deal with it.

 

[re'up]

We're working on getting to know each other on a deep intimate level and determining if we're compatible to proceed to the next step (saying engagement feels so far off but that would be the logical next step).
We have a committed monogamous relationship. We both agreed to those terms.
I'm choosing to not step out on her, because I don't want to or need to.
There's no gun to my head, I'm not hostage. I simply have no interest in other women at the moment.
That may change in the future for either one of us. Then we'll deal with it.

Read your post on social media, and I had same mindset, "DM police". I don't and never had social media, so non issue for me, but someone I was involved with was pretty heavy on it. She told me about people who hit her up, the same "you don't post your man", (I don't want to be posted, I don't even really like being in pics) and assumedly sometimes she didn't, which was fine with me. I think it's healthy approach, rather than turning social media into the third rail of your relationship.

had the same approach, but also, on some level, it was ok with me for her to have those outlets and connections, I just didn't want anything to do with it.

 

[Apollo Creed]

We're working on getting to know each other on a deep intimate level and determining if we're compatible to proceed to the next step (saying engagement feels so far off but that would be the logical next step).
We have a committed monogamous relationship. We both agreed to those terms.
I'm choosing to not step out on her, because I don't want to or need to.
There's no gun to my head, I'm not hostage. I simply have no interest in other women at the moment.
That may change in the future for either one of us. Then we'll deal with it.

this is why marriages are failing lmfao.

"deep intimacy" has nothing to do with going to a court house and signing a marriage license. Y'all already fukking it doesn't get more intimate than that.

Not trying to disss, just saying. Sounds like y'all wanna be roommates who have sex and the engagement stuff is just so she doesn't feel like a loser.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Read your post on social media, and I had same mindset, "DM police". I don't and never had social media, so non issue for me, but someone I was involved with was pretty heavy on it. She told me about people who hit her up, the same "you don't post your man", (I don't want to be posted, I don't even really like being in pics) and assumedly sometimes she didn't, which was fine with me. I think it's healthy approach, rather than turning social media into the third rail of your relationship.

had the same approach, but also, on some level, it was ok with me for her to have those outlets and connections, I just didn't want anything to do with it.

As a man you should never stress cause you can't control a woman she will do whatever she wants to do. Just always know that having social media and she aint making money from it = she is in the streets. This aint saying you gotta cheat, im just saying don't be stupid.

People can stay in touch via texting and phone calls, and seeing each other.

 

[re'up]

As a man you should never stress cause you can't control a woman she will do whatever she wants to do. Just always know that having social media and she aint making money from it = she is in the streets. This aint saying you gotta cheat, im just saying don't be stupid.

People can stay in touch via texting and phone calls, and seeing each other.

This was a former relationship, but yeah, that's not in my control, and I don't want it to be. I am fine with her maintaining those contacts and connections, I don't think monogamy in general is that important to me, but the more granular part, is 100% not, I don't want to be enforcing who texts or DM's. She doesn't have to ghost or not respond to anyone who isn't me, and is a man. But, I know a lot of people think all that is very important. Again, I'm a fairly immoral person.

 

[Apollo Creed]

This was a former relationship, but yeah, that's not in my control, and I don't want it to be. I am fine with her maintaining those contacts and connections, I don't think monogamy in general is that important to me, but the more granular part, is 100% not, I don't want to be enforcing who texts or DM's. She doesn't have to ghost or not respond to anyone who isn't me, and is a man. But, I know a lot of people think all that is very important. Again, I'm a fairly immoral person.

nah I get it, my ultimate stance is in 2023 these hoes gonna do what they want, as a man ultimately just be at peace with your self and do things because YOU want to do it. Even when it comes to cheating, cheat or don't cheat because YOU choose to take the stance and not taking a stance in efforts to make the woman react or behave in a manner you desire.

The issue is most dudes get in relationships and focus on pleasing a chick thus end up in a constant state of dread due to social media (wondering damn are nikkas getting at her? is she replying?).

 

[re'up]

@D'Lo Brown

"The issue is most dudes get in relationships and focus on pleasing a chick thus end up in a constant state of dread due to social media (wondering damn are nikkas getting at her? is she replying?)."

yeah, I think that's really really counter productive, and just a really paranoid way to live. You have to let go, accept the risk, and consequences and just embrace it, because things always change. Of all things, relationships are impermanent, and obsessing over things like that is just an attempt at control you will never and can never have, unless you are like an R. Kelly styled abuser.

Even sometimes I have passed women their phone, and turned it screen down, one time someone said "I have nothing to hide, you can look", and I was just like that's not my business who you text, or who texts you, it's your own private life.

 

[CP3.]

How do you know if a very shy girl either just wants to be fukked or wants something serious?

Talk with her about it. Communication is key.

 

[360dagod]

Some of us are looking for solid women to settle down with, but run in to incompatible women.

I recently started dating a woman, from outside she looks like the ideal woman, good career, own house, own car, church goer, no kids etc. Now I'm getting to know her she is very anxious, insecure about her weight, very sensitive & got emotional baggage from her last relationship.

She opened up, dude she used to date verbally abuse her & always put her down. She starting to project some of these things on to me. I have discussed this with her & will give her time to fix up or I might have to cut her off.

She is probably over 27 and is giving you problems women at her age range(and above) are gonna give...

If you date older or younger, you gonna have to pick your poison in what your willing to concede to make things work

 

[Ahadi]

Had a good date last night.

Met this girl at this lounge opening. Invited her over for wine, ordered some light bites, good convo, watched Abbot lol

32, black, killer track runner body.

Made out for like 10 mins after, which I was kinda surprised, even though it was a good time. Couldn’t read the situation, maybe there wasn’t anything for me to read, sometimes it’s good just to be in the moment.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Had a good date last night.

Met this girl at this lounge opening. Invited her over for wine, ordered some light bites, good convo, watched Abbot lol

32, black, killer track runner body.

Made out for like 10 mins after, which I was kinda surprised, even though it was a good time. Couldn’t read the situation, maybe there wasn’t anything for me to read, sometimes it’s good just to be in the moment.

Always best to go with the flow

 

[Digital Omen]

this is why marriages are failing lmfao.

"deep intimacy" has nothing to do with going to a court house and signing a marriage license. Y'all already fukking it doesn't get more intimate than that.

Not trying to disss, just saying. Sounds like y'all wanna be roommates who have sex and the engagement stuff is just so she doesn't feel like a loser.

Intimacy is more than sex
It's also trust, shared goals, and similar values
My previous marriage failed because we weren't on the same page and didn't share the same beliefs (she became born again Christian and I'm good on religion)
Hence we no longer had intimacy, because our core beliefs didn't align
I'm of the opinion that when I marry or intend to marry
I have to be able to trust her 100%. That's intimacy.