Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[John Reena]

shyt happens. Learn from it and move on.

Yup

 

[Ahadi]

There is more recently, last 10 years or so, what academics would call a "pathologizing" of mostly normal behaviors, which would include simple misunderstandings, the sometimes awkward human interactions of meeting someone new, things like that, are now: "oh that's gaslighting", "They left me on read", "they didn't text me back right away", "soft ghosting", people have classified behavior down to this extremely narrow level

and you tie that to the idea that you "cut" people off, "ghost" people", "block" people whatever term, (you see the link between those three terms?) people are often very, very quick to look for ways to cut off a connection

in their mind, they are trying to be productive, protecting themselves, efficient, whatever, but it leads to a lot of posturing, hyper vigilance, extremely conditional, about minor things.

Like the mirror story, or the "hey shorty" texts.

Yup. Not enough ppl willing to create solutions.

The person has to be perfect.

 

[Serious]

Lol...

It goes back to what I said...

The rigidity in here comes from the ego...

When a woman dosent do enough to soothe the ego or puts one in the position to possibly put it to the side, it's automatically game over...

A bytch takes a nap at 2pm and texts at 7, she's fukking someone and I'm gonna bush her

A bytch accepts my call, meanwhile the nikka she fukking is laying right next to her..

But as long as she answers and calms the ego, the day can continue...

Mental mindfukk

It’s just messy


I hate even having think like this but pretty sure I’ve been on both sides of this.

I know I’ve been the nikka she just finished fukking, laid up getting ready for round 2

 

[Serious]

At least you'll know she won't keep it. If she tells you and you don't see her (thinking with your dicc) as the future mother of your children, logically that would be a win, right?

Good point but if she was loose wit bums but if a solid shoots up the club, she’s on a different type of time.

 

[re'up]

People tend to be a little over zealous and paranoid about the whole thing, an unreturned text is instantly she's having porn star level sex with someone, when it could be just she's not feeling you at the moment, or texting someone else, or 8 drinks and 5 lines deep with a group of people.

I'm fine with a 24 hour window between partners, but most people find that distasteful, if we are strictly talking about moral and not hygeinc issues. And truthfully, if there's no commitment obligations, we are both well within our right to sleep with whoever.

 

[Serious]

LOL it aint even that, though I am sure its partially in the back of her head. i been told her about that shyt the first time she suggested living alone

thats why ima stick to my guns. you wanna discount the fact a nikka took you in and has basically been paying 90% of all the bills, while helping you learn English, find a job etc. be my guest. Enjoy being a strong, independent black woman

Truth is she doesnt have to live dolo. Shes basically nearing the end of her studies and is now essentially fluent in english , so if she really wanted to she could pack her bags and move back to FRA too. S'up to her at this point

Damn breh you doing all that

You know you offsides and over leveraged in that situation.

 

[Serious]

Yes sir you know your stuff

And she has cooked haitian a bit

And yes shes fine as shyt haha. A solid 9/10 but that isnt the reason i brought her through

Shes a great girl overall, love her to death. Just too disagreeable and anxious for me. She is way too sensitive and takes shyt too personally whereas i am somebody who is laid back and big picture oriented. Not going to deal with that shyt in my own home

I was smashing a Haitian chick like this.

Would argue and be insecure over the dumbest and petty shyt.

She was cooked and cleaned wit no hesitation.

She was mad clingy.

But ultimately I had enough of her craziness one day and promptly ended things.

 

[Serious]

It often gets to a point in relationships where you have to ask yourself, “if this girl left me…what would I really miss?”

A lot of the time there is no tangible answer to that question.

p*ssy? Home cooked meals?

Nothing compared to the value of one’s peace or freedom. Its simply not worth the stress if a girl not on your program

Yep that’s literally the point I came too.

If the only benefit I’m getting is sex then I’m out

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I can't believe it

 

[Serious]

Something so awkward happaned today

@Ohene @Serious

So I went to Starbucks to meet the chick.

Some other chick was there waiting for a guy and she thought j was her date and I thought I was hers. We talked for like five min and then she said the name Kevin I'm like that's not my name.

Because I was literally just talking to this chick for a day I just saw lightskin and she was lightskin and I thought it was her

Awkward as hell I left to find my date and she was like oops this is awkard

Then I met the other chick and she's like i saw you talking to some other girl and j was like yeah just ran into a old friend.

I thought the date went well at the end she gave me hug and said she had a nice time and we said bye.

By the time I get to my car and check hinge she unmatched me

The unmatched part
Cold blooded

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

wow smh

 

[Serious]

all these hoes get on the apps Thursday to set up them weekend tricking dates

You noticed that too

 

[Ahadi]

all these hoes get on the apps Thursday to set up them weekend tricking dates

Correct.

Thursdays are for them to find tricking dates. (The most active time online)
Friday - Saturday (You’re not gettin em, unless you’re the most attractive option or a trick.
Sundays are purely for attention.
Monday - Wednesday (they horny)

 

[Ohene]

I was smashing a Haitian chick like this.

Would argue and be insecure over the dumbest and petty shyt.

She was cooked and cleaned wit no hesitation.

She was mad clingy.

But ultimately I had enough of her craziness one day and promptly ended things.

sheesh lol. You pretty much described my girl. Maybe its in the DNA.

My girl left yesterday and got her own spot for a month. The week leading up to her leaving she was very humble and contrite so we will see how things go. If she's ready to come back with a better perspective on life/relationships I will give it a shot; otherwise we will both have to cut our losses.

And yea man, I been doing a lot. Doesn't necessarily amount to the fact she quit a good job and left everything behind to come to Canada but she needs to play her position and recognize what she has. As corny as it sounds...I know my worth.

 

[Ahadi]

This is key.. i touched on this earlier in the thread.

It is important when bagging chicks with a wingman that you have dudes who are as fly (if not more) and compliment your style (fashion wise, speaking wise....everything).

If you go out with a bunch of suss dudes it doesnt make you look like a star but instead, makes you look like a loser because you chillin with losers. Guilty by association cause we all know girls are attracted to status and clout. Thats why most people be renting booths and getting bottle service i guess. Nothing is worse than going out with friends who aint down to bag or just simply arent attractive enough/suave enough.

I’m not sure how I landed on this post lol.

But this is interesting. So.. do you think bottle service covers up flaws? I’m having a brain science moment



Or will you’re image still be tainted? Because of your “suss” friend group