Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[WIA20XX]

@Neo The Resurrected ONE

Honestly, you didn't ask for my input, but I don't see a problem with your mode of operating.

Maybe the married bros can chime in, but I have yet to experience any upside on adapting my behavior to hers.
To keep it comical, "you can't make a woman happy" (c) Patrice O'Neal.

To keep it real, believe me, I've tried this "open feelings" route. I have listened to the Oprah/Therapist Babble - and that only leads to more issues, of having to constantly explain myself, instead of solving problems.

That old, "when you did X, it made me feel Y" - like we was in some type of therapy session.

Believe me when I tell you, Women do not know what to do with a man's unguarded thoughts and feelings.

They react emotionally, creating bigger problems for you to solve.

Case in point. Dude at the gig was expecting a child with his wife. Wife lost the baby, and dude was feeling some type of way.
The women at the office gave him some comfort and support, but a week later, all that grace was done.
And then they started to treat him like he was weak. Low key laughing at him behind his back.

Is this an extreme case? Possibly.
Is it a real thing, most definitely.

Letting a chick in on how you make moves, explaining the game to her as it were, most of the time, does not help her accomplish anything. It only gives her ammunition to critique you after failure.

But I might be "toxic".

WIA

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

for real

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

doesn't matter how bad she is automatic bushes if she got kids

 

[re'up]

I study a lot of this myself, and here's a really roughly formed conclusion,

the "toxic" ways men inhabit, behave, whatever, are usually very closely aligned with traditional gender roles, so not only do women expect this from men, and see it coming, even factoring it into their interactions, they also recognize that behavior as normal and traditional, which fits with many people's world view, and how many people go through (to me, archaic) mating rituals.

Going outside of that, creates confusion. I generally have good, strong, relationships with women, I'm still friends with the first girl I slept with, first love, another first girl I went on an adult date with, we are all good, but I do hear from women that they find me hard to read, mainly because I operate outside the rules, as is just my way. I don't care about conventions, or rituals, or any of that shyt.

I'm not a simp and I'm not a "player" in the sense of lying to women, but I move fast and entertain anyone attractive that crosses my path, I've been known to toss YSL at someone just because I like them, or invite someone to NYC for a dinner.

 

[skyrunner1]

Emotionally unavailable. Walls up constantly. Always holding them at arm's length, never letting them truly get close to me in a meaningful way. They also tell me that they feel that they care more about me than I do about them. They feel that my words and actions don't align. I tell them I care, but they say that my actions show that I'm nonchalant and don't truly care. There was a lot more. I've had to take a long, hard look at myself within this past year. And I admit that I do have a problem. It's not them, it's me. I have some trauma in my past that I haven't healed from, and it affects my relationships with women.

But with that being said, as I said before, women are attracted to my foolery way more than they are attracted to me when I try to do better. It's weird.

If you were to believe the "mumbo jumbo" type people, this sounds like classically "avoidant attachment".. Also these people tend to draw a certain type of people and have issues in relationships "anxious types" they tend to be needy and demand more and more of your time.. Maybe it helps you with some blind spots or something..

 

[Guvnor]

Question y'all, me and my boy was debating this but what does it really mean when a woman says she is a bad texter in your experience?

Does it mean she has a man or is playing the field. That's what I told him but are there any other perspectives here.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

unbelievable

 

[360dagod]

I told my side joint about my future BM...

The hierarchy must be understood

 

[Rasille]

True or false?

 

[RealAssanova]

@Neo The Resurrected ONE

Honestly, you didn't ask for my input, but I don't see a problem with your mode of operating.

Maybe the married bros can chime in, but I have yet to experience any upside on adapting my behavior to hers.
To keep it comical, "you can't make a woman happy" (c) Patrice O'Neal.

To keep it real, believe me, I've tried this "open feelings" route. I have listened to the Oprah/Therapist Babble - and that only leads to more issues, of having to constantly explain myself, instead of solving problems.

That old, "when you did X, it made me feel Y" - like we was in some type of therapy session.

Believe me when I tell you, Women do not know what to do with a man's unguarded thoughts and feelings.

They react emotionally, creating bigger problems for you to solve.

Case in point. Dude at the gig was expecting a child with his wife. Wife lost the baby, and dude was feeling some type of way.
The women at the office gave him some comfort and support, but a week later, all that grace was done.
And then they started to treat him like he was weak. Low key laughing at him behind his back.

Is this an extreme case? Possibly.
Is it a real thing, most definitely.

Letting a chick in on how you make moves, explaining the game to her as it were, most of the time, does not help her accomplish anything. It only gives her ammunition to critique you after failure.

But I might be "toxic".

WIA

Women are not our ally. Men will quickly realize that the minute they start arguing with their woman, she disrespects or steps out on them (even though this is the biggest form of disrespect).

Experience has taught me never to explain myself to women/a woman. Even if i’m in the wrong. Deflect, deny, ignore or laugh and amplify.

The minute you do, subconsciously she will begin to look at you differently and not in a good way. Why must you explain yourself to a weaker species?

You’re a man. Stay firm in your decisions/choices. Only time situations require explanations are when the matter pertains to life and death, family and friendships with your homies imo. Outside of that

 

[skyrunner1]

True or false?

Sounds about right.. We had discussions on this in other words few page back.. Social media has made it race to bottom

 

[rabbid]

Question y'all, me and my boy was debating this but what does it really mean when a woman says she is a bad texter in your experience?

Does it mean she has a man or is playing the field. That's what I told him but are there any other perspectives here.

easy way to avoid accountability. to confirm this all you have to do is peep her social media. bet those captions and comments that she writes are always spell checked and right on time for her besties. if she isn't on social media then maybe its true, but most likely she's bad at answering her phone and holding a conversation as well. there's gotta be at least one form of communication she's good at when she's not around you.

 

[Rasille]

Question y'all, me and my boy was debating this but what does it really mean when a woman says she is a bad texter in your experience?

Does it mean she has a man or is playing the field. That's what I told him but are there any other perspectives here.

It can mean she might be one of those women that mainly uses her phone to make calls. She’s not on social media so she’s hardly ever on her phone like that so she misses notifications. These women are rare and usually are already locked down by some dude. So her bad texting is a non issue since she’s only texting her husband anyway.

If she has social media and she seems active on there then she’s letting you know that you’re not a priority, so if she doesn’t respond back to you until 3 days later she has an excuse “she’s a bad texter”.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

@Neo The Resurrected ONE wanted to say I appreciate you for explaining further on my earlier post and even being vulnerable to admit your current behavior was based on traumatic upbringing.

I’ve started to reflect on how watching the women in my life have impacted my relationships with women as a whole, My mother is getting older and my sisters all have families made things obvious to me, and I’m ready to accept to type of Man I was destined to be

 

[The ADD]

True or false?

Makes sense on a lot of levels