VertigoKnight
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Your work relationship or you going out? if you dont mind me asking how old are you?
And where did you change the venue to? The cinema or somewhere you too can actually talk?
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Your work relationship or you going out? if you dont mind me asking how old are you?
And where did you change the venue to? The cinema or somewhere you too can actually talk?
Salute.
If it works out it works out. If I didn't like her I wouldn't have asked her out
We're going out. We're going to restaurant I remembered her mentioning in the past.
VertigoKnight
Veteran
OK a much better choice than the cinema.
Now you planning on splitting that bill or paying it all?
Just focus on having a good time it might be performance anxiety since it’s natural to want impress someone new. Focus on her and her body and make her feel good. You’ll be straight. Once you get past that anxiety you’ll be good. But def cut the smoking.
NotThatGuy
Rookie
Is there anyone actually successful at cold approaching? i’ve approached like 6 girls the past 2 weeks and none have even progressed further than 1-2 texts, i just get left on read. Meanwhile i get numerous girls dming me on insta that are much better looking. getting 3-4 likes a day on hinge.
i would be getting 0 p*ssy if it weren’t for online. but i just don’t understand why??? why are so many girls interested in me online and none in real life??
i would be getting 0 p*ssy if it weren’t for online. but i just don’t understand why??? why are so many girls interested in me online and none in real life??
The game has shifted. fukk a cold approach. And this coming from someone who lived off that. But online dating has changed the game. I only do cold approach now if the chick is just that bad
You have to drill down the %’s with cold approach:
Out of 50, let’s say 20 give the number.
Of that 20, let’s say 12 will ever reply.
(Women are scared to say no, and don’t want guys to be like ‘I’m calling right now’, so women WILL give you their real number even if they’re not interested)
Of the 12 that reply, let’s say 8 won’t flake and will be down for a date
Of what 8, 5 of ‘em the date goes well
Of that 5, 3 will progress to smashing.
That’s 3 out of 50
and you started with 2 out of every 5 chicks giving you the # which honestly may be too high. ….and it still only leads to 3 out of 50 smash rate
If you're just randomly hollering at broads throughout your day, you're playing the game on hard mode. And you're playing hard mode without the benefit of the training sessions. And on top of that, you're trying to get #'s and @'s - that only makes it worse.
And the most crucial thing - if a chick is under 30 - she's in this new generation - and she's more used to talking to dudes online, at a distance, where she feels safe, and she can reverse image search at her leisure. She doesn't know how to talk offline approaches, nor does she know how to deal.
That said....
What you're doing, without adding all type of Jedi Mind Tricks to it, is gonna be talking to dozens of broads to see if they feeling you in the streets, and later on in the tweets, which is a while before you hit the sheets.
To me, the "stop and spit" at some chick at the laundromat/grocery store/stop n rob - is the hardest of the main types of game.
Ranking from easy to hard - with the goal of trying to get these broads in the sheets on a man's time table, not a woman's.
- Chicks you already kinda know/friends of friends
- Club/Bar Game
- Online Game
- Out and About type game. (What you're doing)
She gotta be in the mood to get hollered at (or you gotta put her in the mood)
She gotta like your look. (and your look gotta be on point, 24/7, cause you never know when you'll see some hoes)
She gotta feel your words
but also
She got some place to be. So at best you got 5-15 minutes to run your trap, and chances are she's over it in the first 30 seconds.
And
If you get the contact info and then you hit her up
- She gotta be in the mood to interact
- She gotta remember you = who is this on my phone?
- She's looking at your message/phone call and games/IG/LSA what have you
- She gotta remember show she felt around you/about you
- She can't have nothing going on in the near future
- You gotta have a mean pen game/facetime
This is The Coli - some brehs do have it like that. They bump into a Chloe Bailey, flex on em, get the digits, and she's waiting by the phone, ready to drop off Lil Tay Tay at Big Mama's house so she can get her back blown out. They don't know your struggle, they can't relate. And most of the time, they can't help you on nitty gritty details.
I suggest you save the extra-curricular style until your game comes up.
If you want to learn cold approach - Bars and Clubs.
Hella hoes in one space, they tipsy, they dancing, and they will be going to bed that night - will they be going with you?
This gives you a chance to practice your raps at a rapid pace, get a few lay ups. As your skills and confidence increases, then you can start back with the Tonya's at Target.
it's contextual. I would never even refer to it as cold approach, makes it sound too cold, and salesy. If you are both at the bar, open up a convo, but yelling at strangers, or approaching people like a local news anchor doing a fluff piece, just isn't going to work most of the time, too many variables. Control the variables.
Sitting next to someone
In a line together
At a bar together
basically, a mutually shared space, if I go out alone, to have dinner somewhere, if I am motivated enough, I can usually find someone who wants to talk, I don't always even want to talk myself, but there's people looking. Usually two women out together. and have a plan/intention, why you want the number.
Have a friend who collects numbers, and all he ever does is call them when he's drunk at 3:00 AM, guess what his success rate with that is?
Sitting next to someone
In a line together
At a bar together
basically, a mutually shared space, if I go out alone, to have dinner somewhere, if I am motivated enough, I can usually find someone who wants to talk, I don't always even want to talk myself, but there's people looking. Usually two women out together. and have a plan/intention, why you want the number.
Have a friend who collects numbers, and all he ever does is call them when he's drunk at 3:00 AM, guess what his success rate with that is?
Fixed for me...‘My love language is...’
RaspberryFitted
Boyz In Motion Member
numbers game. Sport statistics are a great representation of how I approach dating. Steph Curry isn’t making every three he’s attempting.. Acuna isn’t homing every ball pitched to him… but all it takes is one to change da gameThe game has shifted. fukk a cold approach. And this coming from someone who lived off that. But online dating has changed the game. I only do cold approach now if the chick is just that bad
You have to drill down the %’s with cold approach:
Out of 50, let’s say 20 give the number.
Of that 20, let’s say 12 will ever reply.
(Women are scared to say no, and don’t want guys to be like ‘I’m calling right now’, so women WILL give you their real number even if they’re not interested)
Of the 12 that reply, let’s say 8 won’t flake and will be down for a date
Of what 8, 5 of ‘em the date goes well
Of that 5, 3 will progress to smashing.
That’s 3 out of 50
also have to keep in mind that likes and IG dm’s (generally speaking) are worthless if they don’t translate to irl… maybe, irl is giving you a real representation of how you’re perceived romantically/sexually.
The 5 Love Languages is so insidious, and became so ubiquitous around 2020 (by my estimate) I started hearing about it everywhere, from every woman I knew. People are saying "My love language" like it's a real thing.
The thing with Gary Chapman and the 5 Love Languages, it's just some concept he made up like 40 years ago, these people are talking like it's accepted universal science. It was made to sell books. It's like Women Are From Mars. I am sure there is some real info in all those books, but it's mostly just self help with a gendered nonsense to SELL BOOKS. You see in it whatever you want to see. Like a lot of self help books.
The dude is not a especially acclaimed academic, I don't even think he was a professor at some decent college. He was just some guy. Worse, he's a talk show radio host! He wasn't someone who studies biochemistry, or the human response to stimulus, and wrote some paper with research backed hypothesis. It's just some concept he came up with, again in like 1986. Not even knocking the hustle, I would do some shyt like that too. But, to just believe it wholesale, because it's on social media (which is where this all came from) is ludicrous.
edit: he's also an evangelical Christian, which was what 5 Love Languages was originally marketed, and as a PHD in "adult education"
The thing with Gary Chapman and the 5 Love Languages, it's just some concept he made up like 40 years ago, these people are talking like it's accepted universal science. It was made to sell books. It's like Women Are From Mars. I am sure there is some real info in all those books, but it's mostly just self help with a gendered nonsense to SELL BOOKS. You see in it whatever you want to see. Like a lot of self help books.
The dude is not a especially acclaimed academic, I don't even think he was a professor at some decent college. He was just some guy. Worse, he's a talk show radio host! He wasn't someone who studies biochemistry, or the human response to stimulus, and wrote some paper with research backed hypothesis. It's just some concept he came up with, again in like 1986. Not even knocking the hustle, I would do some shyt like that too. But, to just believe it wholesale, because it's on social media (which is where this all came from) is ludicrous.
edit: he's also an evangelical Christian, which was what 5 Love Languages was originally marketed, and as a PHD in "adult education"
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