Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Astroslik

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why do men do this to themselves?

youre putting your fate in her hands. its nothing for her to get off BC without telling you
Some dudes cant be saved. We’re watering down the thread by continuing to talk sense into him. Its clear dude doesnt have options that’s why he’s making these decisions
 

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Some dudes cant be saved. We’re watering down the thread by continuing to talk sense into him. Its clear dude doesnt have options that’s why he’s making these decisions
facts. my brother is similar. dating a single mom with three children (while he has 0)

some men just dont have the confidence, options (or in other cases their own life together) to pursue the right kinda women for themselves
 
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Y’all peep the text I got this girl I’ve been talking to for 3months. She lives in another city. 5 hours drive away. I think I played myself but she was so dope I entertained it. I knew she couldn’t do long distance but it felt so good.


With that being said, I feel like I'm really really getting carried away. My intention for you, for us - is to be friends. And that's what I've been really scared to say because I don't want to lose what we have. I feel like I've really pushed and ignored my own boundaries, willingly obviously, because I feel so much for you and I care about you and want you to feel all that coming from me. But this kind of display of affection is confusing I think, because it really doesn't reflect my intention. And it messes with me because I mean everything I say to you, but it's definitely not friend-like. In my head - you and I are married with our ball team full of kids... Just kidding, but we are in very much what feels like a long-distance relationship. Which you know is something I said I would not be able to entertain. But here I am feeling all these feelings and unable to control my emotions or my display of them to you. I'm also not trying to think for you, so I would love to know how this impacts you as well.

I know you can feel what I feel for you. It's stupidly undeniable, I don't want to lose you, but I'd also like to honour myself and my truth and be super transparent with you about what I want. I want to try to be friends with you as hard as that may be (for me at least). I think we can still add a lot of value to each other's lives in any capacity.


Told her I can’t do that and pretend to be just friends but she makes it so hard. She gives me everything. She’s interested in me, gets to know me, what I like, she initiates all the time. We’ve been romantically involved and she did tell me the distance was hard for her. I’m just confused af because even now she doesn’t wanna let me go. I ain’t a friendzone niccur though.
 

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Don't want to say too much but this chick I've been dating for over a year now. I always felt like something was missing or like she wasn't the one. She has some good qualities, even got me a new iPhone but the sex part of things is not consistent due to work stress she says. With that said we argue a lot but for her birthday she wanted to take a trip out the country and invited me. I couldn't refuse cause I needed a get a way. A cycle we have is where we would disagree, argue and then she would just give me the silent treatment after.

With that said, should have known better. It was originally gonna be a couples trip but her friends couldn't make it due to an issue with spirit airlines and their pre flight paperwork not being filled out but spirit didn't inform them about it. To make matters worse there has been black outs the first two nights we've been here. All signs to me but aside from that me and her haven't been well and being on trip makes me feel stuck with her instead of a vacation.
A clear-as-day red flag from the other side of the globe :hhh: :scust:
 

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Y’all peep the text I got this girl I’ve been talking to for 3months. She lives in another city. 5 hours drive away. I think I played myself but she was so dope I entertained it. I knew she couldn’t do long distance but it felt so good.


With that being said, I feel like I'm really really getting carried away. My intention for you, for us - is to be friends. And that's what I've been really scared to say because I don't want to lose what we have. I feel like I've really pushed and ignored my own boundaries, willingly obviously, because I feel so much for you and I care about you and want you to feel all that coming from me. But this kind of display of affection is confusing I think, because it really doesn't reflect my intention. And it messes with me because I mean everything I say to you, but it's definitely not friend-like. In my head - you and I are married with our ball team full of kids... Just kidding, but we are in very much what feels like a long-distance relationship. Which you know is something I said I would not be able to entertain. But here I am feeling all these feelings and unable to control my emotions or my display of them to you. I'm also not trying to think for you, so I would love to know how this impacts you as well.

I know you can feel what I feel for you. It's stupidly undeniable, I don't want to lose you, but I'd also like to honour myself and my truth and be super transparent with you about what I want. I want to try to be friends with you as hard as that may be (for me at least). I think we can still add a lot of value to each other's lives in any capacity.

Told her I can’t do that and pretend to be just friends but she makes it so hard. She gives me everything. She’s interested in me, gets to know me, what I like, she initiates all the time. We’ve been romantically involved and she did tell me the distance was hard for her. I’m just confused af because even now she doesn’t wanna let me go. I ain’t a friendzone niccur though.

Life is short. You need a woman whom knows what she wants and is decisive
 

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Y’all peep the text I got this girl I’ve been talking to for 3months. She lives in another city. 5 hours drive away. I think I played myself but she was so dope I entertained it. I knew she couldn’t do long distance but it felt so good.


With that being said, I feel like I'm really really getting carried away. My intention for you, for us - is to be friends. And that's what I've been really scared to say because I don't want to lose what we have. I feel like I've really pushed and ignored my own boundaries, willingly obviously, because I feel so much for you and I care about you and want you to feel all that coming from me. But this kind of display of affection is confusing I think, because it really doesn't reflect my intention. And it messes with me because I mean everything I say to you, but it's definitely not friend-like. In my head - you and I are married with our ball team full of kids... Just kidding, but we are in very much what feels like a long-distance relationship. Which you know is something I said I would not be able to entertain. But here I am feeling all these feelings and unable to control my emotions or my display of them to you. I'm also not trying to think for you, so I would love to know how this impacts you as well.

I know you can feel what I feel for you. It's stupidly undeniable, I don't want to lose you, but I'd also like to honour myself and my truth and be super transparent with you about what I want. I want to try to be friends with you as hard as that may be (for me at least). I think we can still add a lot of value to each other's lives in any capacity.

Told her I can’t do that and pretend to be just friends but she makes it so hard. She gives me everything. She’s interested in me, gets to know me, what I like, she initiates all the time. We’ve been romantically involved and she did tell me the distance was hard for her. I’m just confused af because even now she doesn’t wanna let me go. I ain’t a friendzone niccur though.
Hard Truth:

Building a relationship from scratch long distance has a high probability for failure. It’s not worth.
 

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A clear-as-day red flag from the other side of the globe :hhh: :scust:
Yeah, the trip was expensive so that was the only way they could make it happem but Spirit didn't warn them about the necessary pre flight paperwork so they were turned away. I find that silly because most places give you paperwork on the actual flight and things like that.
 

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Yeah, the trip was expensive so that was the only way they could make it happem but Spirit didn't warn them about the necessary pre flight paperwork so they were turned away. I find that silly because most places give you paperwork on the actual flight and things like that.

If she is indecisive, or doesn’t know, it’s a always a no.
 

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Y’all peep the text I got this girl I’ve been talking to for 3months. She lives in another city. 5 hours drive away. I think I played myself but she was so dope I entertained it. I knew she couldn’t do long distance but it felt so good.


With that being said, I feel like I'm really really getting carried away. My intention for you, for us - is to be friends. And that's what I've been really scared to say because I don't want to lose what we have. I feel like I've really pushed and ignored my own boundaries, willingly obviously, because I feel so much for you and I care about you and want you to feel all that coming from me. But this kind of display of affection is confusing I think, because it really doesn't reflect my intention. And it messes with me because I mean everything I say to you, but it's definitely not friend-like. In my head - you and I are married with our ball team full of kids... Just kidding, but we are in very much what feels like a long-distance relationship. Which you know is something I said I would not be able to entertain. But here I am feeling all these feelings and unable to control my emotions or my display of them to you. I'm also not trying to think for you, so I would love to know how this impacts you as well.

I know you can feel what I feel for you. It's stupidly undeniable, I don't want to lose you, but I'd also like to honour myself and my truth and be super transparent with you about what I want. I want to try to be friends with you as hard as that may be (for me at least). I think we can still add a lot of value to each other's lives in any capacity.

Told her I can’t do that and pretend to be just friends but she makes it so hard. She gives me everything. She’s interested in me, gets to know me, what I like, she initiates all the time. We’ve been romantically involved and she did tell me the distance was hard for her. I’m just confused af because even now she doesn’t wanna let me go. I ain’t a friendzone niccur though.

Damn, very similar to one of my friends. its in reverse though.

Guy she met in NY a few months back, they got together and hit it off. In her mind it's a holiday fling that got a little deeper. She gets back, they carry on chatting but he keeps trying to push this long distance thing, she's not up for that.

December arrives and he has some holiday to take and so he suggests he comes to Vancouver. First time he'd ever left the US.

I've met the guy twice, his cool. But things are intense with them, they obviously pick up where they left off. And after a few days he starts pushing hard for that long distance relationship again. As he feels their lovey dovey.

She shuts it all the way down and tells him she likes him deeply but a long distance anything is not what she is looking for. His obviously upset. His flown over here for 2 weeks, and was hoping to close the deal.

But she's right, she's in Vancouver and his in New Jersey. How is that good for either of them? She told me she loves him but is not in love with him.

That's not the first time I've heard that phrase this year from women talking about guys they're seeing. When you're in love with somebody that's when you make the wildest decisions.
 
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