Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Tbh It's impossible.

A woman is not going to give you her mind and body and not catch feelings at some point. Unless the woman is a paid whore, who you're paying to come and go. What have you told this woman you want with her? Something casual?

I'd say you usually get 4 minimum and at a stretch 6 months max before a woman you're consistently having sex with wants to know what's happening with ya'll.

That or she'll come to her own conclusions on your behavior towards her and step away herself and slowly ghost. Or she'll come back for a while but then realize this is actually going nowhere and back all the way up for good.

The fact she's 'thinking' means she probably doesn't feel good about you and her current arrangement and doesn't want those feelings.

A female friend of mine had a similar situation with a guy she'd been seeing for a couple of months. He'd come over they'd cook, smoke up and fukk, rinse and repeat.

One day he was over and they were having sex and she said mid way through her mind wandered what I'm I doing? She said the sex was fine just mentally it was no longer fun for her.

So she told him she liked him but didn't see a future for them together and that sex for sex sake was not going to work for her.

It's why I like to lay it out for a woman. I want to see her and grow with her, but if at any point this doesn't work for her, or she feels she wants a traditional relationship I'm going to genuinely wish her the best.

Just makes your life so much easier.

If a man is paying attention he can notice when that shift starts to happen where she wants more from the situation. If the situation has just been what you described, she’ll start dropping subtle hints or make comments like “we got invited to a couples dinner or my friend asked how my boyfriend was doing, I told her you were doing great” to gauge how you respond to those key words (couple, boyfriend) in those statements. Guys make it complicated like they ain’t see it coming when she decides to walk but women show their hand before they make a decision ESPECIALLY if they are invested in the situation. Listening and watching behavior is key.

That’s why if all a man wants is a casual relationship he shouldn’t do relationship things, calling and texting every day, going out to eat/laying up at the crib watching movies, eating and fukking all weekend every weekend, long pillow talking after sex. It should be a once or twice a week sexual relations with no communication besides linking up kinda transactional type of vibe.

Anyway, I’ve learned in relationships/situationships to always leave them before they leave me. Seems to catch them off guard.

 

[WIA20XX]

Working on the manual today.

So 2 scenarios.

Scenario 1
You're at a black club. The DJ is starting his booty shake set. DJ Jimi, Juvenile, Luke, Cardi/NIcki, whatever these kids is listening to these days.

You're posted up around the dance floor, vibing, 2 stepping, not really dancing though. Then random shorty backs it up on you.

Scenario 2
You're at a mixed club, DJ throws on Mix A Lot (or sometimes Juvie?) - SAWG/Sorority Chick/Smiley tries to throw "it" back.

In my experience these two situations look similar, but are usually very different.

Do you agree?

 

[360dagod]

If a man is paying attention he can notice when that shift starts to happen where she wants more from the situation. If the situation has just been what you described, she’ll start dropping subtle hints or make comments like “we got invited to a couples dinner or my friend asked how my boyfriend was doing, I told her you were doing great” to gauge how you respond to those key words (couple, boyfriend) in those statements. Guys make it complicated like they ain’t see it coming when she decides to walk but women show their hand before they make a decision ESPECIALLY if they are invested in the situation. Listening and watching behavior is key.

That’s why if all a man wants is a casual relationship he shouldn’t do relationship things, calling and texting every day, going out to eat/laying up at the crib watching movies, eating and fukking all weekend every weekend, long pillow talking after sex. It should be a once or twice a week sexual relations with no communication besides linking up kinda transactional type of vibe.

Anyway, I’ve learned in relationships/situationships to always leave them before they leave me. Seems to catch them off guard.

Yeah the signs definitely be there..

Once a woman begins to "bombard" your space, you gotta make a decision QUICKLY and begin to adjust if necessary...

Woman will throw a tsunami of p*ssy your way in hopes of securing as much of your time as possible...

 

[Apollo Creed]

Tbh It's impossible.

A woman is not going to give you her mind and body and not catch feelings at some point. Unless the woman is a paid whore, who you're paying to come and go. What have you told this woman you want with her? Something casual?

I'd say you usually get 4 minimum and at a stretch 6 months max before a woman you're consistently having sex with wants to know what's happening with ya'll.

That or she'll come to her own conclusions on your behavior towards her and step away herself and slowly ghost. Or she'll come back for a while but then realize this is actually going nowhere and back all the way up for good.

The fact she's 'thinking' means she probably doesn't feel good about you and her current arrangement and doesn't want those feelings.

A female friend of mine had a similar situation with a guy she'd been seeing for a couple of months. He'd come over they'd cook, smoke up and fukk, rinse and repeat.

One day he was over and they were having sex and she said mid way through her mind wandered what I'm I doing? She said the sex was fine just mentally it was no longer fun for her.

So she told him she liked him but didn't see a future for them together and that sex for sex sake was not going to work for her.

It's why I like to lay it out for a woman. I want to see her and grow with her, but if at any point this doesn't work for her, or she feels she wants a traditional relationship I'm going to genuinely wish her the best.

Just makes your life so much easier.

exactly lmfao nikkas gonna either have to start tricking if they want know strings attached or be prepared to be cycling women periodically.

No matter what a woman says THEY ARE NOT THE SAME AS US, STOP LISTENING TO THEIR BULLshyt.

The only exception to the rule is you find an old chick who is going to trick on you lmfao.

Only no strings attach sex you will ever have will be tricking off or ONS, but all that Roster shyt = eternal cycle of juggling emotions until you inevitably have to replace someone.

 

[Brandsdale]

vs

show me the youtube pages where a bad bytch is dating a fat nikka

 

[BandOfGypsys]

Sounds like borderline personality disorder. She's confusing you, but isn't confused herself, is she?

BPD... I always chalked up alot of her shyt to both her lack of experience and my lack of experience but looking at this more it looks like it could be. I'm not sure tho, think I may get the last of my things from her house fukk her one more time then break up with her?

 

[Brandsdale]

looks like some bullshyt tbh

 

[DropTopDoc]

sounds like some BS

Why is that

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Why is that

some of those will get an automatic 10 to not sound bad.. nobody will say 2 for Peace or 4 for Respect For Partner lmao.

compatibility overall can seen in real-time, privacy can be seen by her SM activity & circle, and depending on her religion.. Spirituality will be apparent.

For Intimacy/Sex, it’ll be best to see it rather than ask about it & Purpose Fulfillment can be a simple “Where Do You See Yourself In Five Years?”

 

[DropTopDoc]

some of those will get an automatic 10 to not sound bad.. nobody will say 2 for Peace or 4 for Respect For Partner lmao.

compatibility overall can seen in real-time, privacy can be seen by her SM activity & circle, and depending on her religion.. Spirituality will be apparent.

For Intimacy/Sex, it’ll be best to see it rather than ask about it & Purpose Fulfillment can be a simple “Where Do You See Yourself In Five Years?”

These are all things you can ask to gauge where they land before you get too deep, obviously things can be subject to change based case by case, but if she has a low sex drive and you have a high one you have to ask some questions to see if some concessions can be made on both ends rather than find out later you want to be fukked 2-3x a week and she wants it 1-2x every two weeks

 

[Brandsdale]

Why is that

cause people lie especially in the dating stages of getting to know someone. Dating a lot of times (at least from a mans perspective) can be someone **trying** to get the opposite sex to like you instead of it being a harmonious union. Asking someone to rank importance in their life on topics like these, especially sex/intimacy, is gonna cause people to lie in order to intrigue the person they want.

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for example, spirituality

This is VERY easy to lie about cause your vocation to your religion or belief system is heavily based on actions and how you stay true to it. If I met a chic thats muslim but im not and she asked how i rank spirituality, i might say 10 so that I intrigue her and get on her good side.









And I doubt any of yall nikkas gonna tell a shorty you only rate sex/intimacy a 2

 

[360dagod]

looks like some bullshyt tbh

Yeah..the less pressure, the easier the answers flow out

 

[Brandsdale]

Yeah..the less pressure, the easier the answers flow out

dating isnt suppose to mimick corporate america


cozy as hell to be single during these stupid times

 

[RaspberryFitted]

These are all things you can ask to gauge where they land before you get too deep, obviously things can be subject to change based case by case, but if she has a low sex drive and you have a high one you have to ask some questions to see if some concessions can be made on both ends rather than find out later you want to fukk 2-3x a week and she wants it 1-2x every two weeks

again, the bold is something that realistically is seen through actions. A women can tell YOU she only wants to fukk YOU 2-3x a week, but the other man every hour.

I understand screening through a potential spouse, but this method of pre-made prompts got folks sounding like robots.

 

[Rich Spirit]

Man I need a chick I can just fukk consistently without them catching feelings or wanting something serious from me.

chick I been seeing on/off for a while, ended up on the convo about the situation and long term etc.

She like she need to think…Which is fine but I was planning to have some fun again with her after a long break

Ha good luck with that. Its rare to find a women who you can fukk consistently without them catching some sort of feelings.

I was fukking with this chick for a year before she ended things because it wasn't going nowhere and I didn't want to date her